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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Frankl15 Male friendship issues
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I had a crush on this guy at college i told him i liked him and we agreed to just be friends , at the same time he was flirted with me and acted different around me compared to the other girls in our group, he would do things for me even though he di... View more

I had a crush on this guy at college i told him i liked him and we agreed to just be friends , at the same time he was flirted with me and acted different around me compared to the other girls in our group, he would do things for me even though he didn't want to do it , and the guys in our group were wing-men when it came to us hanging out so I knew they were setting us up all the time most of the time they would tell me they set me up, but we were actually pretty good friends. Anyway we didn't see each other for 2 years and in that time he said he wanted to catch up again before i went back, I didn't hear from him and we didn't end up catching up. i was back at college he wasn't and i was sort of moving on with another guy , one night i was drinking with the new guy and our friends and and he brought his ex to the party. i was so upset that i messaged my crush and he called straight away and he just calmed me down and told me to leave the guy and the party. and we talked for nearly 2 hours on the phone, he admitted to liking me back when and he wanted to make it up to me for not catching up in the first place. we were both tipsy but we both just wanted to talk on the phone. i admit i do like to message guy i like so this would've contributed to the problem, meaning i did message him a lot and he sometimes did and didn't answer. It comes to the end of semester and I'm happy to be going home and catching up with this guy, i was at a friends place when i got a bad feeling that he had disappeared of social media when i checked he was completely gone. nothing. literally ghosted. I didn't know at the time but when i returned to college and tried to work things out with the other guy only to find out he left college and wasn't going to return for the semester, i developed major depression, I drank almost every weekend, panic attacks, anxiety attacks everything, I couldn't sleep and eat like i was in a daze and I couldn't think anymore. I'm slowly recovering but cant help but wonder if i did something wrong, i feel i still have no closure about why he disappeared and i have this guilt over me like its all you , you did something wrong, and ill never know. i still cry because i actually liked this person so much, and compared to every other guy he was a gentlemen. This was the first time I ever experienced depression on this level. Apologies for the long Story. Literally feel lost.

unigirl1994 Stuck in a rut, life/work going nowhere.
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Hi all, It's been about 2 years since I posted. Since then I've just been at the same job, but now in a management role. A bullying incident ultimately led me to go off work due to anxiety/depression. I haven't worked since July 2017, and am looking ... View more

Hi all, It's been about 2 years since I posted. Since then I've just been at the same job, but now in a management role. A bullying incident ultimately led me to go off work due to anxiety/depression. I haven't worked since July 2017, and am looking for more jobs every day. But I'm feeling really down today - I apply for around 10 or so jobs every week. I have an interview for one finally, but its $10 less then my current and a traineeship for 12 months, with half the hours I currently work. Feeling conflicted because I desperately want to resign and work again, but part of me doesn't want to settle for a job for half the wage I'm on now considering I live out of home and don't want my partner to have to support me financially. He is happy to do so as he has a great job but part of me wants to stay free for a possible government job that I'm waiting to hear back on in the next 4 weeks. I'm totally anxious and down tonight, with no one to talk to. I don't know what I'm doing with my life, I feel like I'm never going to find another decent job that pays well or isn't fast food, considering this is the only interview/interest I've been given since January 2017 Feeling like I'll never be good enough to work anywhere else, as I've only had the one fast food job and that's it. Sorry for the rant, just need to vent.

emmielou00 Anxiety about new job
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Hi, I’m 17, just starting tear 12, and have really horrible anxiety. It isn’t really horrible but it is something i’ve dealt with for a long time. Last week, some people i very rarely babysit for offered me a job at their house doing some admin work ... View more

Hi, I’m 17, just starting tear 12, and have really horrible anxiety. It isn’t really horrible but it is something i’ve dealt with for a long time. Last week, some people i very rarely babysit for offered me a job at their house doing some admin work for them (shredding papers, scanning photos, spreadsheets etc). When i first said yes and went to their house it was all okay, i had some general nerves like i do before doing stuff like that, but after spending 7 hours at their house (the agreed time), i felt really anxious and tired and didn’t want to go back. They are really nice people and are paying me more than what i would earn at a part time job, but i am having really horrible anxiety about having to return there. I agreed to another two days but just the thought of having to go back there makes me start to cry, and its good money that i need. Previously before this i got a job at a mcdonalds, but quit after the first day because of how stressful it was and how anxious it made me feel. How can i get over my anxiety about going there and working for them without wanting to cry? Any help would be wonderful, thanks

brsajo Yo bro it's brsajo
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Hi. I'm brsajo (if you want ya could just call me Brad), and according to MindSpot and BeyondBlue's online tests I show symptoms of mild depression. This may or may not have to do with the fact that I recently played the game, 'Doki Doki Literature C... View more

