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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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anilenoisxo CANNOT DEAL
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I can't quite put my finger on whether I'm in denial of being depressed or if I'm just overreacting. Im 21 with absolutely no motivation to life, I feel all sorts of ugly everyday, epitome of useless, I'm fat - so my partner tells me every time thing... View more

I can't quite put my finger on whether I'm in denial of being depressed or if I'm just overreacting. Im 21 with absolutely no motivation to life, I feel all sorts of ugly everyday, epitome of useless, I'm fat - so my partner tells me every time things get heated and am also 3 months pregnant. Prior to all this low, I was a happy, giving and OTT (over-the-top) cheerful and always on-the-go gal. Everyone can vouch for that. Every single day I lock myself in the room for hours on end and just cry. I feel so lonely and I can't talk to anyone about it because i've always been seen as the strong girl with a strong mentality. But this this feeling is eating away at me and I dont know what to do anymore. Im sick of crying, feeling ugly, being ugly. I HATE EVERYTHING :'(

dreambon I'm scared... I don't know what to do now...
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I just graduated uni and now I'm clueless on what i should be doing... Should I be looking for jobs in the field I studied (and didn't really like) or should I be looking for something else to do.. (but what..?) All the interviews require me to speak... View more

I just graduated uni and now I'm clueless on what i should be doing... Should I be looking for jobs in the field I studied (and didn't really like) or should I be looking for something else to do.. (but what..?) All the interviews require me to speak well and sell myself well but I can't do it personality wise.... I've achieved nothing... I can't even get a part time job... I just don't like talking to people... I'm so stressed I feel so pathetic.

Brooke110 Feeling really low
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Hey guys, so two days ago i went clubbing for the first time, and i got really drunk for the first time as well. I made out with someone kind of weird and spent most of the night dancing with him, and ever since i woke up yesterday, ive been feeling ... View more

Hey guys, so two days ago i went clubbing for the first time, and i got really drunk for the first time as well. I made out with someone kind of weird and spent most of the night dancing with him, and ever since i woke up yesterday, ive been feeling really low, like a mix of guilt, sadness, shame, loneliness...i just feel really gross and wish i never made out or even danced with this guy. I know it might not seem to be a big deal to some, but these feelings wont leave, i was wondering if anyone’s had similar experiences? Thanks

Jestia08 Horrible anxiety, Depression and guilt after drinking
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Hey guys, so more or less just wanted peoples opinions here, I have had depression and anxiety or afew years now and have been on medication for it, my issues is anytime I drink whether its a few or a lot the next day I feel the need to call everyone... View more

Hey guys, so more or less just wanted peoples opinions here, I have had depression and anxiety or afew years now and have been on medication for it, my issues is anytime I drink whether its a few or a lot the next day I feel the need to call everyone I know was present and make sure I was not an idiot. its like I make up my own scenarios of things I may or may not have said I care what people think and about things I could of said that where just plain stupid. I am so sick of feelings this way I know im not a bad person and sometimes we all drink a little to much but why do I care so much what people think and worry what I said to them, I dont get into fights I dont get aggressive I just talk to much and get all happy and stuff. anyone else out there get like this or am I the only one?? just sucks and I really wish I could get rid of the bad feelings.

Liquorice Self destruct
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My life has changed since I turned 18 and moved in with my boyfriend, I travel four hours a day for work, I need to also look for another job, get my licence and learn how to drive. But my anxiety has reached a point where I can barely get ready for ... View more

My life has changed since I turned 18 and moved in with my boyfriend, I travel four hours a day for work, I need to also look for another job, get my licence and learn how to drive. But my anxiety has reached a point where I can barely get ready for work without falling into a total panic attack resulting in broken things. I am putting way too much strain on my partner who has been phenomenally patient with me. I do not have many friends that I can talk to, and especially not in a safe, private space. I feel as though I will lose everything if I don’t find some support to help me learn to not worry

Artastic55 My Triggered Emotional detachment and disassociation: is it my anxiety or worse?
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Hello again. I Hate making these but this never has let me down. I wanted to see what you all might know in terms of disassociation and emotional detachment, so I’ll write a bit about my situation. I’ve been talking with my psychologist about a thing... View more

