Relationships and anxiety

[gBoop]

Hi, I am a student in high school and i got asked out by a guy and i actually had a anxiety attack and completely broke down. I actually really like him but i have so much trouble with relationships and i dont know what to do.

[music_my-life]

you sound a little like a friend of mine. my only advice is this: if he is an understanding sort of guy then try to talk to him and explain and for all you know he could be an amazing listener and show his understanding and caring nature ( believe me its hard to find it in guys of 21 century) and just let him take it in. talking to each other on the phone is also really helpful for those who are anxious and it helps them stay to a slightly calmer level. I tend to find it easy to write notes and it always got my point across to my ex/best mate and it could seriously help you

good luck. I wish I had more advice but maybe your welfare teacher does

tc and again good luck

[Zeal]

Hi gBoop,

Welcome to the forum!

I second Music my life's advice about being honest with this guy. As he witnessed the panic attack, I think it is the best approach in this situation. He could be very understanding. You could approach him at school when he's alone and there are not too many people around. He will probably respect you for being honest. You could say you get anxious at times, and that you were nervous but happy when he asked you out. If you would like to try going out with this guy, perhaps then say "so I will say yes to your offer" Smile and be friendly and genuine. Nervousness often isn't a turn-off, especially when you are sincere and honest about your feelings. If talking to him in-person is too anxiety-provoking, try talking online. Facebook chat is really handy for this!

It's great that a guy you really like asked you out, by the way. I actually never got asked out in high school. I was so shy and lacked confidence. I just turned 23, and I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 9 months. He is an amazing person and I feel so lucky to be with him. I only had my first boyfriend at 21, and I was nervous and inexperienced.

Try seeing your GP about your anxiety attacks. Seeking help for anxiety is crucial, especially as symptoms can definitely be improved (and sometimes even eliminated)! Anxiety is treatable, so there is hope. I have had anxiety for years, but it is mild now and doesn't prevent me from doing things in my life.

Good luck with talking to this guy 🙂

Best wishes,

SM

[Fairywings]

hey hunny the fact that he asked you out means he likes you and wants to get to know you better. Your anxiety is not something u should be ashamed of in any way because if he is an understanding guy he will walk this journey with you and support you through your toughest days. its really cute how you guys are at high school together just reminds me of my high school sweetheart years later are married. I suffered too with anxiety through my high school days but being in a relationship where I felt comfortable and safe and supported really made the difference and it sounds to me that he will support you and be there for you. If you think you are going to find it hard to talk to him about it write to him or as music in my life commented talk to him over the phone. Face to face confrontation can be a little overwhelming at times. Good luck sweet take hope hope this all works out for you.