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Feeling lost

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Hello Everyone Im wondering if anyone has any tips on what to do when you feel lost? Ifeel im forever going in circles and my attempts to break that cycle always seem to backfire or i loose interest quickly ( trying new arts, rekindling old interests... View more

Hello Everyone Im wondering if anyone has any tips on what to do when you feel lost? Ifeel im forever going in circles and my attempts to break that cycle always seem to backfire or i loose interest quickly ( trying new arts, rekindling old interests or a new hobby) Perhaps its the metal health stuff talking but i feel very lost in the world. For those who dont already know me im 21 and have been told it can be normal for this age. Any tips would be appreciated please.

Just getting this high school bullying off my chest

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I had an awful time at school, I always struggled with friendships due to social anxiety and I was severely bullied from grade 3 through to year 11, when I couldn’t take it anymore. I think it was at its worst in year 7. So, In year 7 my teachers wou... View more

I had an awful time at school, I always struggled with friendships due to social anxiety and I was severely bullied from grade 3 through to year 11, when I couldn’t take it anymore. I think it was at its worst in year 7. So, In year 7 my teachers would humiliate me in front of the whole class for doing trivial things wrong. I was bullied by a group of girls who decided they didn’t like me without ever getting to know me. They would laugh at me, call me their dog. They spread rumours and wrote horrible things on facebook about me. And when I just couldn’t hold it together anymore they laughed while I cried. I would sit at a table with the other kids and they would all get up and move away and I’d have the whole 8 seat table to myself. It was like I had the plague. I felt like I had the plague. And I felt like there was something really wrong with me. That I was worth so much less than everyone else. I guess I’d always felt like that, but this made me feel even more so. I sat by myself at lunch. No one stood up for me. I always stood up for myself. Which is why they kept going. They wanted my reaction. When I went to the school about it and told them what was going on it was ‘my fault’ and ‘there was nothing they could do’. Then my mum would force me to go to school every day whether I liked it or not. I would cry and scream most mornings before I left but that was just more proof that I was out of control and the problem. And then there was my dad who, when he had to take me to school, would hit and punch me in the car while we were on our way. Called me every curse word under the sun and told me not to bother coming home that night. He took me to school most days too. I was a mess. I would stare at the wall/ground all day every day. I went through all of this alone, and I’ve never told anyone and it still haunts me today

Anxiety/Stress symptoms- strange dropping feeling?

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Recently i've noticed a difficult to explain feeling. I usually get this while walking and occasionally while sitting, it literally feels as if i'm dropping into the ground! It's quite scary and makes me worry it won't go away, ??is this just stress ... View more

Recently i've noticed a difficult to explain feeling. I usually get this while walking and occasionally while sitting, it literally feels as if i'm dropping into the ground! It's quite scary and makes me worry it won't go away, ??is this just stress or is it more.

Highschool- relationships and sexualities

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Ok so this is my very first post and I just wanted to vent. I’m in Year 9 at school at the moment and recently have been thinking about relationships and my sexuality as I’m getting older and more people are becoming appealing. But the thing is I’m b... View more

Ok so this is my very first post and I just wanted to vent. I’m in Year 9 at school at the moment and recently have been thinking about relationships and my sexuality as I’m getting older and more people are becoming appealing. But the thing is I’m bisexual and have known I have been since I was 11. No one knows this and I’m thinking about coming out but I’m scared to because although my school has a LGBTQ club lots of people make mean jokes about being gay etc. Most kids just don’t understand. And then there’s actual dating. I want to date girls and boys but I’m scared I have liked a few people, that have also liked me, but put up a wall. Also I have had people tell me that people that label themselves as bisexual or whatever at my age are just confused. I just don’t really know what to do. I’m not sure if I will be accepted by my family and friends. Feel free to share your opinion on this, anything helps.

Am I weird?