Hello again. I Hate making these but this never has let me down. I wanted to see what you all might know in terms of disassociation and emotional detachment, so I’ll write a bit about my situation. I’ve been talking with my psychologist about a thing I’ve called ‘It’. When I get stressed for example, I do this thing where I cannot feel emotion except rage and anger. I lash out, insult and be obnoxious, I feel superior to everyone and it’s pretty annoying. Sometimes it can get a whole lot worse where I don’t have control over myself and I become physically violent towards others. After the event, I revert back to normal as if nothing happened, with almost complete memory of it, just i don’t have emotional or thinking memory of it (I don’t remember what I thought). Ive noticed that when I’m in a normal state, I often have 2 other voices or ‘thought like voices’ (which seem normal) except they’re not like what I think. They often are negative and rude, and often seem hostile towards everything including myself. When I do a switch in my states to emotionally detached or when I dissasociate, I don’t have those thoughts, they’re replaced with what I normally would say. examples of his voice can be from having a meal with my father where the food is good but inside me I have two voices not enraged so much they they refuse to eat his food just because I hate him. Or I could be talking to someone and I get voices telling me they are disgusting and terrible, and I insult them frequently in my head. i talk with a psychologist who asked why I did this, and he suggested if it might be to ‘hide my pain’. I didn’t know how to respond because I don’t know why I do, I just do it when stressed, angry, having a panic attack, pressured or ‘if I’ve been drinking’ (Not an alarming amount or without supervision) i don’t know if I hide my pain but we’re thinking that maybe it’s a defence mechanism I developed in my childhood because of bullying and mental instability. I read up on a lot of stuff relating to dissociative identity disorder and there was a state that rang a bell called ‘The protector’ which seemed a lot like what happens with me. I’m not saying I have that mental illness, but the stories I’ve read and information I’ve wandered into seem to support my theory i wondered that if maybe my anxiety can trigger these switches but it doesn’t explain my random switches when listening to music or by myself. any ideas what might be happening with me?

Eddie93 Hi
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Hi, I'm pretty new here and have attempted to answer a few people's posts but not started a thread. I hate to be a downer but I don't actually feel that posting is going to help me but there is nothing to lose so here it is. Basically I've been on an... View more

Hi, I'm pretty new here and have attempted to answer a few people's posts but not started a thread. I hate to be a downer but I don't actually feel that posting is going to help me but there is nothing to lose so here it is. Basically I've been on and off depressed for about 6 years and it doesn't seem like it's going to stop, I get overwhelmed so easily by things I don't want to do, I'm 24 and although I've finished my apprenticeship in steel (which I hate with a passion) I haven't studied anything anything and I'm I can't see myself ever working steel again. Its been a year since I last properly worked and generally work a couple days a week helping with my grandmothers farm which is pretty cool but find I really can't sustain working without wanting to go home lol. In a way I really want to go to Uni to try and make friends, socialise and be normal as I think having limited friends has really hurt me mentally. On the other hand I really don't want to go to uni because there is nothing I can see myself studying passionately or not getting overwhelmed with and I'm pretty sure making friends is way more of a fantasy than reality which really upsets me sometimes as I feel like a freak. TLDR: got no idea what I'm going to do with my life and often feel like I've had enough as I have no purpose and feel like I've thought of everything to do for work. Im really not after sympathy and really don't care for it sorry but if ANYONE has answers or can tell me what's really worked for them I'd be really greatful. Im aware that I'm probably looking for answers that don't exist and that's the conclusion I'm getting closer to every day but I figured if there is an answer, someone here might have it. thanks for your time Ed

dev27 Lonely, depressed anxious and uncertain about the future
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Hello to those who are reading I am 20 years old and I have been struggling with feelings of extreme sadness and loneliness for about 3.5 years now. I have always found it hard in social settings to talk to people and get extremely nervous making eye... View more

