Struggling to find my place

[maygirl]

I am 22 and I have been struggling for the last 2 months in particular, but am really feeling now I am close to breaking point.

Have moved to Darwin for work, leaving my mum and brothers and close friends behind.

This time last year i was the fittest at my work, I had energy.

Now, I struggle to get out of bed and shower everyday, I have no interest in keeping fit anymore. I find excuses to not go to work.

My partner of 12 months works away during the week, and I am told to stop comparing myself to couples that have sex.

I want to move back home to family but feel like i would regret leaving a stable job and would be judged for going back to live with my mum.

My relationship has fallen apart, I hate my job and I don't know what the purpose of anything is anymore. I have seen mental health professionals and they just tell me it's a 'phase'. i've never had any history of health issues, i've lived with my body for the last 22 years... i know something is not right with me.

[Jessicatherese94]

Hi Maygirl,

We have lots in common, I'm also 22 and have suffered from mental health issues in the past. And I promise you that you will get through this and it will be worth it. That I can honestly promise. What kind of work are you doing? Is it the work you really want to be doing? I think it's really important to find a work place that you at least slightly like, so if you really hate your field and think that moving back home is the right thing to do then follow your gut. No one is judging you for going back home, there is nothing wrong with asking for help and being with your family and friends during what sounds like a very difficult time for you. As someone who is probably going to live at home until I'm 26 I can promise you that if people judge you they are not worth even thinking about. Do you have any close friends or family you can talk to about this? If I were you I'd go and see a GP to get a referral to a psychologist. Most mental health professionals wouldn't tell you it was a 'phase', they would take you very seriously and help you. Sometimes you do have to 'shop around' so to speak in order to find a psychologist that best suits your needs. In the meantime you could try downloading the app Booster Buddy, it has helped me so much. Please let me know how you're going. J.

[Nervybella]

Hey Maygirl,

Sounds like you're going through a rough patch right now.

All I can really say is go with your gut. If you have a gut feeling about something, you have to trust it.

I am slowly learning that my gut is more often than not right. I should trust it more. If I did, I could have avoided some pain.

No one should judge you for doing what you need to do for your own health. And as Jessica said, if they do, they aren't worth having around.

I hope you can find someone you can talk to in Darwin. It must be hard moving away from family and friends.

Please look after yourself, and let us know how you are, if you feel up to it

Hugs,

Bella

[geoff]

hello Maygirl, by saying 'it's just a phase' from a medical professional is disappointing and not what you would ever expect, because it seems that you are really home-sick, that's a horrible thought, as I have also had this feeling when I was young, and always thought that I was missing my parents, but I eventually found out that it wasn't anything to with them, it was my home, my room, the environment I was used to and people who I knew.
The saying 'stop comparing myself to couples that have sex', has different meanings, the first one is obvious, that they are having fun where you aren't, and the second is that they do have someone in their life, whereas you may not at that present time.
Going back home may not necessarily mean 'going back to mum', you could find a small flat/unit close to her, and this could then satisfy your needs, as I've said missing your previous environment and surroundings may make you feel better, the first rule is to look after yourself, because pretending will never help you. Geoff.