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Lacking in social skills - Romance and Autism/Anxiety

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So a little background information. I have a pretty mild case of Asperger's Syndrome/Autism Spectrum Disorder which, combined with Anxiety, means I lack some social skills. The people I have told about my Asperger's have been surprised to hear it, be... View more

So a little background information. I have a pretty mild case of Asperger's Syndrome/Autism Spectrum Disorder which, combined with Anxiety, means I lack some social skills. The people I have told about my Asperger's have been surprised to hear it, because I don't really show any signs of being anything other than neurotypical. I can hold a conversation alright, and pick up on social cues fairly easily, but something that has always eluded me is romantic interactions. I've always struggled to understand how exactly I am expected to act to convey romantic interest. Recently I've developed a crush on the cashier (about my age) who works at my local EBGames. One of my proudest achievements recently is having been able to hold a conversation with her when I went last, so that gives a good indication of where my social skills/anxiety are at in this context. Basically what I'm trying to figure out is how I'm meant to act on a crush on someone I'm essentially a stranger to. Even if I was a friend of hers I would struggle to make any sort of 'move' so to speak. Any sort of advice whatsoever is more than welcome, even if it's not specific to my situation.

grief when no one has passed

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ummmmm I'm new to this so I'm not really sure what i'm doing.... I guess ive come here because maybe someone out there can relate and I wont feel like an idiot when I explain it. (I have a psychologist and she is great I just feel like a loon sometim... View more

ummmmm I'm new to this so I'm not really sure what i'm doing.... I guess ive come here because maybe someone out there can relate and I wont feel like an idiot when I explain it. (I have a psychologist and she is great I just feel like a loon sometimes). So basically, what I've been telling myself is that I feel the grief of all those lives before me I have lived caught up with me at present, like every lover, mother, father, son, daughter and friend I have ever had in past lives and the grief of losing them has struck me now. I guess it is just my own little fantasy for explaining how I feel. In short, I feel this intense grief and sadness inside me that I personally feel is unwarranted, the only family member I have had die is my nan, and she died when I was younger so I did not know her too well. I personally struggle with other things including depression, anxiety, family issue (father with multiple mental disabilities, borderline personality disorder, manic depression, bipolar, learning disabilities etc. who does not live with me) who has used me as an emotional punching bad, possible sexual abuse when I was younger, mother and pop (one of my best friends) struggling with grief and depression, I am more emotionally mature than those my age (high school) so I often feel disconnected, like a 10 year old going to kindergarten and a thirst to travel and make a life for myself filled with mystery and adventure that at times seems to just weigh me down. I crave love and passion and thrill and I seem to be stuck in the mill of highschool, day in day out doing the same thing talking to the same people Sometimes I cry myself to sleep, sometimes I have horrible dreams about family members dying. I am grieving people who are not yet gone, sometimes I think of my mum or pop an cry at the thought of having to live a life without them. idk I just needed to rant somewhere, to whomever reads this/ or reads this far, thankyou, and do you ever feel the same way, did you ever feel this way, how did you cope with it?

Eating disorders

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Hi, i am a 16 year old girl and I have had acid reflux since I was born. It was very severe when I was first born however decreased as I got older. During my second year of high school I noticed the reflux coming back. I am now going into year 11 and... View more

Hi, i am a 16 year old girl and I have had acid reflux since I was born. It was very severe when I was first born however decreased as I got older. During my second year of high school I noticed the reflux coming back. I am now going into year 11 and the sickness has come to a peak. I have lost weight in the past year, friends and family notice and comment on how skinny I am. This past week in particular has been really hard. The stress has been really low which is confusing me with how sick I am feeling. I have no appetite and I am constantly feeling sick like I am going to throw up. I have not reached the stage of throwing up in this past week however I have thrown up in the past however that was reflux related. I hardly eat anything and I am always full, to the point of feeling sick. My parents have noticed my lack of eating and they force me to eat. I have been leading about some of the eating disorders and I am unsure if I am falling into some of the categories. I worry about my appearance a lot and i am constantly tired and weak with 8+ hours of sleep a night. I am 160cm tall and weigh 45.5kg. Can someone tell me what is happening or what I should do? I am not confident to ask my parents as I have tried to bring it up in the past and they brush it off as my reflux and to stop complaining. My mum has had reflux all of her life too however hers isn't nearly as bad. Because of this she doesn't understand how sick I feel and with medical treatment I receive she seems to be in denial. I have been prescribed losec 2x daily. However I forget to take it a lot and only seem to take it once a day. The prescribtion started at 1x Daily however got put up once my symtoms didn't improve. I haven't been to the doctor on 7 months. Last doctor visit he told me to come back in a month and have a blood test. My parents never booked. Whenever I bring the topic of booking a doctors appointment they act like it is not needed and push it off. My brother has a torn ACL and my parents are more focused on him to worry about me. Is there a chance I have a slight anorexia or is this all in my head. I have been reading about the condition and I do fit some categories, but not all. Anyone know??

no where to go

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hi so i sort of have no where to go and i don't know what to do. i don't have friends or family's houses to sleep at. im 19 so im too old for any foster care type services for kids (im probably too old really for a youth forum too but this doesnt rea... View more

hi so i sort of have no where to go and i don't know what to do. i don't have friends or family's houses to sleep at. im 19 so im too old for any foster care type services for kids (im probably too old really for a youth forum too but this doesnt really fit anywhere else) i dont know where else to go to for advice. kind of scared

help for possible psychosis???