Hello to those who are reading I am 20 years old and I have been struggling with feelings of extreme sadness and loneliness for about 3.5 years now. I have always found it hard in social settings to talk to people and get extremely nervous making eye contact. Basically I have very limited social skills. This year I dropped out of uni (without telling my parents) and started to work in fast food. Getting this job was a big deal to me as it is my first ever job and I had been dreading the interview. I took the job to earn a bit of cash and to take some time off from school to figure out what I wanted to do with my life... the problem is I still have no idea! I feel so left behind in life. My mum's friends have children around my age who are well into their degrees, have great part time jobs, good school/work/life balance and will graduate next year. I feel so useless compared to them. I get extremely embarrassed as I am older than majority of my co workers who are all high schoolers and they would often ask why I started my first job so late at the age of 20 and I'd be too scared to tell them about my anxiety and that I dropped out. I also still dont have a P's (drivers license) because the thought of driving absolutely terrifies me. I have made it a goal to start driving it 2018 but I'm scared I won't follow through. To make matters worse, I have overheard my mum on many occasions bad mouthing me to her friends and their children. She tells them how i stay in my room all day, how I never talk to anyone, says its 'weird' how I dont like girly things such as makeup and dressing up because I prefer tshirts, sneakers and jeans, how its pathetic I still dont have my license, how unaccomplished I am for a 20 year old... it just really annoys and hurts me to hear her tell all these things to people I barely know and really makes me lose trust in her. When I see some of mum's friends in public I could sense that they were looking down on me. I have very low self esteem and sometimes this feeling of extreme irritability and sadness will waver over me and I will just burst out crying thinking about my future and how much of a failure I am. Will I be working at this fast food restaurant for the rest of my life? What will I tell my family when next year comes around and Im 'supposed' to be graduating with my degree? Being lonely and depressed has given me no urge to be productive, no goals, no aspirations and no motivation.

monkeymia Insecurities
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Hey everyone, I have always been very insecure of my appearance, to the point where I often think that I am too ugly to ever be in a relationship or loved by someone. I have quite pale skin and lots of moles/freckles, which make me feel really ugly. ... View more

Hey everyone, I have always been very insecure of my appearance, to the point where I often think that I am too ugly to ever be in a relationship or loved by someone. I have quite pale skin and lots of moles/freckles, which make me feel really ugly. I try to be positive and remind myself that everyone is beautiful in their own way, but it's so difficult when all my friends are so stunning and get lots of attention from boys. I've never really been in a relationship, which I think makes it worse because it makes me think that I really am too unattractive for anyone to fancy. I know it sounds silly, but I just don't know how to cope with this, and it makes me really upset. I know not everyone looks the same, but when I look around everyone else I see is beautiful in their own way, and when I look at myself I just feel so ugly. Often wearing makeup/ tanning etc can make me feel pretty for a while, but I always have this crippling self hatred because I know that beneath it all I am so unattractive. It makes me feel worthless and alone, especially when I compare myself to the people around me. Has anyone else felt like this?

Jflower20 Never heard
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I am early pregnant with two kids already, been with the same guy for 6yrs but it seems everytime he starts to meet new people he puts me to the back and won't listen to anything I'm going through or anything I try to get support from him with even i... View more

I am early pregnant with two kids already, been with the same guy for 6yrs but it seems everytime he starts to meet new people he puts me to the back and won't listen to anything I'm going through or anything I try to get support from him with even if I try to sit and talk and not get angry, I repeat myself for at least 3wks and then finally burst and then I'm the one to blame I'm just being crazy, today we ended up in an argument because he kept guilt tripping me because we were invited to a party but even though I tried we couldn't find a baby sitter and then automatically he expects I stay with the kids and he goes he also already uninvited me to go for a drive because of one of his so called friends then uninvited me to the party as well, I came to him calmly and said well we ain't really suppose to spend any money this weekend because we have a concert to go to next weekend (tht he knew about 2mths ago), so why don't we just stay home watch whatever movie you want and I'll make whatever you want for dinner and just chill out, he then says I'm going to ditch my friend for you...i instantly got upset but also angry because I'm sick of coming last whenever someone new comes along I have been by his side for 6yrs nothing should change because of someone he has only known literally for 3wks, I also tried to express to him for the past view days I don't want to be alone as he hasn't really been here for about 3days he has been with one of his friends, I told him I'm done I'm sick of feeling this one and actually said it was over but I don't know how I feel about it I thought I would be really upset if I ever said that but I am just sorta angry and confused. If anyone can help please do. Thank you

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