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I have had depression on and off for about a year and a half now and I haven't told my parents about any of it. I have only just become comfortable with telling my friends as some of them have anxiety / similar problems but I don't know if I should t... View more

I have had depression on and off for about a year and a half now and I haven't told my parents about any of it. I have only just become comfortable with telling my friends as some of them have anxiety / similar problems but I don't know if I should tell my parents? Also since depression is somewhat new to me and I don't know anyone else with it I was wondering what you guys do to help it, I usually go for long walks but if there's anything you would reccommend I'm all ears. Thanks and pls help xx

How I cleared debilitating Social Anxiety from my life - Probs for young people - Drastic change required!

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This is from a time in my life where I was able to get rid of all my 'strings' and fix myself. I was 20 at the time and am 24 now, with zero-very mild social anxiety at times. I know it's drastic, but that's what I needed and it worked for me!I know ... View more

This is from a time in my life where I was able to get rid of all my 'strings' and fix myself. I was 20 at the time and am 24 now, with zero-very mild social anxiety at times. I know it's drastic, but that's what I needed and it worked for me!I know it mightn't help everyone, but if it helps even one person, that's awesome!I'm going to do this in quick dot-points bc of word limit! Happy to elaborate or help anyone else out if their situation is a bit different!So, my problems were:Had severe social anxiety & panic attacks.Didn't even know what those things were at first.Red faced, heart racing, sweating all over... felt like the whole world was focused on me.Couldn't speak to anyone or focus/pay attention/talk at uni. Too nervous!Couldn't even move my body without feeling like people were watching.So strange!Had been in a long term 5 yrs relationship that had gone stale.Had isolated myself from friends and only had my partners friends.Felt trapped. Had lost all interest/creativity in everything I'd ever loved doing.I felt like the shell of who I'd wanted to be.Realized this was all connected - I had lost who I was and therefore had no confidence in my own skin.Went to see a doctor to get the free psychologist/councilor recommendationInstead they give me an antidepressant.I'm annoyed because I didn't even want the stuff. Just wanted someone to talk to.Go again, next guy gives me the same stuff.It's my turning point. I'm annoyed at the doctor because I know what I need.I realize I can fix the problems myself.Break up with boyfriend.risk having no friends because having no friends is better than staying w bf.Still have one friend luckily... (but not needed!)Quit uni (because I've fallen too far behind)Get job (=saving money!)Start volunteering for Wildlife rescue organization (=Purpose!, People!)Did a toastmasters (public speaking class)With money saved: Booked tickets to travel solo overseas in Asia for 4 months. $5000Did Permaculture design course in Thailand. Changed my outlook on life.Living on a farm for two weeks with other people from around the world. Did plenty of group activities, learning, playing, eating together. Traveled around Asia with them and others for the next few months. Met SO MANY people! Realized how small (and big) each of us are in the world. Came back w plenty of confidence to restart uni. Met plenty of like-minded people. Then moved cities and started with a fresh outlook and clean slate.Then end(/beginning!)

Newbie!

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Hi My name is Tasha and I'm 20 years old. I suffer from social anxiety. Sometimes feel like I am the only who gets panic attacks but reading a lot of everyone's posts I've realized I have got people to talk to who will understand me. Decided to join ... View more

Hi My name is Tasha and I'm 20 years old. I suffer from social anxiety. Sometimes feel like I am the only who gets panic attacks but reading a lot of everyone's posts I've realized I have got people to talk to who will understand me. Decided to join today as I have had the worst morning and my first serious panic attack. I was excited as I had an aged care trainee-ship lined up but when I arrived today, I started getting dizzy and hot and paranoid so I quickly left without saying why, then didn't stop crying for hours. I don't know if I will ever be successful because at the moment I feel hopeless. Sorry for my first introduction being so lame but I would love to know if anyone has been in a same situation Tasha

New and Confused (about how I'm feeling)

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I joined this because I was searching the web to see if I could find out something about how I'm currently feeling, or lack thereof, and as I have suffered from anxiety/depression before, thought it might have something to do with it. I'm 20 and have... View more

I joined this because I was searching the web to see if I could find out something about how I'm currently feeling, or lack thereof, and as I have suffered from anxiety/depression before, thought it might have something to do with it. I'm 20 and have been dealing with depression since the age of 7. The last two years I haven't had any problems. I got a new boyfriend, had a positive outlook on life, new what sort of jobs I wanted, what I needed to do to get there, etc. Last week I went to visit my grandad, and missed my boyfriend a lot. I face timed him each day and called him. Then suddenly it stopped. Not the face timing or anything, but the feelings of love and happiness. I didn't slowly feel less in love or less happy it was just poof, gone. I'm not unhappy. I'm back now, doing things, or having things happen that should make me feel great or overjoyed, but every time I should feel love or happiness I don't feel anything at all. It's like being a computer with a glitch. File not found. Everything else is normal, I just can't seem to feel these feelings. Has anyone else ever experienced this, or know if it is my depression, or can tell me anything about it at all?

