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I know I should be happy, but I'm just not

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Why do I feel like this? I know I should be happy with my life and everything it has given me, but right now I'm just not. I am stressed internally, like all the time. My head is constantly worrying and over thinking. "Will I ever feel love? Why don'... View more

Why do I feel like this? I know I should be happy with my life and everything it has given me, but right now I'm just not. I am stressed internally, like all the time. My head is constantly worrying and over thinking. "Will I ever feel love? Why don't people like me? What am I going to do with my future?" On the outside I look fine, but on the inside I feel like I'm trapped. Not sure where to go or what to do next. I feel so alone. My friends have all moved on since we've gone to uni and I haven't. I know that I shouldn't be letting this get me down but it does. It breaks me that we have known each other for so long and they suddenly don't put in any effort into the friendship. I am terrible at making new friends. My friends not caring has made it harder for me connect with new people. I get so anxious talking to new people, thinking that I will ruin it somehow. I constantly fear I'm annoying the small group of people that I actually talk to. I have never had a boyfriend... or any boy even look at me. I question my body, appearance and personality because of this. Does anyone actually like me or will they ever. I can never get this out of my head. I have the best family in the world. But I can't lump all my stress on them. I have talked to my mum about having hardly any friends and having never had a boyfriend. When home alone sometimes all these thoughts come to mind and I cry and occasionally breathe heavy. I can't keep bringing it up to my mum. I don't want to be a burden. I don't want to be the family disappointment. I know this is a trivial problem and I shouldn't even be making out to be a problem. I am letting this get in the way of traveling overseas for study which I really want to do, except I worry that even if I'm in a new country everything will be the same. I am trying to think positively and ward away the negativity but it's really tough I won't lie. But I will say that I want anyone else to know that if you're feeling this way, please know you're never alone xx

Can't handle family anymore

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Hi, I'm 24 years old I live with my parents and 29 year old sister. My sister does not communicate with my parents and often blames them for things. My parents no longer want to deal with my sister. Because of this I end up caught in the middle. I en... View more

Hi, I'm 24 years old I live with my parents and 29 year old sister. My sister does not communicate with my parents and often blames them for things. My parents no longer want to deal with my sister. Because of this I end up caught in the middle. I end up with my sister venting to me but end up coping her anger. Recently my sister has been complaining about my spending, I'm very in control of my finances my sister recently complained about me buying a melways something I thought was a practical purchase. I recently brought my first car so I want to have things for emergencies such as a melways, torch, first aid kit, etc. My sister does not listen to me Espically when I give advice for example my sister was upset and taking out her anger out on me about my parents not doing the washing properly I suggested she talk to my parents about it but she never does. I told my parents she should do her own laundry if she' going to complain as she is 29 year old adult. As my parents don' want to deal with her it allows her to get away with her brat behavior. I fear the only option is for me to move out. None of my friends are looking to move out, I've been advised to check out flatmates but I'm nervous to move in with people I don' know very well. I would prefer to move out by myself but I am constantly told it is too expensive and would not be great for my depression. But I'm really worried I'll move in with someone and still feel lonely or worried there will be conflict. I have grown up in house where there is always conflict so I have always wanted my own place where I feel safe and happy.

Feeling down

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For the past few weeks I have felt really down, so much so I don’t want to get out of bed anymore or do anything. It takes me a long time to get motivation to do anything and then once I start it takes me longer then usual to finish the task. I have ... View more

For the past few weeks I have felt really down, so much so I don’t want to get out of bed anymore or do anything. It takes me a long time to get motivation to do anything and then once I start it takes me longer then usual to finish the task. I have being up to my neck in school work and work. Two weeks ago I fractured my thumb in a game of rugby and it has left me in a splint unable to do anything with my hand. I’m generally a very independent person and now that I can only use one hand I find myself asking for so much help and I feel bad about it. Normally in the winter or colder seasons I do feel a bit down sometimes but it has never gotten this bad before to the extent where everyone around me is worrying about me and I don’t feel like myself. I just took the beyond blue checklist on depression and got 38 and 13 on the anxiety checklist. I was wondering if anyone had any ways they could recommend to help me relax or just even things that I should do to try and make me happier. thank you

