Losing Interest

[Adelaide99]

So i'm not normally one to speak up about how i'm feeling so just bare with me,

So lately i have been feeling that i get upset over small things, i work in retail normally if a customer were to say something i would brush it off, yesterday i had a customer and i went out the back and cried, then i felt stupid for crying. But just little things that wouldn't normally have any effect on me lately have been effecting me big time. I have started loosing interest in things that i love, football (soccer) for example i normally couldn't wait for those 3 days, well i stopped going to training about 1 1/2 months ago i just don't look forward to it any more. But i want to wanna look forward to it.

I barely go anywhere anymore i finished school 2 years ago i only go to work and to UNI 1 week every month i don't seen my 'Friends' anymore either.

I guess what i'm asking is what should i do? I just don't know anymore

[Croix]

Dear Adelaide99~

Welcome here to the Forum, I think there will be a lot here who have lost all the joy and fun in life and just exist, doing the minimum. It might be hard to make that first post here, however you have got over that hurdle, a sensible and courageous thing to do.

First off crying is never stupid, it simply shows you have been affected by somethng and are coping in that way. Being more susceptible to being affected could, like the other things you describe, be for several reasons. I was shocked when I first started crying, it simply was not me:(

You must have thought about all this, what conclusions did you come to? Do you think there has been anything in your life that could account for this, a transition from school, moving, a relationship or a family problem perhaps?

If nothing springs to mind I'd suggest visiting oyur GP and saying exactly what has been happening to you and how you have been feeling - including the crying and not going to football practice plus losing contact wiht friends.

If you think talking about this might be a bit too hard you can always do what I have done, write everything down a day or so before then share the paper. I'd suggest booking a long consultation.

You sound rather like I was when I first came under the influence of depression and anxiety, however I'm no doctor and merely mention it might be a possibility, as might other compositely unrelated things. A professional is needed for an proper diagnosis of course.

Can I ask if you are facing all this alone or have someone, family or friend, to care and support you? It can make a huge difference.

Croix

[Adelaide99]

To Croix,

Thank you for replying

Nothing comes to mind that has changed.

I haven't talked to anyone about it because i feel like i can't talk to my family because in the past they have just made comments when i try talking and they don't hear me out, they just say i'm looking for attention.I haven't bothered trying to talk to my friends, because i feel they don't really care, When i do see them they always talk about themselves (i know that isn't always a bad thing). But they never ask me, 'How was your Day?', 'How are you?". so i just feel they don't really care.

-A

[Croix]

Dear Adelaide99~

Well, if nothing outside has changed then would you think seeing your GP would be a good way to go and have a checkup, both physical as well as for depression and related matters.

With friends it can be difficult, true there are many who are only acquaintances, and while OK to be around don't normally give that much support. I guess when you do find a real friend, which happens but is not something that happens every day, you will see the difference and prize them more accordingly. I have had several, but not that many.

With family it might be a question of seeing a doctor or councilor first, then telling them the results - do you think that would work? Families can sometimes be rather shortsighted, particularly if that do not have similar experiences themselves. When something is strange there is always the temptation to shrug it off.

There are many here who have felt as oyu do now, and found things got an awful lot better, particularly with some sort of help. So please don't think you are stuck

I hope to talk more with you

Croix