I am my own worst critic

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Hi I'm Lucas I'm 16, and new to Beyond Blue, so its nice to be here. I've been suffering from anxiety for around 4 years and for the last over six months I've been depressed, and I hate it, because no matter how happy I feel, there is always this voi... View more

Hi I'm Lucas I'm 16, and new to Beyond Blue, so its nice to be here. I've been suffering from anxiety for around 4 years and for the last over six months I've been depressed, and I hate it, because no matter how happy I feel, there is always this voice in my head, telling me I'm "not good enough" that "I'm fake" that "I'm stupid and a failure". I am my own worst critic, so when I get criticized by others it hits twice as hard. But I like to be a positive person when I can be, I'm in high school (obviously) and I push my self, I have received straight As for both school semesters, I received numerous leadership awards, academic awards and captaincy's, in just one year, and now I'm about to start another year, but this time I'm starting it while I feel, sad all the time, so I'm worried I wont live up to the expectations I place on myself, I'm a perfectionist, but one with no motivation, I hate going out, I hate seeing friends but I hate to be alone, and I put on this mask of happiness for my family and friends, I feel so alone. All my friendships are complex, I have so many friends that I feel alone in a sea of people that don't really know me, I feel like there is no one to turn to, hence why I am here, I'm scared that I will feel like this forever, unmotivated, unhappy, depressed, anxious, lonely and a failure. It feels like nothing I do is right, at work, at school or at home. I hate being judged, which is what started my whole anxiety thing, the fear of people talking about me negatively making me feel shit about myself and the fear of not living up to my expectations, my depression came straight after I got my first straight A's, I just felt nothing. Its not the sadness that hurts me its the feeling of nothing. So I suppose I'm here to see what you think, If theirs anyone that understands? sorry for my rant, -Lucas

Feeling lost and hopeless

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I am not the most important person in anyone's life. I have no passions. Every day is getting more and more difficult to get through. I have nothing to look forward to and have nothing to hope for other than to find some sort of peace.I will always c... View more

I am not the most important person in anyone's life. I have no passions. Every day is getting more and more difficult to get through. I have nothing to look forward to and have nothing to hope for other than to find some sort of peace.I will always come second to someone else for anyone. I don't even have a best friend. I haven't had one since primary school. Every single one of my friends has another they like more than me. I have no impact in the world and would not be missed for long if I was gone. Even my boyfriend will always choose to spend time with his family over me. Even new years, I am invited to spend time with them, but he's going no matter what I choose. Even if I go, he's going up earlier and I have to catch the train there. It won't affect anyone whether I'm there or not. We have been together over a year but I am still never a part of his decisions. I feel like I just get in the way.I just wish I was important. I wish I knew how to be happy. I wish I had the motivation to do anything. Nothing is easy.Barely anything is fun. Every day is harder than the previous one. I don't know what to do. I can't keep going like this. It never ends. My hope is disappearing more and more.I don't even want to get out of bed anymore. They say you must find happiness inside yourself, but I have run out. I'm just so tired I don't want to fight anymore. I'm sorry for rambling I just feel like I need to vent beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:8.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:107%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

Family holding me back

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I'm 18 in a few months and I feel as if I'm completely wedged in a ditch and am not getting out any time soon. I live with my mother and her boyfriend (they've been together since I was little). Starting from the beginning, a few years ago there was ... View more

I'm 18 in a few months and I feel as if I'm completely wedged in a ditch and am not getting out any time soon. I live with my mother and her boyfriend (they've been together since I was little). Starting from the beginning, a few years ago there was a bad bullying situation at school which caused me a lot of stress and triggered a lot of anxiety and depression. I dropped out of school at the beginning of year 11 after trying many different schooling options. As you can imagine I was so happy at first but that being said I've lost a lot of contact with people and feel incredibly lonely at times. I'm wavering on the decision of going back to a campus to complete my high school education. Lately, I've been feeling really not myself. I've come to a realisation that I've completely changed. I used to be so outgoing and happy but now I lock myself away in my bedroom almost every day and just sleep because I don't want to deal with the outside world. I have a couple of friends but I get the feeling my closest friend is distancing herself from me. I try so hard to be a good friend and to make an effort to hang out with people but it seems that it doesn't work both ways. I feel so rejected because of this. I always see girls hanging out and having fun and I'm alone in my bedroom. Not to mention the fact that I just don't seem to fit in with anyone. I have nothing in common with people my age anymore because I've grown mentally a lot in the past two years. At home, I don't get along with my mothers boyfriend. In fact, we despise each other. The problem here is. My mother and her boyfriend hold me back. I received my L's a fair few months ago and mum acted as if she was so excited and almost began crying when I passed my test (I know) yet I haven't been taken on a single lesson yet. No matter how many times I ask they always say they are to busy and I'll find them watching a movie on the couch. This really hurts me because even my younger cousin has been on more lessons than me and she's had hers for three days. Another thing is, I am so passionate about acting and film. I so badly want to begin lessons and I've asked my mother multiple times, pleaded with her to let me join and she just says "I will think about it". It really hurts because she knows how much it means to me yet she doesn't care. Im so tired of feeling helpless and broken. There is so much more I could say but I don't have enough characters so I'll leave it here. Thanks for listening/reading.

