Tips for getting along with life

zodiacgirl · ‎14-02-2017

Hello,

I posted something here earlier last year about a sexual relationship that went quite sour for me. Even though i'm still slowly dealing with this everyday, i'm really feeling better. I've even found someone who really loves me and it's really the best thing ever. However, I still feel very upset, guilty, embarrassed about this sexual relationship -break-up that occurred last year. There are some days where all of a sudden it really gets to me and i can't do anything. I don't like talking about it with my bf or any other my friends, but it really does still affect me deep down. I feel that the guy i was seeing never really cared about me at all and didn't even want to know me as a person, and that kind of thought really breaks me even though it is all over and i'm doing okay. Sometimes i don't know why it hurts me so much but it does.

Any tips for feeling better in these times? Thanks

Zeal · ‎14-02-2017

Hey zodiacgirl,

I'm so glad you are in a happy and supportive relationship now. Feeling loved and cared about is amazing. I have this with my boyfriend of almost 2 years, and it is such an emotional comfort.

This relationship that went sour sounds as though it was very traumatic and unsettling for you. Despite having moved on, you haven't fully dealt with it emotionally. Seeing a counsellor about this is a worthwhile option. Counsellors aren't just for specific mental health problems. My close friend, who has never had any mental health issues, went to a counsellor after an emotional relationship break-up, which seemed to help her a lot.

Best wishes,

Zeal

zodiacgirl · ‎14-02-2017

Hi Zeal,

I think what you've said is right. I will look into seeing a counsellor and hope that can help.

zodiacgirl

kanga_brumby · ‎14-02-2017

Zodiacgirl for some males it's hard for them to show what they are truly feeling. Like loving, caring, sensitive, etc. Because they don't have a very good role model in their lives. That is not a very good excuse though. To help you with the break up, I would see a counsellor to help with the healing.