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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

Sophie_M NEW TO THIS FORUM? Please read this first
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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Bec98 needing a listening ear.
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I don’t really know why I’m here… I guess I just don’t know who to talk to. Well it’s not that I don’t know who to talk to, it’s that I have no one to talk to. I am 20 years old and I can safely say I have no friends, zero. I was bullied in high scho... View more

I don’t really know why I’m here… I guess I just don’t know who to talk to. Well it’s not that I don’t know who to talk to, it’s that I have no one to talk to. I am 20 years old and I can safely say I have no friends, zero. I was bullied in high school and what little friends I did come out with I haven’t heard from in months. Even with that they would never understand what is going on in my life. For the last 10 years my mother, sister and myself have been abused by my stepfather (soon to be ex), and I have really been struggling to find some sort of "normal". For the last 10 years I have been told ‘it’s all in your head; mental health isn’t real; your making it up; if you don’t have a physical bruise or mark, it is not abuse.’ so anytime i breakdown, like I did tonight, I feel weak and I have this stupid voice in the back of my head telling me you’re making it all up. I have been to the psychologist and been through the whole ‘it’s not in your head, it’s okay to feel this way’ blah blah blah; but half my life has been the complete opposite, being told it is not okay to be the way I am, and I am really struggling to adjust to this change. I missed out on my teenage years. Going to parties, hanging out with people, just being a teen. I refused to go to parties or out with anyone because that would mean leaving my mother alone with that monster. I was so scared That I would come home and find her in a pool of blood or worse. I couldn’t live with myself if that happened. Even when i had to go out (on the rarest of times) i would be texting mum non stop worried sick that something would happen. I know i have been babbling on for a long time and I still have so much more i need to get out. Right now I feel like this computer is my only friend. I really just need someone to hear me, even if this never gets read i just need to get this all out. I need to stop bottling it up. If someone out there does read this, and are having their own problems and wants an ear, I’m here. And I could really use one too.

Guest_357 I need to talk to someone who actually understands
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Just for clarification, I am a 15 y/o girl. I have had anxiety all through life but it’s never been a massive thing for me. Sometimes I would think about something that worries me but I’d distract myself and it would be okay. im uncomfortable saying ... View more

Just for clarification, I am a 15 y/o girl. I have had anxiety all through life but it’s never been a massive thing for me. Sometimes I would think about something that worries me but I’d distract myself and it would be okay. im uncomfortable saying what my anxiety is about as thinking about it really scares me. All I will say is that it’s not something I can control and I will be triggered really easily. I’ve seen my school counsellor and she’s helped me but it’s hard still. I’ve been having panic artacks so I’m allowed to leave class whenever I feel worried. My mum doesn’t understand it and gets really mad at me. She thinks I can control it and stop my panic attacks easily. It of course, is not the case. She makes me go to school and I really hate it. I cry nearly every class because I get so worried. Even though I know my thoughts are a bit irrational I can’t srop thinking them. My my whole life I’ve also done this thtung where if I’m nervous I pick at my skin. It’s really hard to not do it even though i know it’s probably not good for me. my sisters don’t understand why I can’t tell them and get angry at me for it. Honestly? I feel like a mess. Dont feel as if you should have to go out of your way to reply but it would be very much appreciated. *Please excuse spelling mistakes I’m typing quite fast to get this all out.

Strangefemme2000 Loneliness study and money
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Hello beyond blue humans I’m in a spot of trouble with my loneliness I guess you could say. I’ve not really felt connected to anything outside myself for some time and although it has its sad times I’ve adapted to enjoy it mostly. I do have friends a... View more

Hello beyond blue humans I’m in a spot of trouble with my loneliness I guess you could say. I’ve not really felt connected to anything outside myself for some time and although it has its sad times I’ve adapted to enjoy it mostly. I do have friends and family around but I still feel disconnected. That’s just some background as I feel like this may have contributed to me becoming a ‘people pleaser’. Before I had accepted this lonely feeling as part of life I was desperate to change it and make connections with people, unfortunately whenever I have tried to share what hurts me it’s mostly met with annoyance or non chalance (Which I have come to just see as everyone is having their own struggles). Now I just stumble about trying to make sure people are ok, seek people’s approval and do my best not to upset anyone often at my own expense. I feel in a real pickle with it. In addition to this I’m financially struggling right now while studying full time. I guess I’ve run out of coping skills again. If anyone has anything useful I may be able to do to help myself along that would be much appreciated. Warm regards P.s I have tried professional help many times but I am usually unsuccessful with it due to reasons mentioned above.

Morgan241191 Help! I have a class presentation!
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I have really bad anxiety and I need to present in front of the whole class tomorrow. Does anyone have any tips?

I have really bad anxiety and I need to present in front of the whole class tomorrow. Does anyone have any tips?

Morgan241191 My New Thread - All About Me🌻
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Hey guys, I am new to Beyond Blue and this is my first post. Here are a few things about me: My name is Morgan, I am a 14 year old girl and I live in Melbourne. I enjoy reading, writing, listening to music and watching Netflix, however I suffer from ... View more

Hey guys, I am new to Beyond Blue and this is my first post. Here are a few things about me: My name is Morgan, I am a 14 year old girl and I live in Melbourne. I enjoy reading, writing, listening to music and watching Netflix, however I suffer from depression and anxiety. My posts will be mainly about the struggles I go through, asking for advice and asking for people to share their experiences.

