Supporting Others

[AlexisJade]

Hi 🙂

I'm currently in a relationship with a boy who I believe is depressed. We've discussed it before but I can never seem to convince him to do something about, no matter how much he hates himself and his life. I could use some advice on ways I can nudge him in the right direction. It's really putting a strain on our relationship and I'm scared that one night it might get too much for him. Currently he's managing ok but we start y11 this year I'm concerned the extra pressure and stress will cause him to break down or worse. I'm so worried about him and want to help but I don't know how and don't want to push him too hard. Any and all advice would be appreciated 🙂

[Mathy]

Hi AlexisJade and welcome 🙂

Firstly, it’s lovely to see how much you care about your partner, and how aware you are 🙂

As you’re both young, there’s Headspace for young folk (headspace.org.au) - they seem to have many face to face places. For starters, I believe you could actually ring them for some advice.

Then, I wonder whether you could encourage him to visit, if you both went along? Sort of like a shared experience. Might seem less threatening?

Given it’s the summer break for high school, this is the best time to swing into action to try and help him, there’s a few weeks before school starts again. You may be able to get some support happening before the school year starts.

I’m an oldie, hopefully I’ve managed to deliver a bit of help.

This is your thread and space to talk, so please do post back and let us know how you’re both doing, cheers M 🙂

[geoff]

hi AlexisJade, if he has just got depression in any type then many people are in denial and refuse to get any help, it's not so much as though he maybe stubborn but more so scared of the unknown.

What I would suggest is click on 'Get Support' at the top and scroll down until you see 'Publications to download or order' which you can do by ringing BB.

If he reads this booklet then it might open his mind to realise that he needs to get medical treatment, because year 12 is going to be much harder next year.

If you ring Reachout and/or Headspace then they may come out and have a chat with him, these people dress up in jeans and won't seem as threatening as a professional wearing a tie, which some younger people are afraid of. Geoff.