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hey, this is my first post here. so recently (as in over the past 4ish months) i've been feeling really off. i can't remember a lot of things, i'm experiencing time weirdly and having random moments where i zone out for anywhere between minutes and h... View more

hey, this is my first post here. so recently (as in over the past 4ish months) i've been feeling really off. i can't remember a lot of things, i'm experiencing time weirdly and having random moments where i zone out for anywhere between minutes and hours and can't remember any of it (i was at my friends house and he shook me and i came to and had apparently been staring into space crying for about 30 minutes). i feel really disconnected from my body like its not mine?? and my thoughts feel really disconnected it's super hard to make sense of anything. a lot of things i say don't make sense and i trip over my words and sentences mix with thoughts and come out garbled (apparently, sometimes i dont notice) i also keep seeing and hearing things and i don't know what's real or not and it's freaking me out...i see things moving in the dark and gross things on the walls and people following me all the time and strangers keep staring at me when i look away and i think they're trying to get in my head? and i'm getting messages through morse code i think but i told my friend and he said that i was being delusional so i don't know. all of my friends hate me and laugh about me behind my back a lot so i don't think i can trust him, but i also don't know if i can trust myself??? it's been happening for a while but over the past few weeks especially has gotten really bad. it's super embarrassing and scary to ask about because i feel like i'm going crazy or something (every part of my head is screaming at me not to even ask for help here) but i can't cope with this by myself. i looked it up and a lot of the things i've been experiencing make it seem like it could be psychosis? it scares me because i don't know what's real or not because there's a lot of stuff in my head that i'm getting scared might be fake that are really REALLY important i've gone to therapy before and i know that i won't be able to talk to someone about this stuff to a therapist because i clam up ( i always have and this especially is so hard to talk about) but i need help or to talk about it without feeling like i'm insane because i feel like i'm drowning in my own weird head and really don't know what to do. i don't know how to bring it up to anyone in person without feeling ridiculous and weird. so what should i do? are there any resources i can use to try and help myself, or even any tips on how to bring up the topic regarding going back to therapy because of the things i described? thanks

2017 is the year i take a stand against my problems

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So i got alot to cover and i want to try to cover everything as quickly and in as short of paragraphs as possible. Ok so to be honest most of my problems started while i was in school and the depressing thing is i let it all happen AND i let it follo... View more

So i got alot to cover and i want to try to cover everything as quickly and in as short of paragraphs as possible. Ok so to be honest most of my problems started while i was in school and the depressing thing is i let it all happen AND i let it follow me through my life(that's something i never should have done) but anyways, i realise now that the past is in the past and logically it makes no sense to let my past problems affect me, but because they do i have decided that 2017 is the year i stand by my Pride(long story short, my Pride will never, ever accept defeat even if i have definately been defeated and there is nothing left to fight for) I said to myself "I will research and arm myself with the knowledge i need to get myself back into a Emotional AND Mentally strong state", now i have researched at length on my mental issues and how to deal with them(i admit i am armed with some great information to fight with, i still need more information, the more information, the better)however i dont have enough information to deal with my emotional state, to summarise my emotional state, i cannot feel most, if not all positive emotions and this is something i really need information to "rebuild" some of the emotions that have "died" to name a select few are love, loyalty(is loyalty a feeling or trait?), Happiness and Joy(to name a few) so i would really like some links to sites that can help me to bring myself into an emotionally strong state. oh and i also seem to have the mentality to want to get everything i want and need well and truly before i die, otherwise i will feel bad because i have not accomplished a life goal(ok to be realistic, i never will get everything i want and need, even if i was working 24/7 with the highest paying job, realisticly i definately will die before i accomplish the goal)

Racing Thoughts

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My thoughts run through my head at incredible speeds to the point where I get headaches and I start crying. Last week I felt so good about myself. I felt really excited for no reason at all. I ended climbing a roof whilst my friend was standing on th... View more

My thoughts run through my head at incredible speeds to the point where I get headaches and I start crying. Last week I felt so good about myself. I felt really excited for no reason at all. I ended climbing a roof whilst my friend was standing on the ground trying to get me down. I have no idea why I did that. I felt this massive rush of energy and just had the need to do something stupid. This week I have just been my usual - depressed and emotional. I don't understand why this is happening?

Phobia of men??

