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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Vers Need advice on what to do next
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m 19 years old, technically in my second year of uni even though i failed all of first year due to having a panic attack just before my first lot of exams and being unable to leave my room for the next week and a bit and then not being able to go bac... View more

m 19 years old, technically in my second year of uni even though i failed all of first year due to having a panic attack just before my first lot of exams and being unable to leave my room for the next week and a bit and then not being able to go back to uni for second sem without needing to throw up. and as you could imagine im just over everything. Im sick of waking up sad and im sick of doubting if my friends even want me around and im sick of not being able to even go to the shops without feeling judged for everything about myself. I've been dealing with anxiety for aslong as i can remeber and was "diagnosed" with "acute anxiety" when i was in year 3 or when i was 9years old. I have always gotten anxious about everything but lately the anxiety has been reaching boiling point and unless im drunk or i just can't stop myself from thinking negatively. Especially when i think about the future. Im always going to be compared to my brother who does engineering and is already heading towards his dream career while im just barely reaching matks that he could get in his sleep. Honestly all im doing is giving him something extra to worry about and putting him at a disadvantage. I'm sure if anyone actually reads this they will have read hundreds of others just like it and im sorry for wasting your time but i just straight up don't know what to do anymore. Im sick of disappointing everyone and myself but i have no idea what i should do to try and fix this. Any advice on how i can start to overcome this is appreciated..

Tahlia1 New Work is stressing me out!!
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Hi to all, I'm currently 17 years of age, I started a new job recently. Its in the fast food industry. I have been there for 3.5 months and when I even think about going to work, I DREAD IT! When I arrive at work, I'm nervous and anxious the whole sh... View more

Hi to all, I'm currently 17 years of age, I started a new job recently. Its in the fast food industry. I have been there for 3.5 months and when I even think about going to work, I DREAD IT! When I arrive at work, I'm nervous and anxious the whole shift and I am confused why. Does anyone understand or know why this happens and have you ever felt like this. I'm not sure if I quit. If I do, I could potentially be on the DOLL and that isn't the best.

immy19 My dad is increasingly difficult and emotionally abusive
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My parents have been divorced for 10 years now but it feels like yesterday they were just divorced. Over the past few months I've had to stop seeing my dad because he is unstable, narcissistic and blames my mum and me for all his mistakes. It started... View more

My parents have been divorced for 10 years now but it feels like yesterday they were just divorced. Over the past few months I've had to stop seeing my dad because he is unstable, narcissistic and blames my mum and me for all his mistakes. It started a little over 2 years ago when I had a massive anxiety attack and accidentally lashed out at him and he called the police, he has called the police on me and my mum at least 3 other times after that. He has been threatening to go back to court and sue mum for apparent centrelink fraud and to blame her for me choosing to not see him, which in his eyes mum has broken the law by going against stupid court orders. I keep telling myself that I need to see him to make him feel better but every time I do he breaks down or lashes out and I just go into flight mode because I'm to exhausted and empty to lash out. Everything I say to him goes in one ear and out the other and/or gets reverted back to mum. Mum's been really supportive and so have her friends but she's confusing and emotionally damaged as well. It's like WW3 to me. Some nights I can't sleep and others I just feel so numb it feels like I'm not even there and when I have really vivid dreams (almost every night) I wake up and hope to god it's not real. But what I don't understand is why he's so nice to me over phone and text but not in person. He wants the best for me yet I'm his punching bag. I'm only starting to realise who people really are and it hurts. I know I'm not lonely but I just feel I have nobody to call a close friend and I'm scared because I don't want a life like this. I don't even remember when my life wasn't like this. I hate myself for not being able to do better and I wish I had a normal family. I find comfort in masking myself online and becoming obsessed with TV characters or books and maybe that's why I'm letting myself down. I just wish my dad wasn't so difficult and I could be clear about my decision.

