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Went from having friends, a girlfriend and uni; to having nothing. I feel miserable

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I'm not sure if this is worth posting but here it goes. I'm a introverted 23yr old male who has spent the past 5 yrs getting my engineering degree in Adelaide. I am from a rural area, so at uni I lived on campus. I met 2 very good friends in my first... View more

I'm not sure if this is worth posting but here it goes. I'm a introverted 23yr old male who has spent the past 5 yrs getting my engineering degree in Adelaide. I am from a rural area, so at uni I lived on campus. I met 2 very good friends in my first year, and they were my housemates for the my entire degree. It was a 5 bedroom house, so in 2017 one of the last 2 housemates I was put with was luckily an 18 year old girl who I got to know well, and at the start of the second semester we started dating. She was my first girlfriend and we both had an amazing time together. She was the first person I felt like I could confide in and really open up to. I lost many 'firsts' to her, and I was the happiest that I had been for many years. When university finished in Nov, we all went back to our own areas around Aus. My girlfriend and I decided that we would keep seeing each other (we were about 300kms away), so all through Dec we talked through snapchat everyday. Unfortunately, I live on a grain farm so I couldn't visit her through December because I was harvesting. She didn't have her license, but everyday she kept telling me how excited she was when I could finally come and visit. Then came NYE. I had organised to come and see her in the first week of Jan, but out of the blue she snapchats me and says that she has work and I can't visit (she did that a few times before when I tried to come and see her) and that she "hates the distance between us". She then suggested that we kept the relationship "casual" and then if I ended up getting a job in Adelaide we could pick things up from there when uni started again. This was a massive kick in the guts and I took it as "I want to see other guys and then come back to you later" I told her I didn't want to play games and she either wanted to be with me or not. She said no. Why would she lead me on all through Dec if she was planning on getting rid of me anyway? I felt (and still feel) betrayed and heatbroken. Later on that night I see her snapchat story of her at the club having the time of her life. The fact that she didn't seemed at all sad about the breakup makes me feel even worse. To make matters worse, I have no friends where I live because they have all moved to the city. So I've gone from having awesome friends at uni, an amazing girlfriend and a degree to work towards, to no friends, no girlfriend and no job. I'm applying for different jobs around aus but keep told no. The days go by and I just feel hopeless

Do I have a problem???

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I’ve had serious anxiety for about 4 years now but in the past year I have been getting lower and lower and I don’t know what it means. I cry all the time - it can be triggered by anything, I have days where I am so down I just can’t do anything righ... View more

I’ve had serious anxiety for about 4 years now but in the past year I have been getting lower and lower and I don’t know what it means. I cry all the time - it can be triggered by anything, I have days where I am so down I just can’t do anything right or think properly, and I sometimes have this feeling in my stomach that just cancels everything else out. But I still go to school and do all of my normal activities most days. I just hide these really down feelings. But my friends keep asking my if I’m okay and I’m too scared to admit anything so I just keep saying I’m Fine. Ive slowly had really low days more and more often and I’m getting scared. I think it’s gettjng worse but I don’t know what to do - because I know there are kids who have it way worse than me so is it selfish to ask for help? Am I alright??

How do you get better?

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Hi, Does anyone ever get sick of health professionals constantly throwing CBT in your face when you have anxiety/depression? I know it works for most people, but it doesn't work for me. I keep trying to tell the people around me that it doesn't work ... View more

Hi, Does anyone ever get sick of health professionals constantly throwing CBT in your face when you have anxiety/depression? I know it works for most people, but it doesn't work for me. I keep trying to tell the people around me that it doesn't work but they always just give you another mindfulness activity to do, and it's this whole waiting game. I feel like a ticking time bomb. I've looked for other alternatives but it's a whole lot of telling your story and waiting, and I don't know how much longer I can wait. If anyone is in the same boat I'd like to hear how other people are dealing with this? Right now I'm really struggling. Thanks.

no one really cares

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Ever since I can remember there's been someone toxic in my life, starting with my dad... Who was addicted to pot and abused my mum. My mum left him when I was four, then she started to get uncontrollably angry, took it out on me and my brother, then ... View more

Ever since I can remember there's been someone toxic in my life, starting with my dad... Who was addicted to pot and abused my mum. My mum left him when I was four, then she started to get uncontrollably angry, took it out on me and my brother, then by the time my brother was ten he started hitting me and yelling, calling me horrible things. Things have always been bad, I've always been scared to do anything, and I recently started trusting a boy who I'm in a relationship with, but I struggle to believe he cares, I worry he hates me and that he's cheating or going to turn out like everyone else in my life! I'm starting uni and I feel like I'm setting myself up to fail, I still have to live with my mum and brother, and they both still take their anger out on me! I've been depressed for many years, I feel like no one genuinely wants to help, or even just want me!

