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My life has fallen apart.....

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Im a 16 male in highschool (year 10) and im just failing at the moment. I'm a smart kid i can get really good grades and do incredible work but i just cant get myself to do it. Its monday and i skipped school today to do my 3 essays that are due and ... View more

Im a 16 male in highschool (year 10) and im just failing at the moment. I'm a smart kid i can get really good grades and do incredible work but i just cant get myself to do it. Its monday and i skipped school today to do my 3 essays that are due and i still cant do them. The plan was to spend the weekend doing homework yet i couldent. i was distracted doing everything else on my laptop. i have been in bed for litrally 3 days and still have not done a single thing for my homework. i have a 1000 word essay that was due 4 days ago which is very important and a portfolio due for d'n't that i havent even started and my english which is another 1000 word essay. I have hdhd but i dont think that should matter. Im not eating allot i dont like the food that is in the house i have not eaten allot for 3 days, everytime i get out of bed i feel dizzy as i normally do. With school i have not been ontime once for maybe 1 year.... Gaps in the system have let me gotten away from trouble until now yet im still doing it. i go to sleep to late and find it hard to fall asleep. im adicted to not getting of ontime. I have fights with my family and mum. My room is the biggest mess. I can name so much that is just going absolutely horribly. Everything i have no a meeting with the school and my dad ( i live with my mum) because of skipping school and i still havent done my assisgments gone to gym and i want to or eaten anything tbh for the past 3 days. I go to a private school and its about 30 grand a year for me and i dont do anythingPLEASE HELP ME ACTUALLY NEED IT THINGS ARE GETTING SO BAD AND I DOUBT I CAN STILL DO MY HOMEWORK FROM ANY REPLYS BUT ALL IS WELCOME.

I don't know anymore

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So for the past year I have become heavily involved in school. Last year was a bad year for me with my grades and I just wasn't happy with them, so this year I decided to step up my game and do better, which has been working because I nearly got A's ... View more

So for the past year I have become heavily involved in school. Last year was a bad year for me with my grades and I just wasn't happy with them, so this year I decided to step up my game and do better, which has been working because I nearly got A's in all of my subjects except for one, which I got a B in. Except lately I just feel like I can't deal with it anymore. I become stressed so easily and every time I sit down to do a test or assignment I just think to myself how I'm going to fail it and that I'm not good enough for anything and I just have this fight with my brain everyday. On the outside I look like someone who has my life together and all my friends and even teachers just expect me to be the best student who achieves top grades but really, I am crying every night over these stupid assignments and tests. I've planned out this great future where I am going to get excellent grades in grade 11 and 12 (currently in grade 10), and then go to university and study a bachelor of science but I just don't know if I can do it and I don't want to end up with a basic job. I want to have a great life and have enough money to support myself but I just can't see it working out. Ugh, it's just so hard to put into words how this is affecting me but every day its just a constant battle with my mind that nobody sees, that nobody knows about, and I don't know how to deal with it. I don't even know if it's anxiety or something because I have never talked about it with anybody before. I just wish it would stop.

Can anxiety cause someone to become apathetic?

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I saw the doctor about my horrible sleeping pattern. He asked me a few questions about what I think about when I try to sleep etc. He threw the word 'anxiety' around and said he wants to refer me to a psychologist before he makes a diagnoses. I have ... View more

I saw the doctor about my horrible sleeping pattern. He asked me a few questions about what I think about when I try to sleep etc. He threw the word 'anxiety' around and said he wants to refer me to a psychologist before he makes a diagnoses. I have a few symptoms, the main ones being a loss of appetite, nausea and extreme mental fatigue (cant concentrate, memory problems etc). The symptom that has affected me the most is my lack of enthusiasm. I know it is really noticeable because other people have been telling me of recent that I seem 'unenthusiastic', and sometimes I just want to scream because deep inside I am enthusiastic but I dont have the energy to show it. This is really frustrating because I am losing friends because I just dont have the energy to have a proper conversation with them, which makes me feel anxious because they will then think im mad at them when really im not. So i just avoid that all together by staying inside. I also lost a job offer because I came across as 'uninterested', but I know that deep down I really wanted the job. Its really frustrating. I remember when everyone used to tell me how enthusiastic I was about life and now ive changed in so many ways because of whatever Is going wrong in my mind. The most annoying part is I have no idea where this came from, its just gradually gotten worse as time has gone by and now its so bad that im noticing its causing a problem. With all that being said, can anxiety cause someone to become apathetic or is that more related to depression?

can't share

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i find it really hard to share things about myself, especially about my depression or anxiety stuff. its really hard when people ask if you're okay and you just really cant tell them but they wont let it go. i hate it when my teachers ask me why i wa... View more

i find it really hard to share things about myself, especially about my depression or anxiety stuff. its really hard when people ask if you're okay and you just really cant tell them but they wont let it go. i hate it when my teachers ask me why i was late or away and my only answer if "well i couldn't get myself out of bed this morning" but i cant actually say that i think im afraid of what people might say if they knew, most people don't understand. i wish i could find a way to be open about it without other people judging me or thinking im an attention seeker