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Hello, currently my legal name is “G”, but I go by Sierra. I’ve had many problems in the past because I have been uncomfortable with my legal name. I’ve been picked on a bit in the past, and I’ve had many people tell me it’s not okay to go by a new n... View more

Hello, currently my legal name is “G”, but I go by Sierra. I’ve had many problems in the past because I have been uncomfortable with my legal name. I’ve been picked on a bit in the past, and I’ve had many people tell me it’s not okay to go by a new name. My school (Middle/High) told me it was also unacceptable, and the school has no way of changing it. I’ve been experiencing depression, and my anxiety and anger has gotten worse over it. If you’re wondering as well, I do have people to talk to, like a school counselor, and my best friend. But sometimes it’s hard because I have a pretty unique problem, and I have searched forum after forum, and the closest I get is “How to respect a transgender person’s new pronouns”. I’m not transgender, and I’m not choosing a different gender, so I’m at a bit of a loss. I’ve also been told I may have been experiencing childhood emotional neglect as well, although I’m not entirely sure that’s the case, as I don’t have low self-esteem and I don’t blame myself for their behavior, although they were never really there for me growing up, and I have also had depressive episodes about that. I’m willing to go into more depth into that if you want. Back to my legal name issues. I have broken down at school many times, and I’m starting to not be able to cry anymore. The last time I smiled was Sunday night, with my best friend while watching my favorite movie. I’ve been angrier, and my friends have told me I’m starting to look hollow and empty. It’s starting to affect my general life, and I have no idea what to do (Minor here) because my parents told me it’s stupid, I’ll grow out of it and no one will ever accept it (My small group of friends do). So… yeah. That’s my situation. Sierra.

So much I need to say, so I’ll do it in a Q&A format

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Q: Are you happy? A: No Q: Why are you not happy? A: Because I hate myself Q: Why do you hate yourself? A: Because in my 25 years of being alive most of it has been me making bad decisions which I regret making and I hate myself because I barely made... View more

Q: Are you happy? A: No Q: Why are you not happy? A: Because I hate myself Q: Why do you hate yourself? A: Because in my 25 years of being alive most of it has been me making bad decisions which I regret making and I hate myself because I barely made the good decisions. Q: Name one of these bad decisions. A: Not thinking twice before diving into my relationships. Q: And why do you consider that a bad decision? A: Because I learned a painful lesson, Girls are trouble, always have been, always will be, I should have known better than to be so naive and think that all relationships were perfect. Q: And had you not made this bad decision what would have happened? A: I would not be so emotionally and mentally shattered, I would be a little bit happier knowing I am not having to deal with all the crud of relationships. Q: What about knowledge, would you know as much as you do now had you not made that decision? A: I have a habbit of researching when curious, I would have researched Relationships at length, trying to extrapolate every inch of information I could, from that my knowledge on relationships would grow. Statement: Had you done that you would still been researching for all the answers, why because to learn everything about relationships without ever having been in one takes longer than firsthand experience. Counter-Statement: And Firsthand experience is exactly what lead to me being a mental and emotional mess, I hate being a mental and emotional mess, therefore I hate the decision I made to dive into a relationship without knowing all the information prior.

Stuck in a really huge rut- can't think of a way out.

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At present I currently have no high school education - not even a year 10 certificate, never had a job, can't drive, not in uni and live in the middle of nowhere. The nearest civilisation is 10 mins away aka I can't even walk or ride a bike anywhere ... View more

