Lonely School Girl

[anonymous16]

Hello,

Earlier this year I arrived back in Australia from a six month exchange to Canada. I have been back for nearly five months now and have come to the realisation that the group of friends I left behind are not the same people I have came back to. I don't know if I am annoying, boring or just a burden but I feel unwanted and left out. My best friend and I don't even feel close anymore. I don't know what to do, I feel lonely and sad and that I have no one to talk to besides my family. I miss my friends in Canada a lot and the friends I have through soccer and work aren't close enough to me that I would hang out with outside of those activities. I'm a shy, awkward person and I find it hard to make friends too. I don't want this to affect me next year when I am doing the HSC, as I really want to get a good result. I just feel lonely and lost.

[smallwolf]

Hi,

Welcome to beyond blue.

From your post it sounds like you are near the end of high school.High school can be best and worst of days. Sorry that you seem to be experiencing the latter. My first response would be to have a chat with counselors at your school on how you are feeling. They might be able to give you some ideas what to do?

I am a father of 2 teens - one in their last year, and other in year 10. From theirs and my own experience (from what I can recall) is there are certain times within your time at high school where friends might drift apart, if only because they find different interests.

I won't go into detail about some situations concerning my children, but my son had to find a new group of friends.

Also if you play sports at school, can you or do you hang out with the people in the same team?

What other activities do you like? (Somehow find like minded people at school.)

I guess the last question(s) I could ask is ... Your "best friend"... have you asked or spoken to her about how you feel? Could you? If did you speak with them, how might you react to their responses? Could you reform a relationship with them?

Wishing you all the best,

Tim