Helping someone who doesn't want help

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Hi, My wife has depression. She's seen a councillor and the councillor made her discuss some confronting stuff and also wasn't really easy to understand so my wife refuses to seek further help. She still reluctantly takes her medication after I go ge... View more

Hi, My wife has depression. She's seen a councillor and the councillor made her discuss some confronting stuff and also wasn't really easy to understand so my wife refuses to seek further help. She still reluctantly takes her medication after I go get it for her.I've called lifeline services and spoken to GP's but don't feel I am getting answers. There was a time when my mother in-law (wife's mother) and myself were suggesting things to help and it was too overwhelming and it caused her to go into a deeper depression. So between my mother in-law and me, we've decided that my mother in-law is just there for her and has general conversations and there to listen. I've agreed to tread lightly but be open to suggesting things in a gentle manner. We had a good week were we were able to get her to the GP and he suggested a book called Feeling Good by David Burns. I've downloaded it and started reading it. Yet my wife refuses to start the book because she thinks its going to be one of those american motivational speech books which I've assured her its not and explained its non-confrontational and so far the book has not asked me to think back into my past. It just explains depression and has ways to rethink or reassess the feelings you are having (CBT). I thought writing a post would be beneficial to get a range of ideas from people instead of just the help lines which I haven't had luck with so far.So has anyone out there got any ideas of how to get someone to help themselves when they refuse? Deep down I think she wants me to help. I know we can fix this as a team but we're lost as to how to get her to help herself. beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:10.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:115%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family:"Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-theme-font:minor-bidi; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

Anxious about future and relationships.

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Hi everyone, I'm pretty new and I wasn't quite sure where this belonged. I've been feeling really anxious for a long time now about being single. I'm 22 going on 23 at the end of the year, and I haven't had a relationship since I was 19 when I was wi... View more

Hi everyone, I'm pretty new and I wasn't quite sure where this belonged. I've been feeling really anxious for a long time now about being single. I'm 22 going on 23 at the end of the year, and I haven't had a relationship since I was 19 when I was with my first and last partner. We were together for seven months, but his high school sweet heart came back from teaching in France...so I was no longer needed. I was hurt over it for quite a while, understandably. For the past two weeks, I've been more anxious than I have ever been before, to the point where I'm finding it hard to concentrate or even enjoy my day without constantly worrying about finding someone. This came about because I found out that my ex is now engaged to the girl he cheated on me with. I can say that I have no feelings for him in that way anymore, but I still have that tinge of hurt and I'm actually more upset that he's obviously had this wonderful relationship and has taken the next step, while I have struggled to meet someone, and have had a bit of a rough time. I've been on dates, either I like them, they don't like me, or vice versa. I just haven't felt that click, and it doesn't help when I have friends and family who tell me to get a move on, that the clock is ticking, and comments like, ''the last one seemed like a nice guy, what was wrong with him?'' and ''you're too picky''. I don't think I am too picky, I just want someone that I like and don't see a point in settling.I've also noticed that pretty much all my friends are in relationships, and some of them are also getting engaged...and they're my age! I feel like I can't keep up. I realize it's not a race, but I would really love to meet someone nice and have a long term relationship. I feel like I've achieved a lot in these past three years, I'm ambitious, I work hard...heck I even worked hard at finding a job! (That was a real struggle back in 2013 because I didn't have much experience). I went back to study, redid my year 12, studied art, Education Support and next year I'll be at Uni, I'm friendly, I'm nice, I'm not a model, but I would say I'm attractive, I don't understand why it hasn't happened for me yet. I have tried. I have Tafe friends, go out places with them and a church community. Yet nothing. I suppose what I'm asking is, has anyone else been through this, or going through this? For those who have someone in their lives, how did you meet them? Did it just happen one day or did you somehow make it happen?

Progressively Getting Worse

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Hey guys, so this is my first time ever doing something like this. I've read a lot of other stories and have related to most of what they have said. My life story is literally my life story if that makes sense. I never thought I would be the depresse... View more

