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Not too sure what the problem is and how to tackle it

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Hey! i'm new to this website, pleased to meet you all I will get right to the topic: i am having an anxiety period. Last time i experienced one of those was 3 years ago during my last year of highschool. I saw a psychologist, learned how to manage it... View more

Hey! i'm new to this website, pleased to meet you all I will get right to the topic: i am having an anxiety period. Last time i experienced one of those was 3 years ago during my last year of highschool. I saw a psychologist, learned how to manage it, and it all got better. This time i'm feeling a little different. Over the year of 2017 i have been trying to, little by little, tackle some fears of mine. I definitely gained more confidence from overcoming, for example, my fear of fish and of participating in extracurricular activities. I am generally a pretty chill person and not to anxious; but when i am anxious, it's bad. Anyway this period was sparked by me trying to overcome my fear of driving. Took several lessons, and my driving got a lot better. I am very same and rarely make a mistake. During my first test, i failed instantly due to a variable that wasn't my fault. They admitted so themselves. That made me slightly frustrated at the time and brought about a period of unproductiveness, about a month. I couldn't stop thinking about it and felt inadequate. I don't like how you are treated during lessons and in that environment in general. I know it's silly and i don't even need a license for my every day life but it's bothering me. I stayed up constantly refreshing the website trying to find new test times, and found one for this morning, which made it a little better but still felt uncomfortable. I failed it again although this time was my fault and was right near the end. I'm about to go overseas and probably won't get to do the test again for another month. I have probably my most extreme semester at uni next semester and should have started preparing weeks ago. This anxiety killed my momentum. I have this awful feeling that unless i get this done with i won't be able to focus on everything else. It just feels terrible. There is seemingly nothing i can do about it and i can't wait the whole year without doing the test because that means i will have to take MORE lessons in the future, and be in the environment for longer. So my questions are the following: 1. How do i live with myself for the next month 2. what is the greater underlying problem here? it would be silly to assume this wouldn't come up again after driving is over. Thank you all very much, i really appreciate your help.

Just want my dad to love me

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So I am new to this forum thing but I’ve been feeling extremely down all day, I got a new prescription for my anti depressants today after not having any for almost a week and it’s really getting to me. My dad also suffers from depression and is an a... View more

So I am new to this forum thing but I’ve been feeling extremely down all day, I got a new prescription for my anti depressants today after not having any for almost a week and it’s really getting to me. My dad also suffers from depression and is an alcoholic and a gambler, he would rather waste away than bother even messaging his 17 year old daughter on her birthday. He’s been this way for years now. Also living with his dad as well, he’s a 44 year old still living with his father. My dad has always refused help. He passed his depression on to me and he has no idea just how much his abandonment has ruined me. Just the other day for the first time a boy cuddled with me, a boy I had no feelings for or do what so ever, he was just sad and so was I. But after it I had to have a bath and wash myself. All I could think was ‘I want my dad’. I can’t do anything or move on knowing that my father doesn’t love me enough to hang around. I just need someone to show me how not to feel guilty about actually having a guy show interest. I don’t understand it. I don’t understand why I always feel so shitty, coudling is nothing compared to what most teenagers get up to now a days, but it’s made me want to never get involved with a guy. I have always been this way. The first time a guy kissed me a went home and balled m eyes out. Can someone body people please help me to understand or tell me if this is common...

Making Friends With Severe Social Anxiety. Need advice.

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Hi, I am 18 years old (in year 12 this year) and have suffered from social anxiety for my entire life. It has severely affected my ability to make friends. I've never had the ability to form a close friendship with anyone. Although this hasn't bother... View more

Hi, I am 18 years old (in year 12 this year) and have suffered from social anxiety for my entire life. It has severely affected my ability to make friends. I've never had the ability to form a close friendship with anyone. Although this hasn't bothered me as much in the past, it has hit me big in the last month as I don't have anyone in person that I can talk to and let into my life. Every year I get less and less connected to my family as they are so different to me and don't understand in anyway what my social anxiety is like. As my anxiety has gotten worse, I have came to the realisation that I need to really try and make friends but it feels impossible to achieve. I considered joining clubs of people with the same interests as me but can't build the courage to do it. I really don't know how to deal with the situation i'm in right now. Everyone I know seems to have at least one close friend in their life but me, it makes me feel so lonely and isolated. My next therapy appointment isn't until February, so i'm stuck with this tormenting pain in my mind, putting me in a really depressed state. I would really appreciate some feedback on what I should do.

Supporting Others

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Hi I'm currently in a relationship with a boy who I believe is depressed. We've discussed it before but I can never seem to convince him to do something about, no matter how much he hates himself and his life. I could use some advice on ways I can nu... View more

Hi I'm currently in a relationship with a boy who I believe is depressed. We've discussed it before but I can never seem to convince him to do something about, no matter how much he hates himself and his life. I could use some advice on ways I can nudge him in the right direction. It's really putting a strain on our relationship and I'm scared that one night it might get too much for him. Currently he's managing ok but we start y11 this year I'm concerned the extra pressure and stress will cause him to break down or worse. I'm so worried about him and want to help but I don't know how and don't want to push him too hard. Any and all advice would be appreciated

year 12

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not getting good grades

Always an argument

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Lately, my mum and I have been getting in arguments mostly about her feeling lonely when I’m In the house because I’m upstairs watching shows on my iPad. She says that she my aswell be alone because I’m not present. I’ve told her it’s because I feel ... View more