I don’t know how to get back on my feet

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So I left my boyfriend after 3 months because I felt like after spending a month away in Europe, I had changed as a person and I didn’t think that the right thing for me was my relationship. My relationship had become my entire life and I had no bala... View more

So I left my boyfriend after 3 months because I felt like after spending a month away in Europe, I had changed as a person and I didn’t think that the right thing for me was my relationship. My relationship had become my entire life and I had no balance and when i was away I think that I evolved to enjoy the time we had apart. Of course I still love him and I didn’t want to break up but I was pushing him away, uninvolving him in certain parts of my life, trying to see him less, and I didn’t feel like I could bounce back from our fights like I usually could. Its been almost a month and my life has since spiralled out of control, I’m depressed, I’m ruining my friendships and Im doing illegal things that are getting me in trouble. I don’t like who’ve I’ve become and I just want help. None of my friends have seen me this sad or out of control before, but I’ve ruined my friendships and how people think of me at school. I don’t feel somfortable talking to anyone really and if I tell someon they brush it off and don’t do anything. I know I need help I want to go to my favourite teacher, can you help me on how to approach someone on how to get help? Thank you

Lonely School Girl

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Hello, Earlier this year I arrived back in Australia from a six month exchange to Canada. I have been back for nearly five months now and have come to the realisation that the group of friends I left behind are not the same people I have came back to... View more

Hello, Earlier this year I arrived back in Australia from a six month exchange to Canada. I have been back for nearly five months now and have come to the realisation that the group of friends I left behind are not the same people I have came back to. I don't know if I am annoying, boring or just a burden but I feel unwanted and left out. My best friend and I don't even feel close anymore. I don't know what to do, I feel lonely and sad and that I have no one to talk to besides my family. I miss my friends in Canada a lot and the friends I have through soccer and work aren't close enough to me that I would hang out with outside of those activities. I'm a shy, awkward person and I find it hard to make friends too. I don't want this to affect me next year when I am doing the HSC, as I really want to get a good result. I just feel lonely and lost.

Is this normal?

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I suffer with depression from a fictional characters death, it sounds crazy. I don't know if it's normal. when they died, i felt all alone. The character and I had such a bond and things in common like having a abusive (in my case, verbally) father a... View more

I suffer with depression from a fictional characters death, it sounds crazy. I don't know if it's normal. when they died, i felt all alone. The character and I had such a bond and things in common like having a abusive (in my case, verbally) father and feeling like no one cares. Seeing someone who I relate too the most die hurts, it feels like I'm the only one suffering. Is it normal? Or is it weird?

I FEEL UGLY

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Ever since I started high school I have gotten told I was ugly because of my red hair and how people would never date a red haired girl because it would be like dating an orangutan or that I have cancer just because my eyebrows and eyelashes were so ... View more

Ever since I started high school I have gotten told I was ugly because of my red hair and how people would never date a red haired girl because it would be like dating an orangutan or that I have cancer just because my eyebrows and eyelashes were so light , I have recently changed schools and people are much more accepting but every time I look in the mirror I see this ugly girl that no one will ever like and what makes it worse is that I have absolutely no self confidence , some days I feel like I am to ugly for people to look at and I just want to cry and cry and cry because I don't feel good enough for anyone

I don't know what to do.