Hey guys, so this is my first time ever doing something like this. I've read a lot of other stories and have related to most of what they have said. My life story is literally my life story if that makes sense. I never thought I would be the depressed type because I have been made fun of (in a funny way) that I am overdramatic, so I never took my depression seriously. I've recently been feeling more anxious at the most random of times and depressed, yet also somewhat excited/happy all at the same time. I don't know what is happening to me, but I've been crying a lot more lately and its freaking me out because I used to never cry while watching the notebook or sad movies. Silly example but applying this to my daily life I have also been dealing with these feelings when with my friends whether it be at social gatherings or one on one get togethers with family or friends. I want to be out socializing but once I am I find myself not wanting to be with whom ever I am with and I just want to be in my bed and cry myself to sleep. I don't even know where I should categorize myself when trying to google information on what might be happening to me. I just feel like I am going crazy and I used to blame these emotions on my period, but now its happening when I am not even on it. I talked to some friends and family and they had suggested over the counter mood enhancers. I guess the real question I want to be answered is, should I take this more seriously and go see a doctor or psychiatrist or should I just self-medicate with the mood enhancers from a pharmacy and see where it goes from there. I am also getting freaked out because I have been reflecting on my whole life and who I even am and its making me freak out even more. Any advice will honestly help. I feel like it was getting worse by months, but then that turned into weeks, and now i feel like its getting worse by days. Thanks for those of you who took the time to read this long thing. Again any advice would really help, I don't even know what to do. So lost. Thanks.

My boyfriend broke up with me because of his depression

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To set the background to this story i have anxiety disorder and my boyfriend (ex) has depression. Basically my boyfriend has been ignoring me for a week now and hasn't been going to school or talking to any of his friends and our first conversation w... View more

To set the background to this story i have anxiety disorder and my boyfriend (ex) has depression. Basically my boyfriend has been ignoring me for a week now and hasn't been going to school or talking to any of his friends and our first conversation was him breaking up with me over the phone saying "It's not you its me, i need to focus on myself" when our relationship revolved around him but he hasn't been the same i've had him ignore me before but he would tell me "i need space" and i would wait until he was ready to talk. We had a party on the day we broke up and i had to get everyone at the party to persuade him to talk to me because before then he would run from me and even when we were talking i would have to chase him but i would try to talk to him and he would scream "leave me alone" but i know that he needs someone to vent to and i am so worried about him. I would reach to comfort him and he will grab my wrists, push me away, scream "don't touch me" and then start crying. It kills me to see him like this but i know he let his depression take over and my friends have told me that his depression broke up with me it wasn't him. He's not being himself, he's never been like this and i know he will regret breaking up with me because he's not himself but i'm so scared he's going to hurt himself because my anxiety makes me think of the worst outcome and he probably isn't going to turn up to school tomorrow and he isn't talking to me but i need to be there for him no matter how much he pushes me away because he's not liked by 98% of the grade because he tries too hard to be liked and can be mean. It is only me and his best friend that can help him. I think his depression made him break up with me and i want to give us another chance but i'm worried about him, i've never seen him this scary and upset. He was ready to punch me but instead he would go and punch a pole which would be dangerously close to me but i always put my feelings last, i want to make sure he's ok but i think i was too persistent in talking to him i don't know when he will come to school. So what can i do to help him? and is it true that his depression broke up with me and not him because he was happy and talking about how we were going to live together the night before he started ignoring me. So is it true? (i'm only 16 btw and he's 15)

am i just over reacting?

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Okay so i have recently started to develop some symptoms of anxiety... I'm more thinking maybe social anxiety. I cant talk in front of crowds, i hate talking in front of class, i hate participating in sport, i don't like asking questions or asking fo... View more

Okay so i have recently started to develop some symptoms of anxiety... I'm more thinking maybe social anxiety. I cant talk in front of crowds, i hate talking in front of class, i hate participating in sport, i don't like asking questions or asking for help and i don't like talking to people at shops or over the phone.... I also get really nervous if i have appointments or anything of that kind. I cant eat before them even if i know exactly what is going to happen. I also hate staying at other people houses... i think it has gotten worse in the last year because i use to love talking in front of people when i was younger I don't know if I'm just over reacting or if i really do have it...

problems with my parents.

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gday everyone, my name is cameron and im looking for some advise. my parents split when i was 7 and ive been going between their houses since. my mum has pretty much no money and my dad has just over average wages. im 16 and have up till now been fin... View more

gday everyone, my name is cameron and im looking for some advise. my parents split when i was 7 and ive been going between their houses since. my mum has pretty much no money and my dad has just over average wages. im 16 and have up till now been fine with swapping between each house fortnightly but my mum has made the choice to move to western Australia. that means im going to have to pick a house to live in permanently. now for the last few months mum and i have been fighting a lot and I've had to stay at dads because when ever i see her my mod goes right down to a depression level ( i havent been diagnosed with depression though) so i havent seen her as of late. if i go to mums house i will get a start at a new life in WA and would be able to move into my own flat and if i move to dads ill be able to keep my job and stay near my mates and help them out with stuff and stay in the same school. now theres too much crap going on on top of all that, that i cant fit into this. so i was wondering if anyone on here has had to pick a parent to live with full time and if you could tell me how you went about it and if you could offer any systems or something to make it easier. thanks

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