Lonely and bored

[Lula94]

Hi guys.

Soo this is my first post and I don't really know what I'm doing. I've pretty much been bullied all my life, it's stopped now that I'm older but people still aren't very nice to me. It's really damaged my confidence though and every time I meet a new person I'm worried what they think of me. I'm super introverted and find it hard to talk to people, even people I know really well. The only person I feel like I can be myself around is my boyfriend, I'm usually funny and silly around him. I don't really have any 'real' friends, so when I'm not with my boyfriend I feel super lonely. No one ever makes an effort to message me or talk to me, and I only ever see my friends every now and then. I just wish I had a best friend. When I'm not doing something and just sitting around at home I find that I go into like a weird state where I legit can't sit still and will kinda pace around the house. If anyone has any ideas of fun activities I could do that would be great. I like going for walks but can never find the motivation to go on my own, and I also go to the gym but in between that and when I'm not working I just get super bored. I love being outdoors and doing things but my boyfriend never really thinks of anything to do, I'm always the one who has to come up with ideas. Idk I just feel so lonely in this life and feel like no one cares about me . I could literally disappear off the face of the Earth and I don't think anyone would notice.

If you read all this, congratulations.

Thank you.

[quirkywords]

Hi Lula,

Welcome to the forum. It is hard to make your first post but you have done well to share your story.

This is a safe, friendly, caring and supportive place.

I am sorry you were bullied in the past.

I am glad you have your boyfriend that you be yourself with.

Do you like taking photographs? Maybe when you go on a walk you could take photographs or if you like drawing you could sketch things outside.

If you live in a city or big town there are lots of free things to go to like galleries and museums.

Do you like riding a bicycle?

I am sad that you think no one notices you.

Thanks again for sharing your story. I care about you and appreciate that you have taken time to post here.

Quirky

[Birdy77]

Hi Lula,

I would also like to say welcome.

As Quirky said it takes courage to make your first post, and by you putting your story up here it will help lots of other people who feel the same feelings as you to feel a bit less alone.

I am glad you have your boyfriend who you can just be yourself with.

I understand the ferling of caring a lot of what others think of you especially when you first meet them. I hope you will start to build your confidence from when those bullies took it away from you.

I know being introverted can be hard to make new friends too. I have a cartoon

"How to host an introverts party: 1. Buy chips and snacks 2. Invite nobody. 3. Best party ever!" I can relate to that 😄

Quirky has some great ideas, photography, sketching when you're outdoors.

You said you get really antsy sometimes at home, like agitated and pacing. Have you tried zentangles before? Or how about those awesome colouring books you can get, just to calm your mind a bit and focus on a task?

There are some social zone threads here on the forums where people play games, eg. The 5 letter game, or you could trawl through some of the other threads here and make some online friends and connect with nice people. Everyone is very nice here.

Thanks for posting here and hope to hear back from you if you feel like it.

[demonblaster]

Hi lula i too am sorry you were bullied people can be very cruel & uncaring but thats down to them not you as in its them that has issues projecting onto others

Im glad to hear you enjoy walking, I do too its quite stimulating & yes it does take a bit of push to go by yourself but when you start you'll find each time gets bit easier, its good by yourself if you wanna stop & look at flowers or things you're not holding anyone up & can go at your own pace

Do you read, Mum said once if you have a goid book you have a best friend, its true

Could maybe join an internet friendship group

Dont know if you play computer games too

I get bored too if im not out, watch lot tv & sleep

Have good day hun ☺