Was wondering if anyone could give me some tips on what to do with my situation

[324b21]

for a long time now I have been struggling with life, I have been having a hard time in school with work and people , I have a lot of family issues to deal with, feeling down ( most of the time for no reason) and I miss my best friend who moved houses and schools. I really don't know what to do because I have problems talking to literally anyone face to face, I feel that I may say something wrong or they may not care or understand

[white knight]

Hi 32, welcome

Im not in your age group. I hope someone around your age responds.

In the meantime google this thread for some hints

Topic: worry worry worry- beyondblue

TonyWK

[BballJ]

Hi 324b21,

Firstly, welcome to the forums. Sorry to read what you are going through but well done for reaching out on here for help, it takes a lot of courage to ask for any sort of help so be proud for doing that.

I know you are struggling at the moment and speaking face to face is hard but it is during these times when you almost need to speak to someone weather it is a school counsellor, a doctor, your parents, anyone you trust just to let them know how you are feeling. One thing that has been suggested on these forums before is writing down exactly how you are feeling and then giving it as a note to one of those people listed above so they can understand what you are going through, this is a good way to avoid initially speaking about how you are feeling. People do care and I am sure they will just want to see you happy.

Please also know you can call the Beyond Blue helpline on 1300 22 4636 24/7 to discuss anything you are feeling, they are trained professionals as well.

Please, feel free to post back as much as you like, we are always happy to talk and help where we can.

My best for you,

Jay

[geoff]

hello, there is an enormous difference talking to someone online compared to face to face because when this happens you have to look at the person and if your confidence is or don't have the necessary experience it makes become pretty awful.
To reply online like I have for years it becomes second nature, but to start your own first thread that takes a hell of a lot of courage, because how many times have you typed out a comment then edited it to finally deleting it, but then upset you didn't press send.
I can understand how this does happen because when you are on the firing line from any family member, school teacher/s and anyone else it's going to push you into a corner and hide.
If you do go and see your doctor write down what is troubling you so the conversation will only be brief enough for them to know what's wrong, but before you go through this, please google the K-10 test, it will give you a score of indicating to what degree your depression is, but please do it a few times at different stages of the day.
It would be interesting for you to know, but if you're still frightened of going to your GP then let's talk some more on this site, and you are not alone by any means. Geoff.

[romantic_thi3f]

Hi 324b21,

Welcome to the forums!

Sounds like there's a lot on your shoulders here with work, family and your best friend moving away. I'm sorry that you're feeling this way but also glad that you reached out to us.

I know it can be hard reaching out to people; not knowing what will happen and maybe even the fear of being judged? But from my own experiences it's always better to take that risk rather than trying to bottle it up inside. Is there anyone you feel comfortable talking to? A few members have suggested talking to a GP or counsellor - the good benefit here is that a good counsellor will most definitely want to care and understand what you're going through. Would you be open to that?

The title on your post was looking for tips and I'm not really sure if I can give you any tips just yet; especially because what works for some people doesn't work for others. But if I can leave you with anything it's self-care. Making and finding time to do things that you just enjoy - whether that's music, colouring, walking, journalling, baking cookies - honestly it doesn't matter but just finding a tiny bit of time that makes you happy.

Maybe you could get back to us with your thoughts or an update and we can try and help more!

Hope this helps

[Jessicatherese94]

Hi! I would encourage you to talk to anyone you feel comfortable with, sometimes that could be a complete stranger like a counsellor here at Beyond Blue or Lifeline. With your family issues, is there any other family relative you could talk to about this? Maybe an aunty or uncle? It sometimes is really hard to communicate with others, but even if you smile and say hi you're already ahead! Completely agree with romantic_thief, make sure you do one kind thing for yourself a day. I promise things get better and everything will work out.