At present I currently have no high school education - not even a year 10 certificate, never had a job, can't drive, not in uni and live in the middle of nowhere. The nearest civilisation is 10 mins away aka I can't even walk or ride a bike anywhere and I don't even have neighbours that I could talk to. I don't know what to do. Every day I do nothing. Get up, go on the computer, read, cook, sleep. Every single day for the past few years. I have no memories really of anything. I don't have any friends that I could hang out with since I never leave my house I don't have any. I thought my only solution to this problem is being able to drive but I can't drive. No matter how hard I try I suck at it. I almost run into people all the time. I get so anxious when I drive and I don't even realise. I tried to drive for a little over a year but now I've given up. I was only on my L's though so I couldn't drive by myself anyway. So because can't drive I can't ever go anywhere and both my parents work so I am at home alone all day every day. I don't even apply to jobs anymore because I have no availability. I've gone almost 2 months without leaving my house earlier this year. I am soooo lonely but I'm very used to it. I can't think of any solution. My parents always ask me if I am depressed all the time and I always say no because I don't know if I am. I'm just numb. I think I am a really big burden on my family and I don't even like them to see me because I feel guilty. Idk what to do. I'm 18

Lost an important friendship two months ago, still unable to make peace with it.

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Hey everyone, this one might be a bit long but bear with me. Roughly two years ago, I moved from New Zealand to Australia and the first place I lived at was a residential college. Most of you will be familiar with the reputation that residential coll... View more

Hey everyone, this one might be a bit long but bear with me. Roughly two years ago, I moved from New Zealand to Australia and the first place I lived at was a residential college. Most of you will be familiar with the reputation that residential colleges have, especially when it comes to alcohol and partying. Naturally, I found it somewhat hard to fit in, since I don’t drink (alcohol intolerance, made my 18th birthday really fun). There was one other person in my college who did not drink too, and we became very close friends. We were so close that our mutual friends would compare us to an old married couple. Unfortunately, at the start of this year I decided to move out of the residential college, I was fed up with the constant partying and my scholarship had finally expired. My friend stayed however. So around the start of the semester I messaged her asking if she wanted to hang out sometime, she said yes and we arranged a date and time. However, the day of our meetup rolled around and she was sick, and could only see me for half an hour, or we could postpone to another week. I said I understood, though I joked “but I can’t possibly last another week without you!” we used to always say things like this to each other, so I thought it was fine. It was not fine, she said that my joke was super creepy, and she was not comfortable seeing me. I apologise and say I will give her however much distance she needs. Roughly a month later I message her again apologising and saying that I never meant to creep her out, and that I am willing to do anything to mend the friendship. She responded saying that I am not forgiven, and that upon reflecting on our friendship, she was always uncomfortable around me and did not enjoy any of the time we spent together. She then finished by saying I should never contact her again, and any attempts to convince her otherwise will make her more sure of her decision. I tried asking what is it that I do that makes her uncomfortable since she had never brought it up with me previously, but she then proceeded to block me on all forms of social media. Thank you for reading that small tale of woe, it has been two months since this incident has happened and I still feel worthless sometimes, I wonder was I so stupid and shortsighted that I never noticed her being uncomfortable for two years and I still have fears about ever finding someone I’ll be so close to ever again, I hope there are people out there who can relate.

I am 20 years old. I have thrown up everyday for the last 2 years.

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I don't remember the last time i cried. However, after spending the last 3 hours reading multiple posts and stories on this forum, I can't stop the tears. I am male, 6 ft and some, i have blue eyes and I spent my formative years chasing popularity an... View more