Lately, my mum and I have been getting in arguments mostly about her feeling lonely when I’m In the house because I’m upstairs watching shows on my iPad. She says that she my aswell be alone because I’m not present. I’ve told her it’s because I feel like we get into arguments about things whenever we’re together and she kept disagreeing. I feel she’s also been taking her anger out on me about a lot of things including her work, my brother and since my parents are divorce her hatred towards my dad. This has caused me to feel quite depressed. I don’t feel motivated to excersise anymore, go out much or hang out with people I’m not used to hanging out with. Today’s argument starting when she said that we might be going to a persons house that I don’t usually hang out with since they’re children are all boys but my brother is friends with them so that’s how my mother became connected with them. I told her I wasn’t interested in going and she told me how selfish I was being and that she has raised kids that are spoilt and only think about themselves. Even though she knows I don’t feel comfortable in situations like that. I don’t know how to tell my mum that I feel.l depressed, my mother had depression for a while so I do think she will understand but I also think she will feel I’m being dramatic. I’ve been feeling this way for about a year now on and off, I do feel it really started when my parents got divorced. I hate getting into arguments with my mum because I love her but lately it feels like she isn’t hearing what I have to say. I know I should be spending time with her and I do want to but sometimes I forget to ask or I’ve been having a hard day so I won’t want to be around people. I feel tired a lot also maybe another reason I don’t feel like doing much. I want things to be back to normal where I have fun with my mum and not have to watch what I say so I don’t make her upset or mad. I think my mother might be depressed also but she keeps it all in until she bursts and basically puts all of her anger and sadness on to the closest person and today that was me. I’ve never done one of these so I’m not sure how to end it, but thanks for reading and listening.

Too afraid to ask friends to hang out but so lonely..

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Hi so this is my first post, it's just one issue I've had for a long time. I have general anxiety, social anxiety and mild depression. I've had it my whole life. Also I'm 14, not that you really need to know.. As it's the school holidays I want to ha... View more

Hi so this is my first post, it's just one issue I've had for a long time. I have general anxiety, social anxiety and mild depression. I've had it my whole life. Also I'm 14, not that you really need to know.. As it's the school holidays I want to hang out with friends, but I'm just too afraid to ask any of my 7 friends. We have a group chat on Snapchat, and some have sent photos of two of them hanging out, and I've actually never hung out with any of them one on one (there is a bit of complicated history in my opinion) I guess I'm scared they will say no, and then also scared if they agree. It sucks as I get upset and lonely when two of them hang out, but I think I shouldn't be as I should just ask. I really just want one of them to ask me, but they don't. None of them know I have social anxiety or mild depression, to be honest they don't know much, I do have trust issues. My brother is constantly going out with his friends, and it really makes me jealous as I want that. We did hang out and watch Christmas movies around 3 weeks ago, and I did suggest it, but that wasn't too hard as I was asking Everyone, but just asking one person to hang out is too daunting for me. If anyone can relate please tell me, or any suggestions would be nice. I just feel so lonely all the time.

work, life study.

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I work full time, Study when I possibly can. It has become hard. I really want more qualifications to allow me to progress further but it has become hard to balance work, home life & study all together. I haven't had a free weekend to do my own thing... View more

I work full time, Study when I possibly can. It has become hard. I really want more qualifications to allow me to progress further but it has become hard to balance work, home life & study all together. I haven't had a free weekend to do my own thing in probably 6- 12 months. Constantly doing things whilst that is good for me I feel like i am stuck. Everything I do is never enough and the more I try the less I achieve.

Am I too old fashioned for my generation?

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I feel like I'm too old fashioned for my generation. In an age where no one calls it' all texts and FB messages that get forgotten about. I was recently told how it was weird that I brought a cake to a friends house who had just moved in together I h... View more

I feel like I'm too old fashioned for my generation. In an age where no one calls it' all texts and FB messages that get forgotten about. I was recently told how it was weird that I brought a cake to a friends house who had just moved in together I had thought they would offer tea or coffee and serve the cake instead they said they would have it for dessert the next night. I didn't mind but was sad as I had hoped we would have a sit down and a good old fashioned chat over a warm beverage. I was told it have been more normal to bring beer. I would love to hear what people do that others might consider old fashioned or out of date? As well as some great places to meet people that doesent involve clubs or online.

CANNOT DEAL

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I can't quite put my finger on whether I'm in denial of being depressed or if I'm just overreacting. Im 21 with absolutely no motivation to life, I feel all sorts of ugly everyday, epitome of useless, I'm fat - so my partner tells me every time thing... View more

I can't quite put my finger on whether I'm in denial of being depressed or if I'm just overreacting. Im 21 with absolutely no motivation to life, I feel all sorts of ugly everyday, epitome of useless, I'm fat - so my partner tells me every time things get heated and am also 3 months pregnant. Prior to all this low, I was a happy, giving and OTT (over-the-top) cheerful and always on-the-go gal. Everyone can vouch for that. Every single day I lock myself in the room for hours on end and just cry. I feel so lonely and I can't talk to anyone about it because i've always been seen as the strong girl with a strong mentality. But this this feeling is eating away at me and I dont know what to do anymore. Im sick of crying, feeling ugly, being ugly. I HATE EVERYTHING :'(

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