Not having anyone

[S98]

So recently me and my (only) friend stop talking due to many issues, and I now have no one. I feel so alone and as i'm dealing with anxiety and depression its hard not having any friends to turn to or to go out with. Are there any ideas on how to meet new people?

I do have a boyfriend but its good to have another outlet and have someone more understanding.

thanks, S.

[PamelaR]

Hello S98

Welcome to Beyond Blue forums. I've read your other thread 'unsure' asking about people's self administration to hospital.

It's good you've found the community. It's a very caring, supportive, friendly and non judgemental place to be. If you feel like it, have a look around the forums to see what people are saying, do a search in BB search field for - 'hospital admission'.

To help you in the best possible way, I usually ask questions. There is no pressure though for you to answer anything you don't want to.

You're right about talking - I find it very helpful in trying to sort out what's in my head. Generally, I do this by seeing a psychologist who helps me develop the tools I need to function. Are you seeing anyone?

I note in your other thread you have tried medication. Are you still seeing your gp about your anxiety and depression?

Self hospitalisation is a way to get back on track if you think you need to do that. Have you tried calling or chatting to mental health support services that are available, e.g.

Beyond Blue Support Service 1300 224 636

Lifeline 13 11 14

eHeadspace 1800 650 890

Do a google search for these organisations if you would rather chat online.

Keep reaching out S98. You're not alone at all.

If you feel like it, we'd like to hear a little more about how you are feeling and why. No pressure though.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[S98]

Hi Pamela,

I was seeing a psychologist for months and it did help but I feel like I just need a friend more than anything.

I have stopped taking the medication for over two years now and I no longer see a gp about my anxiety and depression.

I feel so down because I feel like no one understands what’s going on in my head besides from my mum. She’s the only person I can really talk to. I never leave the house and don’t communicate with any girls my age.

I also feel guilty for feeling like this because I know there are people out there who are going through worse problems than me.

Thankyou for taking the time to reply to me.

Regards, S.

[llllllhx]

Hi S,

I have the same problem as you. It's like I don't know how to communicate anymore. And I like staying in my apartment as well. I think it is mainly insecure in our mind.

I hope we can soon have someone in our life that can communicate with and get rid of the lonely feeling.

Cheers, Louis

[PamelaR]

Hello S98

Oh, I can tell by what you've written you are down. My heart goes out to you. I understand your need to have someone to talk to. I too have craved this for a very long time. Though I've learnt, the best people to talk to are the health professionals. Friends and partners, while they can empathise with me, there is little to move or to motivate me forward. That's needed when one has mental health issues. It's so easy to stay in the same hole.

What are some of the reasons for you not leaving the house? Have you finished school?

How does your mum help you when you talk with her?

Keep reaching out S98, but remember though - only if you want to.

Kind regards

PamelaR

[S98]

Hi,

I work from home so I never leave and I finished school a while ago. My mum goes through similar issues and has the same thoughts so we tend to relate to most things.

I do wish my partner understood what i'm going through and put more of an effort in even though i've tried to explain how I feel and what i'm going through. In terms of health professionals they did help me too but its just not what i'm looking for if you get me.

Regards S.

[J-J]

Hi S,

How about meet up groups, book clubs, Yoga classes, volunteer Animal Welfare League!

It feels really lonely sometimes, I would also get back in touch with a GP so your mental health plan is up to date.

JJ

[S98]

Thanks louis, I hope so too, no fun being lonely.

Regards S.

[S98]

Thanks JJ, I have applied to do some volunteer work so I work it helps me!

Regards S.