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Hey everyone. I'm new to this website/forum, so I hope I'm using this thing correctly. My parents and I realised a couple of months ago that I have some anxiety issues related to school and study, so I was sent to the school councillor (I'm starting ... View more

Hey everyone. I'm new to this website/forum, so I hope I'm using this thing correctly. My parents and I realised a couple of months ago that I have some anxiety issues related to school and study, so I was sent to the school councillor (I'm starting year 12 this year). I saw her every couple of weeks for about a month and a half, but I didn't find it useful as I had trouble being honest and talking to her, despite the fact that she was obviously a kind and trustworthy person. Ive always had issues talking to people, but this felt different and I would constantly get embarrasssed and nervous whenever I walked into the room and almost wouldn't say a word, and would just agree to the suggestions she had about how I was feeling (a lot of which wasn't quite true) and my apparent 'generalised anxiety' What I really want to talk about with her (but can't bring myself to) is my anxiety when it comes to the opposite gender. Whenever I've been asked to hang out by a guy, I've had to bring at least one friend with me, and often won't say a thing when we meet up because I get so nervous. Or when I meet a guy at a social event (which I'm already pretty nervous for) I feel the urge to run away from them, and often do end up running to the bathroom or leaving. When a guy messages me on Facebook, I dont log on for days at a time. if they ask why I haven't been talking to them I make excuses such as 'our internet crashed and we have to buy a new modem' or something (I've done this two or three times at least). And I've now stopped going to parties/outings where there are a decent amount of blokes. I can't even handle male teachers, and I get extremely nervous before and during their classes. When they talk to me, no matter what the subject, I start sweating profusely and go extremely red and short of breath. Ive tried meditation, and the councilling is obviously not working at the moment. I'm desperate for advice, it would be greatly appreciated. ((I'm sorry this is so long, and it's so late right now so this probably doesn't make much sense))

Stronger feelings of negativity, linked to anxiety of the future?

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Hey everyone, Happy new years.... yay... meh. Umm I guess lately I've been feeling much more negative... I haven't self harmed, (hey I shaved my legs today that was nice) Lately I've been thinking of the future and what will happen.... I mean I doubt... View more

Hey everyone, Happy new years.... yay... meh. Umm I guess lately I've been feeling much more negative... I haven't self harmed, (hey I shaved my legs today that was nice) Lately I've been thinking of the future and what will happen.... I mean I doubt I'll eve be a successful graphic designer as I'm bound to fail.... like I do at everything.... I don't see my dude.. .they guy I talk to.. mental blank...p something... anyway I've been spending more time in bed when I can. It's my birthday soon - less then a depressing month. Might try and get a good custom pc to build. I could save money but to be honest I don't care to much.... I'll get one with a 1080 or at least 1070 gaming Z. I mean yeah... I've felt ok just listening to soundcloud... this song sounds cool, listening to it as I write this.. NGHTMRE - Holdin' On To Me (Lynx x Future Magic Remix) does that coun't as an add? oh well... I'm not in any major danger from myself that much recently, just more or less depressed alot. stupid anxiety and other crap.... meh..... I deserve this I guess..... adios austomegos. -Howling

Just need a break..

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Hi, I haven't been on here in a while. I've been getting help for anxiety for 3 years now. I have made some big achievements.. Moved out of home, completed a couple of tafe certificates, bought myself a dog, booked a holiday etc. All very big and cha... View more

Hi, I haven't been on here in a while. I've been getting help for anxiety for 3 years now. I have made some big achievements.. Moved out of home, completed a couple of tafe certificates, bought myself a dog, booked a holiday etc. All very big and challenging things! So I've been doing quite well but recently I've found myself gettingdown again. Its been almost 2 months of feeling quite low. It sems to happen this time every year when things finish and I need to find some full time work or something. I'm already worked ng two casual jobs but feel behind other people my age. ( I'm 20) I thought I was better or well on the road to being better but now that I feel like this again, I feel like anxiety and depressed thoughts are all I'll ever know. I feel bad for going to my family, friends and pshyc for support because I feel like they're probably sick of me. All I am wanting is a break from life for a while. not a holiday, but just to escape my mind and thoughts and not have to do or worry about anything or anyone. Just to sleep for weeks or months until things settle down. Its hard to explain. And so how do you explain this to someone who doesn't understand and thinks you're suicidal because you have been in the past.? Its just complicated.. To me anyway. And I don't know how to feel better again...

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grief when no one has passed

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Eating disorders

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no where to go

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2017 is the year i take a stand against my problems

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Racing Thoughts

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Phobia of men??

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Lacking in social skills - Romance and Autism/Anxiety

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grief when no one has passed

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Eating disorders

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no where to go

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help for possible psychosis???

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2017 is the year i take a stand against my problems

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Racing Thoughts

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Phobia of men??

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Stronger feelings of negativity, linked to anxiety of the future?

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Just need a break..

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