Feeling lost

[Amd_123-432]

Hi there

I feel completely and utterly lost 

The last couple of years have been jobs upon jobs and I can't seem to make anything stick and all my life I have been told that I'm stupid or not good enough so that keeps going through my head and I wonder if the issue is actually me any advice would help 

Thanks 

[tranzcrybe]

Hi Amd,

Jobs are usually a means to an end - pays the bills, but they don't define us.

However, if you can identify your passion in life (something you can spend many hours at), then finding (or creating) a job around this will give you direction and purpose.

This can take a while though, so any job is a good job in the meantime; particularly if it adds skills to what you wish to pursue in future.

[Richju]

Dear Amd,

I'm so sorry to hear that you've been listening to people who tell you you're stupid and not good enough. People who lack confidence will believe that this is a correct portrayal of themselves.

What has happened to you Amd that has caused you to believe such lies about yourself?

Several years ago I experienced workplace bullying. My boss at the time would find fault with everything I did. She'd tell me I was lazy and put me down in staff meetings. I nearly had a breakdown. I was threatened with the sack and asked to take leave. My boss took my job when I was away and realised how busy I was and how the customers rated my good work.

I believe that when we feel inadequate, others can pick up on it and they can feel powerful by putting us down.

You have been courageous enough to post on the forum so I wonder if you could take the next step and seek counselling to control your negative thoughts?

I'm sure, Amd, that you are a highly capable person and you just need to believe in yourself.

Please continue to post. We are here to listen, encourage and support.

Big hugs,

Richju xxxxx

[Amd_123-432]

Thank you, I just feel like I'm drifting through life and have no purpose 

[Amd_123-432]

When I was a kid, I witnessed a traumatic event and then abused by my mum who blamed me for the event even though he was the adult and not supposed to do that, other people took me in after I got bashed by 5 girls but then they got sick of me and kicked me out and the guy said I was too stupid to teach because I struggled with maths and still do and eventually everyone leaves or tells me that I'm stupid and I have no clue what I actually want to do in life because the last couple of jobs haven't worked out 

[gloria10]

Hi,

I'm sorry you're struggling with work, but I want to let you know it can get better.

Due to anxiety and ptsd with work I've been job hopping due to fear and it isn't fun.

What I've found helpful is looking at what I really want in wor, whether it's a change in career, study, less hours. There are counsellors that help with this too.

For me I realised part time was better suited, although the anxiety is still there, it does get better though.

I believe there is a right fit for everyone it just takes time.

I get negative comments too like sticking to simple jobs and I found that a bit hurtful. I have, however, pushed through and I know you can too.

Is there something you're passionate about?

[Amd_123-432]

I'm not even sure what my passions are 

[gloria10]

It takes time to find these things. I hope you find something that works for you.