Social Anxiety and Work Experiance

SkyWay
Community Member

Okay, so I've never written one of these before but I'm starting work experience tomorrow at a music shop...and I'm getting slightly nervous. Okay, nervous is an understatement. I don't even know how to introduce myself when I first walk in to the shop...do I ask for the guy I talked to on the phone?! What if someone asks me for a favour like getting them coffee?! GAH! I'm so nervous that I'll stuff up or act awkward or just be myself really...

AND I HAVE TO DO THIS FOR THE REST OF THE WEEK!!!!!!

I talked to my parents about this but they don't understand they think I'm just shy. I'm really regretting ever doing this in the first place. And most of the people there are going to be outgoing!!! People keep asking how I feel and when I say nervous they respond "Yeah but excited right?". I'm definitely not excited. Maybe I was for the first few seconds when I found out Id be doing this, and then instant regret and anxiety took over. I don't know if I can do this.

 HELP 😞

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Jacko777
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi SkyWay,

Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums, well done for posting.

Do you have any methods for finding calmness that have worked for you in the past? You could try some meditation or breathing exercises, i do 4 seconds in 4 seconds out, not too deep, tell myself to relax on the out breath, repeat until you feel calmer, you can do this anytime.

Know that doing your best will be good enough. I would adopt the mindset that, other people can do this, so can I. You can do this. A music shop hey? Are you interested in music?

When faced with  anxiousness I practice keeping love in my heart. I would love that I am doing work experience instead of being in a classroom, I would love that a music shop would be a cool and laid back place to be, I would love the people that are prepared to give me some of their time to show me their job. You cannot have love and fear in your heart at the same time. Some times I can switch that feeling of anxiousness, I tell myself that I'm not anxious, I AM excited! I tell myself, I do this every day. Sorry we missed your first day before replying, how did you go?

Without challenges we stop growing mentally, practice thankfulness for the opportunity to grow, try not to regret something that will bring you benefit. And if your parents will listen maybe you could tell them that you are not just shy and you wouldn't mind some help thanks very much!!

Jack

Chris_B
Community Manager (Retired)
Community Manager (Retired)

Hi SkyWay, welcome to the forums.You're not alone in dealing with social anxiety.

Have a look through the two threads below recently started by our members Katie101, Jukee and kelliew  - perhaps you can share some coping strategies together?

Social anxiety - by Katie 101

I can't handle the social anxiety anymore - by Kelliew

Social anxiety - by Jukee