no friends= depression.

[Taraa]

Okay I'll try to make this short and sweet.

So a little over a year ago I lost all my childhood friends from the town I lived in when I got a boyfriend and moved. It all started over silly stuff (mainly a friend of mine from where I live now did something they didn't like and hated me and my partner in association) 

So it took me a long time to pick myself up from that as I lost my best friend, and like 10 other close friends, neither the less I manage to get over it enough to move on.\

So  a month ago, my friends (I didn't have a lot to begin with; I had that many friends that they all knew each other) yep. So my guy friends were going to have a lan party (is a night of drinking and playing computer games) so it was all organized and then one of my friends decided to change the day, and it was obvious is was because his girlfriend could drink all night (it's hard to explain but he basically picked his gf over his brother) so I kinda just pointed that out and in a nice way, this resulted in my friends gf cracking it and getting drunk and bad mouthing me behind my back to my best friend (who lost her mum about a year ago and apart from her bf I've been her rock and she always says I'm her only friend) and evidently this so called 'best friend' has bad mouthed about me back.

so in conclusion two brothers and there girlfriends all of which live together: all aren't talking to me and my partner even though we were like family. (need to mention that the girlfriends hated each other!)

So basically I have lost the ability to trust. I cant stop crying. I feel like I'm screaming and no ones listening, and nothing my man says really fixes me. I feel like I have no friends. I've been a victim of bullying most of my life and having friends is something i feel i need to be okay.

Some one please help advice anything. thanks for reading!

[MrsCam]

sorry if this sounds harsh but it sounds to me like these people were never true friends to begin with as a true friend would not turn against you just because of what someone else said... I understand how the craving to feel like you belong can really impact on your sense of self worth, its like we need others to accept us so we can validate ourselves but try not to let that craving make you are target for people who will take advantage of it... perhaps you could look into pursuing a hobby or interest either with your partner or on your own, this may help you meet some new people that you may have something in common with, other than the fact that your partners are all mates... goodluck

[geoff]

dear Taraa, I agree with Mrs. Cam who has an abundance of knowledge and I believe your only in your 30's and please forgive me if I'm off the mark.

This is typical of 'friends' who just drop us like a bag of spuds, and no different than what they do when we have depression, they aren't what we really call 'friends', they use every moment to take advantage of us, and will demoralise us at every moment they can, so as hard as it is at the moment you are much better off without them.

However this won't help you at the moment, because it is heartbreaking, to suddenly lose them, but depression is creeping in here for you, and I can relate so much to this and what has happened, which does mean that you are going to struggle for awhile, so now is the time to go and visit your doctor.

You have to try and knock this on the head in the early stages, and before it affects you and the rest of your life, so please visit your doctor, and it would be great for you to let us know how you are going. L Geoff. x

[MrsCam]

I dont know about an abundance of knowledge but thats nice of you to say geoff 🙂

Taraa I hope you have someone whom you can truley trust and rely on who you can talk to openly about how you are feeling... perhaps you could see you gp for a referal for some counselling?? goodluck 🙂

[Taraa]

Thank you guys for you're replies.

I am organizing counselling/going to the doctors.

Im feeling better each day, and I am actually starting a blog and a vlog on youtube so hopefully if I throw myself intto that I believe I can manage 🙂 x

[MrsCam]

sounds like you are taking some positive steps 🙂

good luck