Someone please help me

Rachel_A
Community Member

At the beginning of the year I started medication for the first time, but a few weeks ago I just stopped taking them and cancelled all my psychology appointments. I don't know why I've done this.

Im also recently been a compulsive lier to my parents. I lie cause I feel it's just easier. Since lying to them, they have found out I have lied and are very disappointed in me. Now that they know they don't know whether to believe me or not, I don't even believe myself. I haven't told them about stopping my medication and cancelling my appointments. After all this I now can't talk to my parents cause I'm scared of what they are going to think of me and how they are going to feel. I don't know what to say to them anymore. 

I stay at my boyfriends house every night to avoid them, I sometimes don't even go home for a few days. 

I'm just so lost and confused I don't know what I am doing. I'm scared I have lost my parents. 

 please someone help me! I don't think I can cope much longer. 

Rachel

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Zeal
Community Member

Hi Rachel,

It's really important that you see your GP as soon as possible. Medications such as antidepressants must be weaned off gradually, as stopping them abruptly can cause side effects and emotional issues. If you don't have a GP you have seen regularly before, you could find a local clinic and make an appointment there. Your GP will assess whether you need to go back on your medication, try new meds, or make just lifestyle changes.

Lying, as you have discovered, can get you into some tricky situations. Try working out why you lie, and in what sorts of situations you tend to lie the most. If you get to the root cause and the emotions behind the lying, then I think you'll have a better chance of being able to put a stop to it. It sounds as if your lying has only, or mainly, been to your parents. You need to apologise and try your best to gain their trust back. Your parents will most likely forgive you, because family tend to do that, especially when it's clear a family member is struggling, and if they can tell you are genuinely sorry.

My main advice is to be honest and open with your parents. Choose a time when you and your parents are relaxed and not stressed for time, and explain how you're feeling and your concerns about them not trusting you. When they hear that you feel regret and really want to remedy the situation, I think they will want to help you and support you.

I can say with almost certainty that you haven't lost your parents. Go back home and talk to them as soon as possible.

Good luck with everything,

SM

 

 

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

dear Rachel, hi and welcome to BB forum.

Well I can't say much more than what SM has given you.

Being a parent myself I would hate to lose any contact with my two sons, and if for any reason there are problems, and there always is, they can be sorted out, a bit of 'give and take'.

They would love you, as I'm sure you do for them, so all you have to do is make a phone call. Geoff. x