I don't remember the last time i cried. However, after spending the last 3 hours reading multiple posts and stories on this forum, I can't stop the tears. I am male, 6 ft and some, i have blue eyes and I spent my formative years chasing popularity and girls. If you saw me in the street (which, recently, is a rare sight), you wouldn't be able to tell I have the level of anxiety I do and that, for me, is the worst part. The fact that so many people can be walking by me during the day and enduring this kind of suffering, is heartbreaking. I put off coming to this forum because I was worried about what I would find and whether my story was "worthy" to be shared. I never tell people about my state of mind because ultimately, I don't think I deserve the sympathy. Since High School, my entire persona was built around figuring out what people wanted me to be, say and look like and adjusting to that image. The status and popularity I had (despite how shallow it was) kept me in a state of delirium and unparalleled motivation. I was always chasing that high of approval. I became captain of the sports team, frequently did speeches, became school leader and when school finished, I started a charity, wrote a book, etc. Yet, everything I did was motivated by the attention I received from the people around me. I had experienced bouts of anxiety before but I always came out the other side. Then, I experienced loneliness, social isolation, alienation, agoraphobia, constant vomiting, the palpitations, shaky hands, never eating, significant weight loss, loss of confidence, depersonalisation, fear of depression, fear of death, fear of everything and hypochondria. I am terrified of passing out and the thought haunts me everywhere i go. I wake up sick so I don't eat and then I get more scared of passing out. I have seen six therapists, two psychiatrists and lost count of how many doctors. I know the location of every hospital and always check how far away it is from my current location. I have tried medication but I was so scared of it doing something to me I ended up throwing it up anyway. I don't know what result or response I expect from writing this, if any. I just know that I am strangely hopeful about my situation. It could be delusions of grandeur but I feel sure i will emerge a better person. Or, I may be too far gone and only fame will retrieve my purpose for life. I don't know what values I have left that are authentic to me and not what someone else wants me to be.

Urgent Friendship Help

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Hello, Many name is Kit and I have always struggled with making friends. I lived in the UK originally and had lots of friends, moved to Australia and didn’t make as many friends. I had a few guys as friends but we grew apart. This continued through p... View more

Hello, Many name is Kit and I have always struggled with making friends. I lived in the UK originally and had lots of friends, moved to Australia and didn’t make as many friends. I had a few guys as friends but we grew apart. This continued through primary, secondary and collage. I had a couple of friends in collage but recently one of them was bullying me and calling me names behind my back like “fluff for brains.” So I stopped being her friend, and lost another who does everything she says. I recently reconnected with a friend from collage and she seemed really nice and laid back, but when we want to organise something she always organises it at the last minute and it makes me anxious and stressed. I like to be super organised I have OCD along with Anxiety and I’m on the autism spectrum. I wanted to see her yesterday, and she got back super late. I had been on holiday and was super tired so I slept in, she got pissed off because she wanted to see me in the morning. And she blames me for being not flexible. I don’t think we are friends anymore as she’s sort of made it clear that it’s the last time she will bother to see me. But the thing is I’m the one who organises any of our catchups, the last couple of time I’ve let her we haven’t even seen each other! We’ve go to a party that I organised, the movies, a market all those sorts of things because I organised when and where. Either she doesn’t want to see me or something because whenever I ask her to organise it never happen. And she’s blaming me! She didn’t even ask me how my holiday was, I let my mum read our messages on Facebook and my mum said it felt like she was attaching me It’s the small things and I always make an effort and send smiley faces and all that but I don’t get much back. What do you think about this? I’m lucky I have a lovely boyfriend and family, but I struggle with people my own age especially girls. I feel as if I am not a conformist and my own person, and don’t always fit into the categories people like putting people in. Thanks Kit

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Feeling lost

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Just getting this high school bullying off my chest

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Anxiety/Stress symptoms- strange dropping feeling?

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Highschool- relationships and sexualities

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Am I weird?

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So much I need to say, so I’ll do it in a Q&A format

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Stuck in a really huge rut- can't think of a way out.

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Lost an important friendship two months ago, still unable to make peace with it.

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I am 20 years old. I have thrown up everyday for the last 2 years.

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Urgent Friendship Help

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New to this Forum? Please read this first!

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Feeling lost

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Just getting this high school bullying off my chest

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Anxiety/Stress symptoms- strange dropping feeling?

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Highschool- relationships and sexualities

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Am I weird?

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So much I need to say, so I’ll do it in a Q&A format

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Stuck in a really huge rut- can't think of a way out.

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Lost an important friendship two months ago, still unable to make peace with it.

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I am 20 years old. I have thrown up everyday for the last 2 years.

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Urgent Friendship Help

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