Chloe90 Started a New Job - Extremely Anxious and Emotional
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Hey Guys, Just wanting so help and reassurance from others who have been through this. I started a new job and today was my 3rd day. I’ve been super depressed and have random spouts in the day where I just wanna cry my eyes out. The people I work wit... View more

Hey Guys, Just wanting so help and reassurance from others who have been through this. I started a new job and today was my 3rd day. I’ve been super depressed and have random spouts in the day where I just wanna cry my eyes out. The people I work with are great and I don’t think it’s the job itself that’s flaring these emotions but maybe change? I left my part time contract job of 3 years because this position is permanent and has great benefits. I was sick of my old job but it never made me feel like I’m feeling now. I’ve suffered with anxiety and depression for about 8 years and have been maintaining it quite well. I haven’t felt this bad in a while. Could this be caused from change I just wanna run away and back into my comfort zone where I didn’t feel like this. ;(((((((

antiart Anxiety in all aspects
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What can I do when my mind is stuck in a loop of negativity? I am generally anxious around people, I have no close friends and really nobody to talk to except for my partner. I would say that I am a heavy drinker, I always make sure that it doesn't a... View more

What can I do when my mind is stuck in a loop of negativity? I am generally anxious around people, I have no close friends and really nobody to talk to except for my partner. I would say that I am a heavy drinker, I always make sure that it doesn't affect my work but I can definately say that it is affecting my state of mind because I am incredibly paranoid and sensitive about..everything. Literally every hour of every day, apart from what little hours I sleep because I have terrible nightmares about things. I pick up on peoples' attitudes towards me and I compare and contrast every detail and figure out that in my case right now, I am steadily and technically legally being muscled out of a job that I really love. I dont even know how to start looking for another if my main thought is that I am rubbish. On numerous occasions I have overheard staff discussing alcoholism as a pathetic and unforgivable sickness, without them knowing what i do when I go home. I have seen medical help. I have taken medication. What actually helps, what works? I know that I have to peel away to get at the anxiety so that I don't need to drink in order to squash it.

Anoninon stressed out about school
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I'm in year 11 and will have subject selection for year 12 subjects soon but I'm super stressed out about it. I failed an exam and even though it doesn't affect the overall for the subject (i passed the unit) i know it will affect my subject selectio... View more

I'm in year 11 and will have subject selection for year 12 subjects soon but I'm super stressed out about it. I failed an exam and even though it doesn't affect the overall for the subject (i passed the unit) i know it will affect my subject selection for next year (teachers might not let me do that subject for year 12). I hate 3 of the subjects im doing because it was what my parents wanted and not me. But i can't drop the subject i failed because that subject is a prereq for so many courses in uni and if I can't take the subject I'm screwed for life. my parents will definitely find out and I'm always getting compared to older siblings who did great in year 12. I feel like i am a disappointment to everyone and even worse now that i failed an exam. this seems like nothing compared to many other people but my life is falling apart. I am also struggling to fall asleep at night and have to stay up until it is really late to go to sleep. What can i do?

Kim_is_confused Looking for advice about ADHD in women
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Hey, So I'm a 23 yr old female and about five to six years ago I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Anyway, I recently found an article about ADHD and how it presents itself differently in women and often goes unnoticed and undiagnosed for ye... View more

Hey, So I'm a 23 yr old female and about five to six years ago I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression. Anyway, I recently found an article about ADHD and how it presents itself differently in women and often goes unnoticed and undiagnosed for years because of that. Honestly just clicked it for an interesting read because psychology right, but as I read it I found myself relating to a lot of the symptoms and wondering if maybe it's something I should chase up. So I did a bucket load of research about it and a lot of it relates? A lot if the things have been an issue for years but I've just associated them with the whole depressing/anxiety thing but since reading about ADHD I'm starting to doubt everything and now I'm just super confused. So I just wanted to put it out there and ask if there's anyone who has been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult about that could offer me some insight about their experiences? How do I go about figuring this out with a doctor? Were you misdiagnosed with other mental health issues before finding ADHD as the answer? Please help me I am a very confused person rn.

idkwhy Peer Pressure
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I have choir at school every Tuesday after school. My best friend is also in the choir, it used to be good until now. Once I was feeling tired and didn't want to go, so she suggested we can skip one or two practices every term just for taking a break... View more

I have choir at school every Tuesday after school. My best friend is also in the choir, it used to be good until now. Once I was feeling tired and didn't want to go, so she suggested we can skip one or two practices every term just for taking a break and hanging out. So we did and it went great, we just chilled by our lockers and ate snacks, even finishing off due homework. But now since she knows how fun skipping can be she is asking me to skip with her almost EVERY rehearsal! When I do go to rehearsal with her, she sighs, rolls her eyes and keeps on complaining to me about how boring it is, and how much fun it would be if we skipped. All of her negative vibes are making me sick and even dislike choir. Sometimes I wished she was not there. I feel very insecure when we skip more than twice a term and she forces me to skip even more rehearsals, all of the making excuses up and stuff is starting to stress for me. She's also a close and important friend of my though so I do not want to make it weird between us, she's very stubborn so if I say anything she will probably tell me how lame I have become and that I'm being too serious. What do I do and what should I tell her? Plz help.