Hi I'm 21 years old trying to live life & be free

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I'm 21 years of age..... I just have this feeling, where I feel like I have so much weight to carry on my shoulders. Especially with my family & responsibility, like my grandparents they have 11 kids all up & out of all their kids it's just me & my m... View more

I'm 21 years of age..... I just have this feeling, where I feel like I have so much weight to carry on my shoulders. Especially with my family & responsibility, like my grandparents they have 11 kids all up & out of all their kids it's just me & my mom looking after them including my uncle . The problem is that since I was 11 years old I've always been a good girl always done chores & everything for them up until now. But now I'm in my adulthood you know I really should be living my life & going out & things like that but everytime I do my grandparents & uncle complains that I don't do chores for them anymore it seems like they only want me to stay home & do everything like thats just no life at all u know I'm sick N tired of doing everything like there are other grand kids that come over as well they old enough themselves they need 2 start doing & learning how to do things as well, I might not b around as much anymore to do things but they look at me like I'm the oldest so I have to do it. Other things as well I've been wanting to leave my whole family & cut ties with them for a very long time u know like I can't get along with any of my Aunties & uncles, including I'm not close to any of my cousins as well. Like they even give their kids 4 me to look after & if something happens to them I get the blame all the time even though I didn't do anything I'm sick of that as well. Especially I feel more sorry for my mother she has to put up with everyone N everything my grandparents, uncle & whole family are very ungrateful & disfunctional people like we all could never have a normal conversation it always turn into a argument. My grandparent always have said they love me & all but I don't believe them if they really did they would at least let me & my mother live our lives & do whatever we want like the rest of the families but we have to put up with everyone & everything. I mean my mother is about 50 years old she still gets treated like crap as well I'm tired of seeing her been treated that way especially by my grandfather. & myself as well the way my whole family is just such a handful & so stressful everytime. Because of all this me & my mother never can have time for ourselves especially I don't have time for myself I fear sometimes i might not be able 2 get married or have a family of my own because of all this problems I'm having. Cheers

Don't know what to do anymore

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I really don't know what to do anymore. I used to have dreams and goals, but within the last 6 months my life has completely flipped upside down. My Grandfather died, he was my best friend and was the only person that stood up for me and didn't treat... View more

I really don't know what to do anymore. I used to have dreams and goals, but within the last 6 months my life has completely flipped upside down. My Grandfather died, he was my best friend and was the only person that stood up for me and didn't treat me different just because I'm adopted. Around about the same time my best friend started a rumor about me and ruined my relationship with my room mates. In spite of all that I met an amazing guy and fell head over heels in love. But he has recently left me and had broken my heart. At the same time I have gotten really sick and can't afford to live where I am so I have had to move back with my parents and 2 hours away from my whole life, back to a town in have spent my whole life dreaming about the day I can get away. I know this seems stupid, but I really don't feel like I have anything to live for anymore, I'm broken hearted, in constant pain become I'm sick, lost everything that I have worked so hard for, live in a place that I struggled in growing up, and surrounded by family who are stubborn, refuse to try and understand, and who always tell me to grow up and stop being so stupid. I am trying so hard but every time they put me down like that I get worse. I already hate myself enough, and I try and explain but they don't listen. I just feel like I have nothing at all to live for anymore.

Male friendship issues

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I had a crush on this guy at college i told him i liked him and we agreed to just be friends , at the same time he was flirted with me and acted different around me compared to the other girls in our group, he would do things for me even though he di... View more