imogen1 anxiety about sleeping next to boyfriend
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my boyfriend is visiting me from overseas in a few weeks and we have never slept in the same bed but decided we would this time for two weeks. im having a lot of anxiety about sleeping next to him because i have severe panic attacks and disassocitive... View more

my boyfriend is visiting me from overseas in a few weeks and we have never slept in the same bed but decided we would this time for two weeks. im having a lot of anxiety about sleeping next to him because i have severe panic attacks and disassocitive episodes, he knows this and says it's ok if we need to sleep separately sometimes but i really don't want to waste time doing that. i don't want to make him feel like a burden in my house, but when i think about sharing my bed with someone i feel nauseas. how can i confront this problem?

what_why Anyone else get this?
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Lately I've been finding that out of nowhere I get angry at people (family, friends etc.) for things that I think they might do or are going to do rather than for what they have actually done or even for what they plan to do. For example, a small thi... View more

Lately I've been finding that out of nowhere I get angry at people (family, friends etc.) for things that I think they might do or are going to do rather than for what they have actually done or even for what they plan to do. For example, a small thing like being told to go to church by my Mum goes from me saying "Yeah sure" to thinking "What is she up to now, what have I done for her to want to reform me, am I not good enough unless I am some church going saint?" (I'm not really a believer and she knows this which is a touchy topic between me and her side of the family). The worst part is just when I'm imagining the epic and loud argument with her about how she thinks I'm some disappointment, she actually come out and says "You know what, don't worry you don't have to I can tell you don't want to". Then I'm left feeling shitty the rest of the day about what a spoiled brat I was for not even giving her or whoever orchestrated these imaginary slights, the benefit of the doubt. The weirdest part is this is all going on in my head, while this scenario was happening, in real life about 30 minutes passed by, where I ate and emptied the dishwasher. From her perspective it probably would've consisted of her asking, me reluctantly agreeing and then going off to what would have been a quiet and normal visit to church and home in time for dinner. Does anyone else experience this often or am I just an idiot who needs to chill out.

Lula94 Lonely and bored
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Hi guys. Soo this is my first post and I don't really know what I'm doing. I've pretty much been bullied all my life, it's stopped now that I'm older but people still aren't very nice to me. It's really damaged my confidence though and every time I m... View more

Hi guys. Soo this is my first post and I don't really know what I'm doing. I've pretty much been bullied all my life, it's stopped now that I'm older but people still aren't very nice to me. It's really damaged my confidence though and every time I meet a new person I'm worried what they think of me. I'm super introverted and find it hard to talk to people, even people I know really well. The only person I feel like I can be myself around is my boyfriend, I'm usually funny and silly around him. I don't really have any 'real' friends, so when I'm not with my boyfriend I feel super lonely. No one ever makes an effort to message me or talk to me, and I only ever see my friends every now and then. I just wish I had a best friend. When I'm not doing something and just sitting around at home I find that I go into like a weird state where I legit can't sit still and will kinda pace around the house. If anyone has any ideas of fun activities I could do that would be great. I like going for walks but can never find the motivation to go on my own, and I also go to the gym but in between that and when I'm not working I just get super bored. I love being outdoors and doing things but my boyfriend never really thinks of anything to do, I'm always the one who has to come up with ideas. Idk I just feel so lonely in this life and feel like no one cares about me . I could literally disappear off the face of the Earth and I don't think anyone would notice. If you read all this, congratulations. Thank you.

Lene Confused!
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I have anxiety and depression, my job provider are not that helpful, I was wondering if anyone one knows of a good job provider in Adelaide that deals with people with mental illnesses?

I have anxiety and depression, my job provider are not that helpful, I was wondering if anyone one knows of a good job provider in Adelaide that deals with people with mental illnesses?

