My friends are fighting and I don't know which side to take

lemony_snicket
Community Member

So yea the title basically explains it. So my friend group has fought all last year and it's been all over social media but none in real life. Throughout the fight the group has split in two and people are constantly shifting between each sides, telling the other group what gossip was said about them by the other group.

These holidays people have said worse things as we don't have to see each other for a long time and deal with it.

Let me explain the sides so you have any advice of which side I should go to or if I should just leave the group together (though if I did that then I'd have nowhere to really go)

Side 1: So I've been with these people for most of the fight though I haven't said anything bad to the other people. I'm closer with them however I do know they're harsh to the other side. They're fun to be around though and they get over things quickly and don't dwell on things, unlike the other side.

Side 2: So side two is really dramatic. I've become quite close with them recently and they can all trust me with secrets and stuff like that. One of them has come out as bisexual to me, except she's too nervous to tell anyone else other than this side two and me. Then there are two girls who both have anxiety attacks and one has depression (but it's ok they're getting the right care for it). They recently told the group and this took a lot of courage for them to do

Both sides really hate each other and they've tried to ask me to join their side and asked what side I'm on. I say I'm not on a side and that I am friends with everyone.

This is hard though because both groups gossip to me about the other and I don't know what to say when they tell me stuff. Also, when school goes back they will be sitting apart from each other and I don't know who I will sit with then.

Thank you whoever has taken the time to read this 🙂

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Quiettall
Blue Voices Member
Blue Voices Member

Hi there lemonysnicket

I admire your maturity and intelligence. Social media can cause so much damage in the wrong hands. I support the stand you take to keep out of the fight, and clearly spell out that you dont want to get involved, nor do you want to take sides. Both sides will eventually respect you for your stand, and I would suggest, you will win more friends and more respect in the long term for this stand

Spot on Quiet all

Lemony Socket, I want to give you a thought.

I don't see my mother by choice. When a relative asks me I say "my mother has some very good points...its the bad ones I can't live with".

Honesty wins. If one group asks you who you are going to support..." Both sides because both sides have their good qualities". And "as a friend you perhaps shouldn't place me in a situation to choose".

Its their fight not yours. You are quite clever.

Tony WK

Thank you very much xx 🙂

I hope the fighting will eventually quiet down and you are right, when it's over I wouldn't have lost any friends

Thank you so much, you are also quite clever. That is true that friends shouldn't put that pressure on each other.