I don’t know how to get back on my feet

[Emiliemnop]

So I left my boyfriend after 3 months because I felt like after spending a month away in Europe, I had changed as a person and I didn’t think that the right thing for me was my relationship. My relationship had become my entire life and I had no balance and when i was away I think that I evolved to enjoy the time we had apart. Of course I still love him and I didn’t want to break up but I was pushing him away, uninvolving him in certain parts of my life, trying to see him less, and I didn’t feel like I could bounce back from our fights like I usually could.

Its been almost a month and my life has since spiralled out of control, I’m depressed, I’m ruining my friendships and Im doing illegal things that are getting me in trouble. I don’t like who’ve I’ve become and I just want help. None of my friends have seen me this sad or out of control before, but I’ve ruined my friendships and how people think of me at school. I don’t feel somfortable talking to anyone really and if I tell someon they brush it off and don’t do anything.

I know I need help I want to go to my favourite teacher, can you help me on how to approach someone on how to get help?

Thank you

[Croix]

Dear Emiliemnop~

Welcome here, it must have taken a lot of courage to make that first post, but it was a pretty good move. Reading though it I would not be surprised if your wanting to distance yourself from your boyfriend was all part of the same thing as difficulties with you friends and the other things you mention.

Knowing that you need some help is itself a pretty big step, some people never get that far and just keep on suffering. It is pretty difficult and even frightening to approach someone and just say it all face to face. It is good you have someone in mind, your teacher sounds a pretty good choice.

When I've thought I did not have the courage to face someone like that - or was worried I'd muck things up and leave out important bits - I wrote everything down and simply handed over the paper. If you are not up to writing then just print your post above and give that, it is a clear explanation and does not say anything bad.

We really would like to know how you get on, it is not easy

Croix

[Just_another_guy]

G'day Emilie.

I'm sorry to hear that you're having a hard time coping or dealing with your break up.

On the topic of knowing how to best approach someone for assistance or support. Since it's a teacher, I feel it would be best if you would ask them if they could speak during something like a lunch break or after school and imply that it's personal, something like 'Hey Mr/Ms (X), do you mind if I speak to you at lunch/after school about something going on right now if you're able to?'. Most likely they'll say yes or at the very worst, arrange say and arrange another time when they're available. If they're a teacher that you bond well with then most likely they'll say yes.

It is HIGHLY likely that they'll refer you to (if you have one) your schools psychologist or a psychologist of some sort. They may even refer you to Beyond Blue's official site or support center. That's what I'd expect anyway.

That's my two cents on this subject, feel free to ask more. I'll try answer as best as I can.

Sincerely,

Just Another Guy.