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Hi, I'm a 15 year old from Brisbane. I've been feeling very depressed for about 4 years, however, in the last 6 months it has just gotten worse and worse. I've been having panic attacks that have lasted for up to 3 hours and have just felt lethargic ... View more

Hi, I'm a 15 year old from Brisbane. I've been feeling very depressed for about 4 years, however, in the last 6 months it has just gotten worse and worse. I've been having panic attacks that have lasted for up to 3 hours and have just felt lethargic and numb for the last few weeks. My memory has become increasingly spotty - sometimes I can go to work or even just down stairs at home and not remember how and when I got down there and what I was doing there. Its starting to really negatively impact my life. I've been dealing with family members and friends in hospitals and its really getting me down. I've had no interest in hobbies or anything like that - its almost like i'm glued to my bed or couch. Its not just normal teenage laziness, this is worse than that. I've been exercising and eating as much as my body will let me. I exercise for about 45 minutes a day and i'd like to go for longer to loose some weight, but my body just wont let me. I suddenly just loose interest in everything and flop. My diet isn't really fantastic. Since my psychologist recommended I try St John's Wort in combination with fish oil, i haven't really been hungry or had the urge to eat anything. I've been on it for about 2 months and so far, I've gained weight by not eating much and my mental state seems to keep getting worse and worse. Earlier in the year, I started to experiment with recreational and experimental drugs to take my mind off some of the stuff that was happening in my life. None of it helped and I regret it now. My doctor and Psychologist think i'm just fine but nothing is helping me and it just seems to keep getting worse and worse. I scored a 43/50 on my K10 and I don't think that makes me 'just fine'. Parents don't seem to worry too much and they wont let me see a clinical psychologist because it will be too much trouble. A few weeks back, i started getting headaches in the middle of the day for 2 hours where i could not read or concentrate on anything at all. My doctor dismissed this as 'normal'. I have weird unintended side effects to some cold medications, like pseudoephedrine, which makes me extremely hyper, even though the main side effect of it is to make you drowsy, so i'm not sure if i would get unintended side effects with antidepressants. I'm not in any danger, but i'd just really like to know what's going on and what i should do. Thanks,

Stable relationship vs party boy

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Ok so here’s the story. Im in the relationship with the man I thought was the man of my dreams. Around the time I got with him I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression so I went from very extravert to introvert and I thought I was ok with that. No... View more

Ok so here’s the story. Im in the relationship with the man I thought was the man of my dreams. Around the time I got with him I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression so I went from very extravert to introvert and I thought I was ok with that. No I love/d this boy he is so kind and so sweet and we use to spend hours talking all night, we still text every day and see each other during the week and weekends. However I feel like the spark is disappearing for me. I love tried talking to him about this but he thinks we are fine. So I somehow found myself chatting to this other guy (out of boredom or self sabotage which I do a lot I’m not sure) anyway we really get along he’s so free and wild and party’s a lot I like it. In comparison to my quietish boyfriend who doesn’t really have a circle of friends and isn’t that social. So one thing led to another and some hot abs steamy things were done in the bedroom with this other guy. I felt really bad about it but now I’m not sure. Like I’m recovering from my depression and want to get out more and have fun but my boyfriend is like we do have fun and we do but I just feel like somethings missing. Or it’s just me making problems for myself. My current boyfriend I have plans to marry one day and raise a family with. So I need some way to get rid of these feelings for the party guy. Or do I leave my stable and 100% committed boyfriend for some party guy just because he is fun. i really do I want stay with my boyfriend but I need to know how to get the spark back.

Chronic Nausea

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Hi, I'm not really sure how this works as this is the first time I have used this website. I have been suffering from chronic nausea for over 6 months now. So pretty much I have been told I have severe anxiety, I guess I have always thought I've had ... View more

Hi, I'm not really sure how this works as this is the first time I have used this website. I have been suffering from chronic nausea for over 6 months now. So pretty much I have been told I have severe anxiety, I guess I have always thought I've had anxiety but I never thought it would make me this sick. I've felt so lost the past 6 months and have found it hard to cope and the relationships with my friends and family have become difficult because I feel like I am dragging everyone down with me and I just want to be better so I can be there for everyone else in my life. I have a lot of stresses in my life at the moment, coming close towards the end of high school, pressure of sport and my parents wanting me to do really well. I was wondering if anyone else is suffering from chronic nausea or have in the past. If so I would just simply like some advice and how you got through the constant worrying and stress of anxiety and depression and how to get through the constant feeling of being sick. Thank you

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