Hello again, i'll keep this short. I think confidence/relationships is a chicken and egg problem. When you are really down on confidence, you do need a confidence booster to help you.
So rather than trying to build confidence from nothing, it's about recognising the positives even in the rejections.
A quick story:
After about 7 months of what I saw as failures with online dating apps I met a nice person and we dated for about a month and half. But just after we'd started dating exclusively, she cut it off abruptly and just said she realised she wasn't attracted to me, sorry, but bye.
I was pretty crushed but what got me back on track was the thought which said: okay, it didn't work out because you are ugly, but even so, she must've at least enjoyed your company right?
Having that admittedly not perfectly good thought really helped because even though I struggled, and still struggle, with body image issues, I could at least start to see the positive of, "I can hold a conversation".
So I'd say find what you think is your good quality, and we all have them (even if they're not what we want), then really own that.
I totally agree with you when you say that your depression and anxiety will stop you from starting a relationship, but you are more than those two things, even if they feel overwhelming. If you can find something aside from anxiety and depression which you identify with, or even just good patterns as basic as being neat/good cook/handy/intelligent, and own that, people will be attracted.
Whether they'll like you as a friend or more, you can't control, but perhaps it's time to be more than your depression and anxiety. After all, people can't be attracted to your good qualities if you don't show them off a bit right?
James
