Young and lost .....

hFg
Community Member

Hi, So i've been feeling some sort of way for a while now, as i've been realising things about myself that I didn't know before. One thing i realised is that i never make an effort in any relationship I have with anyone and i find myself expecting a lot from them and not contributing anything myself. I realised this as i've lost contact with so many of close friends i've had over the years. Also, there's this boy and I've liked him for a long time and i find myself getting angry at him all the time for not talking to me or making a move, as i feel like we have some special bond and i think he feels it too, but i'm to scared to make the first move.I also feel really lonely at school , like I have my group of friends and everything but i feel like i haven't meet that one person that i can be deep with and share a special bond with, at lunch time i feel dull when my friends are talking about things i don't feel the energy to contribute or even want to. When I ask myself when was i truly happy in my life, i think back to primary school, I was young confident smart and always curious about the world, I loved going to school, I created a club at school for k-2 to come and do activities and i also run the math club helping kids in my class struggling with math. I was also excited for what life had to bring and now that i'm about to go into year 12 i'm feeling lost then ever. I want to get a job this holidays to gain confidence, as I lack confidence. I have been burnt so many times in my life.. being young and confident a lot people didn't like me as i would speak my mind to the "popular kids" in year seven and i had a group of fake backstabbing friends so i didn't start my high school experience well. I feel like my past experience has contributed to the way i'm feeling now. When I was younger, i used to tell my brother that i could have 100 jobs at once and he used to laugh at me, I used to think that I could take over the world and now I can't even take over my exams. I'm not a dumb, I do well in exams but not as well as I need to or what my parents expect from me. My brother who is only 1 year younger then me, goes to a selective school and gets the better grades and that puts me down. I also struggle with my weight, i'm overweight now than I used to be. I used to do soccer (outdoor&indoor), swimming and netball so every day I had an activity to do, i was very active and eating healthy and fit but after i started getting sad i used food to make me happy:( idk

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Guest_3072
Community Member

Hi there and thanks for sharing your current experiences on these forums with us!

It sounds like you're going through a lot of stress at the moment and especially being about to enter your last year of high school. To be honest with you, what you described sounds a lot like how I was when I was your age.

With your brother being more academically inclined than you, it's just something that you have to accept. It doesn't make you any less of a person or less valuable, some people just excel in different areas of their life than others.

With your weight struggles, just take things slowly. You sound like you know what's healthy for you, being active in sports before and everything. Maybe just try switching to healthier snacks like nuts and fruit and maybe try to get outdoors and do something active everyday to help get your mojo back.

With you not really connecting with others socially, that's totally normal, especially in high school. Well, that's me speaking from my experience only. One thing that you need to remember is that after high school, there are so much opportunities and the world is much more bigger than the little bubble of high school. It's normal to grow and change, both with our priorities and with who we are as people and as these changes happen, sometimes what we want in relationships and friendships doesn't meet the bar in terms of social satisfaction.

Just have the confidence to know that you will meet people who are more on your level and on a similar wavelength as you and remember that you are not obliged to do anything that you don't want to do. I would encourage you to still be nice and civil with people, as you never know when these people might come back into your life or cross paths with you again but just take it easy and work on being happy with yourself because when you are happy with yourself and who you are, that's what makes you magnetic and you will draw people into your life who like you for being you.

Hope I've helped you in some way

Gabby xx

hFg
Community Member
Thank you for your reply ! I've just found myself becoming anxious at everything and i don't know how to stop being anxious.