Hi. I'm brsajo (if you want ya could just call me Brad), and according to MindSpot and BeyondBlue's online tests I show symptoms of mild depression. This may or may not have to do with the fact that I recently played the game, 'Doki Doki Literature Club' (I would recommend most people here avoid it; the disclaimer isn't there for no reason). Granted it's only since playing the game that I've lost sleep overthinking things and having existential thoughts, but I think quite a few of the other symptoms that have amplified were there for as long as I can remember, just in a more manageable low-key state. I feel kinda silly coming here because I underestimated a psychological horror video game, but at the same time I feel the need for support that I can't currently get from my friends due to difficulties in their own circumstances.

Belle_Rey19 Unsure about the future and going to University :-(
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Hi, I am 19 years old and just finished school last year, I am an introvert, have social anxiety and possibly depression. I have been accepted into a bachelor of arts course at university and while I should be happy about this, I am stuck, unsure, st... View more

Hi, I am 19 years old and just finished school last year, I am an introvert, have social anxiety and possibly depression. I have been accepted into a bachelor of arts course at university and while I should be happy about this, I am stuck, unsure, stressed, overwhelmed and conflicted. I have a lot of things I want to talk about if anyone is willing to listen?

Atomiser 20 year old man, social anxiety has seriously hurt my employment chances, feeling helpless.
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Hi, new member here. I'm currently searching for part-time and casual work to fill up my schedule (I only work one night a week) and it has been the most embarrassing experience of my life. I've applied to so many positions in retail and hospitality,... View more

Hi, new member here. I'm currently searching for part-time and casual work to fill up my schedule (I only work one night a week) and it has been the most embarrassing experience of my life. I've applied to so many positions in retail and hospitality, and have been declined at every turn. The only experience I have in a cafe setting is a couple months working a year ago and I was terrible at it. I couldn't make coffee, I made so many mistakes constantly, and I was terrible at customer service because I looked depressed apparently. I tried so hard to improve but I was let go because of how incompetent I was at a job that a 15 year old could do. Since that's some of the only experience I have I tried applying to other cafes, of the trials I had my hands were constantly shaking I couldn't follow their simple instructions and make coffee like they wanted and when I had a trial to be a kitchen hand I couldn't even cut freaking banana bread properly, and time is ticking I'm 20 years old and have no transferable skills, nothing I can put on my resume and be proud of. I just hate feeling so helpless, like I have nothing to offer and am simply just a burden on these employers. One of them nearly laughed in my face when he was interviewing, the falseness of their platitudes and their feigned sincerity when they reject me just makes me feel worse. I can handle a girl rejecting me just fine, I'm used to that, it's just with work I can't do anything. I just want to be normal.

kasey50 Just looking for some clarity
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If I read what I am about to write I'd honestly feel like saying to the person, "people have got worse problems in the world, this is pathetic" and to also "get over themselves," but here I am. At the moment I am eighteen years old, I am a quiet intr... View more

If I read what I am about to write I'd honestly feel like saying to the person, "people have got worse problems in the world, this is pathetic" and to also "get over themselves," but here I am. At the moment I am eighteen years old, I am a quiet introverted person who has a passion for netball and I am currently working at Mcdonalds. There I do not get many shifts, so I am now struggling to find a new job, but still living at home. Home life is odd for me as I'm living with my sister of 25 and her family, where I sometimes often felt like I'm wanted only if I do jobs constantly. My sister does try to help me but we are two very different people, it often does not end well. I've found it hard not going to school anymore, I don't know what to do with myself. I've been in a relationship for almost 3 months now, but when I am not with him I feel neutral and unmotivated, is this unhealthy? I love him ALOT. All these things keep swirling in my head, I just want to wipe it all out, the only things that make me happy are sport and my boyfriend. Sometimes I don't even like hanging out with my friends much. I visited a psych. at the end of 2016 and early last year at headspace to help my anxiety and depression, I learnt alot about people and about myself during the sessions. But now I feel empty, I feel as if I am going around in circles, I keep clashing heads with my sister and almost everyone, I find myself frustrated and not able to remember short term things very well etc. etc. I'm trying to think of solutions like going back to headspace, maybe taking a break from my boyfriend after I talk to him or going back to New Zealand where my parent live to regain ground, if that makes sense. If anyone can relate or share advice, it would go a long way. Thanks for reading.