I had a crush on this guy at college i told him i liked him and we agreed to just be friends , at the same time he was flirted with me and acted different around me compared to the other girls in our group, he would do things for me even though he didn't want to do it , and the guys in our group were wing-men when it came to us hanging out so I knew they were setting us up all the time most of the time they would tell me they set me up, but we were actually pretty good friends. Anyway we didn't see each other for 2 years and in that time he said he wanted to catch up again before i went back, I didn't hear from him and we didn't end up catching up. i was back at college he wasn't and i was sort of moving on with another guy , one night i was drinking with the new guy and our friends and and he brought his ex to the party. i was so upset that i messaged my crush and he called straight away and he just calmed me down and told me to leave the guy and the party. and we talked for nearly 2 hours on the phone, he admitted to liking me back when and he wanted to make it up to me for not catching up in the first place. we were both tipsy but we both just wanted to talk on the phone. i admit i do like to message guy i like so this would've contributed to the problem, meaning i did message him a lot and he sometimes did and didn't answer. It comes to the end of semester and I'm happy to be going home and catching up with this guy, i was at a friends place when i got a bad feeling that he had disappeared of social media when i checked he was completely gone. nothing. literally ghosted. I didn't know at the time but when i returned to college and tried to work things out with the other guy only to find out he left college and wasn't going to return for the semester, i developed major depression, I drank almost every weekend, panic attacks, anxiety attacks everything, I couldn't sleep and eat like i was in a daze and I couldn't think anymore. I'm slowly recovering but cant help but wonder if i did something wrong, i feel i still have no closure about why he disappeared and i have this guilt over me like its all you , you did something wrong, and ill never know. i still cry because i actually liked this person so much, and compared to every other guy he was a gentlemen. This was the first time I ever experienced depression on this level. Apologies for the long Story. Literally feel lost.

Stuck in a rut, life/work going nowhere.

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Hi all, It's been about 2 years since I posted. Since then I've just been at the same job, but now in a management role. A bullying incident ultimately led me to go off work due to anxiety/depression. I haven't worked since July 2017, and am looking ... View more

Hi all, It's been about 2 years since I posted. Since then I've just been at the same job, but now in a management role. A bullying incident ultimately led me to go off work due to anxiety/depression. I haven't worked since July 2017, and am looking for more jobs every day. But I'm feeling really down today - I apply for around 10 or so jobs every week. I have an interview for one finally, but its $10 less then my current and a traineeship for 12 months, with half the hours I currently work. Feeling conflicted because I desperately want to resign and work again, but part of me doesn't want to settle for a job for half the wage I'm on now considering I live out of home and don't want my partner to have to support me financially. He is happy to do so as he has a great job but part of me wants to stay free for a possible government job that I'm waiting to hear back on in the next 4 weeks. I'm totally anxious and down tonight, with no one to talk to. I don't know what I'm doing with my life, I feel like I'm never going to find another decent job that pays well or isn't fast food, considering this is the only interview/interest I've been given since January 2017 Feeling like I'll never be good enough to work anywhere else, as I've only had the one fast food job and that's it. Sorry for the rant, just need to vent.

Anxiety about new job

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Hi, I’m 17, just starting tear 12, and have really horrible anxiety. It isn’t really horrible but it is something i’ve dealt with for a long time. Last week, some people i very rarely babysit for offered me a job at their house doing some admin work ... View more

Hi, I’m 17, just starting tear 12, and have really horrible anxiety. It isn’t really horrible but it is something i’ve dealt with for a long time. Last week, some people i very rarely babysit for offered me a job at their house doing some admin work for them (shredding papers, scanning photos, spreadsheets etc). When i first said yes and went to their house it was all okay, i had some general nerves like i do before doing stuff like that, but after spending 7 hours at their house (the agreed time), i felt really anxious and tired and didn’t want to go back. They are really nice people and are paying me more than what i would earn at a part time job, but i am having really horrible anxiety about having to return there. I agreed to another two days but just the thought of having to go back there makes me start to cry, and its good money that i need. Previously before this i got a job at a mcdonalds, but quit after the first day because of how stressful it was and how anxious it made me feel. How can i get over my anxiety about going there and working for them without wanting to cry? Any help would be wonderful, thanks

Yo bro it's brsajo

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Hi. I'm brsajo (if you want ya could just call me Brad), and according to MindSpot and BeyondBlue's online tests I show symptoms of mild depression. This may or may not have to do with the fact that I recently played the game, 'Doki Doki Literature C... View more

Hi. I'm brsajo (if you want ya could just call me Brad), and according to MindSpot and BeyondBlue's online tests I show symptoms of mild depression. This may or may not have to do with the fact that I recently played the game, 'Doki Doki Literature Club' (I would recommend most people here avoid it; the disclaimer isn't there for no reason). Granted it's only since playing the game that I've lost sleep overthinking things and having existential thoughts, but I think quite a few of the other symptoms that have amplified were there for as long as I can remember, just in a more manageable low-key state. I feel kinda silly coming here because I underestimated a psychological horror video game, but at the same time I feel the need for support that I can't currently get from my friends due to difficulties in their own circumstances.

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