Too much for my sensitive self

[Jgirl]

The reason why I got this account is because I'm trying to keep this as real and anonymous as I can...

recently my parents broke up and my whole world is falling apart, I have only told my friend about it but that's pretty much it.

i try to stay as my happy self but it doesn't help much, I still feel depressed afterwards.

right after my parents broke up I lived with my father, and we moved houses strait away. It was extremely overwhelming and I cried myself to sleep every night.

i haven't eaten as much because I get so nauseas and sad, I can't even eat a plate of salad without feeling sick.

every morning when I wake up dreading for the day to come. But for now it feels like it will never get better.

i have had enough of family saying I will get used to it and if I don't it's okay. But it's not, I wish this never happened, I wish I would disappear into nothingness and stay in a long peaceful sleep with no distractions.

[Sparkles183]

Hi Jgirl 

welcome to beyond blue 

i am sorry to hear what you are going through it must be real hard for you with the break up. 

I understand about feeling sick after eating , I often feel that way but what u got to remember it is important to keep looking after your self in this time. What a psychologist once said to me if I don't feel like eating try drinking a smoothie or a meal replacement kind of drink as it is still important for your body to get the nutrition it needs. 

May I ask have u spoke to a school counsellor or someone about this it may be helpful if you speak to someone that will help you out through this. quite often we feel like we are alone in the fight but their are people who are there to help u and normally what you talk to your counsellor is confidential.      

I things get better for u soon 

take care 

sparkles

[geoff]

dear Jgirl, when parents break up it rocks the core of our existence, because we never know why they could possibly do this to us, but so much can go on behind closed doors, in other words we never believed that they were fighting, because when they are both with us everything was good.

My wife and I got divorced after 26 years and both our sons were over 18, but this didn't stop them from being angry, shocked and certainly disappointed.

It took a long time especially for the youngest to learn that the both of us still loved and cared for him, but it wasn't easy, but now both of them and I have a very strong connection, which they also do with my ex, but both relationships between my ex and I are totally different, as my ex is still black and white, whereas I'm more accepting and open.

That maybe a silly comment by me, but that's how I see it.

It's not so much as you will get used to it, it will mean an adjustment on how to try and understand what has happened, and there will be many questions which you won't have an answer to, and many that you wish you could but in the meantime try and ask questions to your mum and dad, some of their answers you won't agree with and many which will upset you.

Eating food when you are upset and depressed is not an easy job, so please take it day by day, and please I hope that you can get back to us. Geoff.