Loneliness

John01 · ‎10-01-2016

Hello, im 16 and i have been feeling down. I feel like no one cares about me, my parents dont understand and they just see me as being lazy. I have no friends that will understand either.i was gonna runaway today but didnt have anywhere to go. I dont want to be in this house anymore. The days go by lonely and i dont know what to do. I just the loneliness to end.

Guest_5218 · ‎10-01-2016

Hello John. I am so sorry that you are feeling so down and lonely. I have a 16yo nephew who is in a very similar situation to you. He has been diagnosed with depression, and is now seeing a psychologist. It has helped him somewhat, although he still has his good and bad times.

Dont forget that you are at an age where raging hormones are wreaking havoc with your body and mind. So just try to keep things in perspective.

Have you spoken to your family Doctor about how you feel? If not, I would strongly urge you to arrange for an appointment to discuss it with him/her.

Dont be too hard on your parents, they are no doubt concerned for you and dont know what to do. Perhaps trying to get you to snap out of one of your moods? Thats fairly typical I think you'll find.

But please dont consider running away, because you would then lose your family support and your means of living (eg the essentials of life - food, water, shelter). Stay where you are loved and cared for. Your family will help you to get through this rough patch in your life.

I expect you are still at school? In which case you are in the middle of a long school holiday break. Perhaps you are missing all your school friends. Is it possible to visit some of them, or arrange to meet somewhere eg a cafe for a milkshake, or a skate park, the movies, or something else that you enjoy doing? Anything to get you out of the house for a while and with some friends who you like. You dont have to discuss with them how you feel, as you say that your friends would not understand. Thats fine, but you should try to get out and about as much as you can.

I am sorry I am unable to really offer any words of wisdom to help you John, but I am hoping you will receive other messages from people who have more experience in your particular circumstances.

I wish you well John and hope you will soon feel happy and less lonely.

Sherie x

geoff · ‎11-01-2016

dear John, thanks for posting your first comment, because it's always great to have people of any age to come to the site.

Being 16 is a very interesting age, because you're almost on the step to adulthood, start to learn how to drive and that's very exciting, plus there are so many other issues which you will be approaching, some of which our parents may not agree on, and want us to try something else which we may not agree on, so although it's interesting it can be very difficult.

Some parents don't want to accept that one of their kids could be suffering from depression, because 'it's taboo' and would never expect that it's possible after all they have done to bring you up, but no matter how well you were brought up, depression doesn't care one bit and will take over whenever it wants to.

As much as you don't want to live where you are, it's a place where you have your own bed and clothes, however are there any other relatives, sisters, brothers who you can live with, where you will feel welcome, but if so, then this is just a small start to helping you overcome this horrible feeling, because this is where you need to make contac

Durras · ‎11-01-2016

Hi John,

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling this way. I wanted to post some of my experience with you.

I ran away from home when I was 15 and before this I use to go ice-skating every Friday night and mum and dad would wonder if they were picking me up because I often didn't go back home. I was in search for love, to feel loved, to feel accepted and wanted and apart of someone or something if that makes sense so I use to meet up with guys and stay with them for days on end and mum and dad never knew where I was. I was also a drinker at that age, so I used alcohol a lot to deal with my depression but at the time I didn't know I was suffering depression, I didn't know what was wrong with me I just thought well this is me, this is how I am.

My parents owned a furniture business so I don't know if they really noticed what was wrong with me or it was in the too hard basket for them or as Geoff said it was taboo for them as they were well known in society for their business. ( it was a top furniture business)

I really want to say PLEASE stay home, PLEASE don't run away even thou it may feel better your running from your shelter and your family but you can't escape from what is going on internally that will still be with you wherever you go, your only moving to a different location but internal things stay.

I wish I knew all this at your age as I do regret for leaving when I did, I wish I sourced help and support as you have reached out here on BB but then when I was 15 16 we didn't have the internet. I am now 44 and my mum is only now becoming aware of my depression, reason for this is another story from me.

PLEASE John hang in their and seek help. You have started at a good place with BB this website has lots to offer, see your GP for help too and keep in touch with us. May I suggest talk with your parents maybe after you have seen your GP so you may then have more understanding of things your going through and ask him/her about how to discuss it with them. As others have said too your at a real difficult age growing into adulthood so be gentle on yourself and take time to know and find out and plan your direction and with who you are becoming your own person if that makes sense.

John I wish you all the best, please stay at home and seek help from your GP and always know there is someone here weather you want to vent it on here or talk to someone from BB via phone. Know your not alone.

Keep in touch

Durras

John01 · ‎12-01-2016

Thanks for all the replies, i feel abit better knowing that there are people out there like me and im not by myself.

Macshack · ‎22-01-2016

Hey John, I'm 16 too and I reckon I know almost exactly what you're feeling like. It's really hard even for me because when I'm with people I feel disconnected, but what's really important is that you find something that can make you feel even just that little bit better. I'm so sorry you feel this way but I hope you find something that makes you happy and then just try to connect with people slowly. Find a friend and spend time with them until you feel more comfortable and move onto the next one until you feel more connected. Just do what you feel will make you feel ok and go with it. Anon.

Durras · ‎29-01-2016

Hi John01,

I was wanting to know how you are and how everything is going. Hope your doing ok. I thought to let you know someone is still here thinking of you and hoping all is going better for you or if your still struggling please let us know.

Hope you get in touch soon

Carol