My life has fallen apart.....

Ringdabadong
Community Member
Im a 16 male in highschool (year 10) and im just failing at the moment. I'm a smart kid i can get really good grades and do incredible work but i just cant get myself to do it. Its monday and i skipped school today to do my 3 essays that are due and i still cant do them. The plan was to spend the weekend doing homework yet i couldent. i was distracted doing everything else on my laptop. i have been in bed for litrally 3 days and still have not done a single thing for my homework. i have a 1000 word essay that was due 4 days ago which is very important and a portfolio due for d'n't that i havent even started and my english which is another 1000 word essay. I have hdhd but i dont think that should matter. Im not eating allot i dont like the food that is in the house i have not eaten allot for 3 days, everytime i get out of bed i feel dizzy as i normally do. With school i have not been ontime once for maybe 1 year.... Gaps in the system have let me gotten away from trouble until now yet im still doing it. i go to sleep to late and find it hard to fall asleep. im adicted to not getting of ontime. I have fights with my family and mum. My room is the biggest mess. I can name so much that is just going absolutely horribly. Everything i have no a meeting with the school and my dad ( i live with my mum) because of skipping school and i still havent done my assisgments gone to gym and i want to or eaten anything tbh for the past 3 days. I go to a private school and its about 30 grand a year for me and i dont do anything

PLEASE HELP ME ACTUALLY NEED IT THINGS ARE GETTING SO BAD AND I DOUBT I CAN STILL DO MY HOMEWORK FROM ANY REPLYS BUT ALL IS WELCOME.
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white knight
Community Champion
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Hi Ringdabadong, welcome to Beyond Blue forums

Well ADHD does have a lot to do with your current predicament. Lack of focus, motivation and being distracted all play their part in the elusive mental disorder of ADHD.

Get an appointment with your doctor and discuss this. My guess is that you are in some sort of cycle and you cant break through it. In the meantime-

Don't ever give up. Ever!!!  Put stickers on your laptop reminding you that you need to complete a certain assignment. Put reminders in your phone to ring as alarms (very effective) and confide in your mother.

Have a heart to heart with her. Tell her you are struggling. Ask her if she could spare 20 minutes to help you clean your room, that alone you are simply not capable of it.

Perhaps get her to read this post?

As hard as this period is remember that often these slumps are temporary and you will recover.

Tony WK

Have a heart to heart with her. Tell her you are struggling. Ask her if she could spare 20 minutes to help you clean your room, that alone you are simply not capable of it.Perhaps get her to read this post?

very smart im going to now try do my assisgment in one go and hand it in tommorow should feel very rewarding!!

heyyouthere
Community Member

Hi Ringdabadong,

From past experience, I too was experiencing something very similar to you when i was in my senior year. Considering i never asked for help, it came to the point where i was unable to finish my schooling because i became extremely unwell. Even though there are some differences to what you are experiencing to my circumstance, i can honestly say that communication is key. Communication is extremely important!!

My advice to you would be to talk to someone. I applaud you though for writing this post and sharing your struggles with us, you are going in the right direction. When i was in your situation, the reason why I was reluctant to talk to someone/ seek help was mainly due to being judged or i was too embarrassed. Please don't make the same mistake i had done!

Even though i was fortunate enough for help to come to me, the more you leave it, the worse it could get. I highly suggest you seek some help, whether it would be a friend, family member, teacher, school counsellor.......anyone you feel comfortable talking to. Be honest and express your concerns and see where you go from there. In most cases, when you feel that your tackling an issue by yourself, it could cause alot more stress and exhaustion. You aren't alone and there's alot of help out there. Keep strong and you will get there 🙂