justwanttobehappy123 i hate my birthday
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it’s my 18th birthday tomorrow and i feel like shit. i hate my birthday. yes i get a present from my parents and i’m sure my friends and boyfriend will get me something but my mum is sort of really encouraging (sort of forcing) me to have a birthday ... View more

it’s my 18th birthday tomorrow and i feel like shit. i hate my birthday. yes i get a present from my parents and i’m sure my friends and boyfriend will get me something but my mum is sort of really encouraging (sort of forcing) me to have a birthday dinner with my ‘close friends’ and it’s totallg stressing me out. everyone is coming but i haven’t hung out with my bestfriend from high school not at a party for a few months now, and my bestfriend is her bestfriend and they have totally stayed completely in touch and hang out all the time. my anxiety makes me feel like my friends don’t like me and i hate it. does anyone know how to overcome this? anyway back to the point, i’m totally stressing about my birthday and this dinner because i feel like everything just has to be good but at events like these i always feel insecure and get sad. but this time all the attention will be on me so i can’t be sad and i’m really stressing out because i don’t have anything to wear and i know i will feel insecure and i don’t want to freak out before or at my party. i don’t really know what i’m asking, i guess just for someone to talk to about this even though there’s not much more to say 🤷🏼‍🤦🏼‍

Kodybear00 New and need advice on anxiety at work
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I have been struggling with what I think is anxiety since 2015 when I finished year 12. I never experience a panic attack (only smaller anxiety symptoms) until December last year. I had one right before I was suppose to go to my new job and I can’t e... View more

I have been struggling with what I think is anxiety since 2015 when I finished year 12. I never experience a panic attack (only smaller anxiety symptoms) until December last year. I had one right before I was suppose to go to my new job and I can’t explain how horrible I felt. I felt sick to the core and I couldn’t breathe. I’ve since been at this job for 1-2 weeks and today when I got into the office I had the same sick feeling and sense of fear. When I finally went on my lunch break I called my mum for advise and immediately after dialing I started to panic. Mum helped me through it and she told me to go and talk to my boss. I was so scared, more scared than i think I’ve ever been- but I like to think I’m a strong enough person so I wiped my tears took some deep breaths and walked in to her office. I immediately started to get upset again, because the fear of discussing this with my boss was so overmelhing. She asked if I was ok and I then started to explain my issue to her- mid sentence she cut me off and said “ I have a meeting in 1 minute so if you could go upstairs or whatever because I’m paying him hourly”. Quote exactly what she said. Mind you, I’m still quivering trying to explain what is happening. There was no expression on her face and whilst she was telling me about this meeting she got up and walked out towards the foyer area. Please tell me, am I wrong in saying that she handled it so unprofessional and that I have every right to hand in my resignation?? I know it probably seems that I’m over reacting but issues like this shouldn’t be palmed off and now I am more afraid to go into work than I ever was before! Can someone please tell me what to do from here? (Ps- if you’re going to suggest to try speak to her again please hold off because I don’t think that’s going to change how she would react!!!)

Vers Need advice on what to do next
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m 19 years old, technically in my second year of uni even though i failed all of first year due to having a panic attack just before my first lot of exams and being unable to leave my room for the next week and a bit and then not being able to go bac... View more

m 19 years old, technically in my second year of uni even though i failed all of first year due to having a panic attack just before my first lot of exams and being unable to leave my room for the next week and a bit and then not being able to go back to uni for second sem without needing to throw up. and as you could imagine im just over everything. Im sick of waking up sad and im sick of doubting if my friends even want me around and im sick of not being able to even go to the shops without feeling judged for everything about myself. I've been dealing with anxiety for aslong as i can remeber and was "diagnosed" with "acute anxiety" when i was in year 3 or when i was 9years old. I have always gotten anxious about everything but lately the anxiety has been reaching boiling point and unless im drunk or i just can't stop myself from thinking negatively. Especially when i think about the future. Im always going to be compared to my brother who does engineering and is already heading towards his dream career while im just barely reaching matks that he could get in his sleep. Honestly all im doing is giving him something extra to worry about and putting him at a disadvantage. I'm sure if anyone actually reads this they will have read hundreds of others just like it and im sorry for wasting your time but i just straight up don't know what to do anymore. Im sick of disappointing everyone and myself but i have no idea what i should do to try and fix this. Any advice on how i can start to overcome this is appreciated..

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