Heytherehowyoudoing Not too sure what the problem is and how to tackle it
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Hey! i'm new to this website, pleased to meet you all I will get right to the topic: i am having an anxiety period. Last time i experienced one of those was 3 years ago during my last year of highschool. I saw a psychologist, learned how to manage it... View more

Hey! i'm new to this website, pleased to meet you all I will get right to the topic: i am having an anxiety period. Last time i experienced one of those was 3 years ago during my last year of highschool. I saw a psychologist, learned how to manage it, and it all got better. This time i'm feeling a little different. Over the year of 2017 i have been trying to, little by little, tackle some fears of mine. I definitely gained more confidence from overcoming, for example, my fear of fish and of participating in extracurricular activities. I am generally a pretty chill person and not to anxious; but when i am anxious, it's bad. Anyway this period was sparked by me trying to overcome my fear of driving. Took several lessons, and my driving got a lot better. I am very same and rarely make a mistake. During my first test, i failed instantly due to a variable that wasn't my fault. They admitted so themselves. That made me slightly frustrated at the time and brought about a period of unproductiveness, about a month. I couldn't stop thinking about it and felt inadequate. I don't like how you are treated during lessons and in that environment in general. I know it's silly and i don't even need a license for my every day life but it's bothering me. I stayed up constantly refreshing the website trying to find new test times, and found one for this morning, which made it a little better but still felt uncomfortable. I failed it again although this time was my fault and was right near the end. I'm about to go overseas and probably won't get to do the test again for another month. I have probably my most extreme semester at uni next semester and should have started preparing weeks ago. This anxiety killed my momentum. I have this awful feeling that unless i get this done with i won't be able to focus on everything else. It just feels terrible. There is seemingly nothing i can do about it and i can't wait the whole year without doing the test because that means i will have to take MORE lessons in the future, and be in the environment for longer. So my questions are the following: 1. How do i live with myself for the next month 2. what is the greater underlying problem here? it would be silly to assume this wouldn't come up again after driving is over. Thank you all very much, i really appreciate your help.

chloeashley Just want my dad to love me
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So I am new to this forum thing but I’ve been feeling extremely down all day, I got a new prescription for my anti depressants today after not having any for almost a week and it’s really getting to me. My dad also suffers from depression and is an a... View more

So I am new to this forum thing but I’ve been feeling extremely down all day, I got a new prescription for my anti depressants today after not having any for almost a week and it’s really getting to me. My dad also suffers from depression and is an alcoholic and a gambler, he would rather waste away than bother even messaging his 17 year old daughter on her birthday. He’s been this way for years now. Also living with his dad as well, he’s a 44 year old still living with his father. My dad has always refused help. He passed his depression on to me and he has no idea just how much his abandonment has ruined me. Just the other day for the first time a boy cuddled with me, a boy I had no feelings for or do what so ever, he was just sad and so was I. But after it I had to have a bath and wash myself. All I could think was ‘I want my dad’. I can’t do anything or move on knowing that my father doesn’t love me enough to hang around. I just need someone to show me how not to feel guilty about actually having a guy show interest. I don’t understand it. I don’t understand why I always feel so shitty, coudling is nothing compared to what most teenagers get up to now a days, but it’s made me want to never get involved with a guy. I have always been this way. The first time a guy kissed me a went home and balled m eyes out. Can someone body people please help me to understand or tell me if this is common...

WJD Making Friends With Severe Social Anxiety. Need advice.
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Hi, I am 18 years old (in year 12 this year) and have suffered from social anxiety for my entire life. It has severely affected my ability to make friends. I've never had the ability to form a close friendship with anyone. Although this hasn't bother... View more

Hi, I am 18 years old (in year 12 this year) and have suffered from social anxiety for my entire life. It has severely affected my ability to make friends. I've never had the ability to form a close friendship with anyone. Although this hasn't bothered me as much in the past, it has hit me big in the last month as I don't have anyone in person that I can talk to and let into my life. Every year I get less and less connected to my family as they are so different to me and don't understand in anyway what my social anxiety is like. As my anxiety has gotten worse, I have came to the realisation that I need to really try and make friends but it feels impossible to achieve. I considered joining clubs of people with the same interests as me but can't build the courage to do it. I really don't know how to deal with the situation i'm in right now. Everyone I know seems to have at least one close friend in their life but me, it makes me feel so lonely and isolated. My next therapy appointment isn't until February, so i'm stuck with this tormenting pain in my mind, putting me in a really depressed state. I would really appreciate some feedback on what I should do.

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