Anyone else struggling with Grief?

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Firstly i want to say im here for you. My best mates little sister was killed in a car accident when the ute they were in hit a tree. Her Dad suffered injury to his neck but we lost her instantly. I will never understand it. Why she only got 11 years... View more

Firstly i want to say im here for you. My best mates little sister was killed in a car accident when the ute they were in hit a tree. Her Dad suffered injury to his neck but we lost her instantly. I will never understand it. Why she only got 11 years and some paedophile gets to live to 100 years old. Im here for you all! 5 Months and it still hurts just as much as it did that day. :'(

Partner and depression

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Hi I really need some advice! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years, we are each others bestfriend and he just recently broke up with me because of his depression. The cause of his depression was caused by being forced to move to a... View more

Hi I really need some advice! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years, we are each others bestfriend and he just recently broke up with me because of his depression. The cause of his depression was caused by being forced to move to a different state with his parents, so we had to do long distance for 1 1/2 years. Only 6 months ago he decided to leave his parents and move back down to his original state to live with me. We were both very happy, despite his low days. I am very understanding of his depression as I also have depression and severe anxiety. During the Christmas holidays he decided to go and visit his parents for a month, and he had booked his plane ticket back to come home, and also left clothes, PlayStation consoles and bits and pieces, as he was so sure he was coming back to me. His parents aren't very 'nice' people, they have tried to break us up before, and they push him with his studies, and put him down quiet abit. They do not like me much at all, (I have not done anything wrong) it's just my boyfriend is the youngest child and his mother does not want him dating (yes after 4 years she still doesn't approve). He called me Monday, telling me we had to break up because he needs to get his life together, that he is a terrible and horrible person and he's not the person I think he is. He thinks I can do better than him, and whatever I say he won't listen to me. While he was on the phone he absolutely bawled his eyes out, saying I'll always be the one, (we are each others first loves) and I'm the right person at the wrong time? He is very very devoted to me, I trust him 100% faithfully. So this is quiet odd for him to break up with me, seeing as he has swore to God that he would never break up with me (he told me this because I have separation anxiety) and he had told me before he left to visit his parents that he had a date planned out for when he was going to propose to me in the future.. Im so confused and hurt, I know this is the depression breaking up with me, because he's very inlove with me. I don't know what to say to him, or how to calm him down. He is on medication for his depression also. Can anyone help me out? I feel physically and mentally drained over this. We have never broken up and I'll I want to do is help him and bring him back to me.

Confused.

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Hi everyone,Hope you are all well. Just some background info to begin with. I'm 21 years old and male. I go to university with 1 year left to go. I do everything normal people would in a way. Study, go out, go to the gym, work a part time job etc. Ye... View more

Hi everyone,Hope you are all well. Just some background info to begin with. I'm 21 years old and male. I go to university with 1 year left to go. I do everything normal people would in a way. Study, go out, go to the gym, work a part time job etc. Yet, something feels not quite there. I should be happy with what I have. Everybody else that's similar to me seems like they are happy with what they have.It's hard for me to articulate what I'm feeling because I don't exactly understand it myself. Sometimes it doesn't affect me - I feel normal, happy etc. However, when it does affect me I feel sad as if I just want to disappear from the world. This being said, I can't seem to understand what it is. I feel as though my life is never progressing forward. It is as if it is stagnating already. Like everyday will become the same old routine even though it isn't. I feel like I want to do one thing, yet end up doing another.It feels like all my friends are also there become of the circumstance (uni, school etc). Once I finish university, I'm not sure who my friends will be. It makes me feel lonely and scared at the same time. I can't seem to meet new people either. I can meet them and we can really get along. However, without something that allows us to constantly see one another (job, uni etc), I struggle to stay connected to said people. It makes me feel like I'm never going to make some real and everlasting friends. Everybody around me is advancing in their lives. New jobs, new relationships, etc. For me however, it's as if there are only 2 pillars holding me up: university and family. If you were to take away any one of these, then I would have nothing. Nothing to live for at all.I don't know if this will make sense to anyone. If anyone reads it and can relate, it'd be nice to know others that feel the same way. All the best ! beyondblue's clinically-trained moderators often work offline (invisible to you) on issues relating to suicide or self-harm. At the same time, general supportive comments from the community are encouraged. If you have concerns around suicide or self-harm, please phone our support service on 1300 22 4636. Normal 0 false false false EN-AU X-NONE X-NONE /* Style Definitions */ table.MsoNormalTable {mso-style-name:"Table Normal"; mso-tstyle-rowband-size:0; mso-tstyle-colband-size:0; mso-style-noshow:yes; mso-style-priority:99; mso-style-parent:""; mso-padding-alt:0cm 5.4pt 0cm 5.4pt; mso-para-margin-top:0cm; mso-para-margin-right:0cm; mso-para-margin-bottom:8.0pt; mso-para-margin-left:0cm; line-height:107%; mso-pagination:widow-orphan; font-size:11.0pt; font-family:"Calibri","sans-serif"; mso-ascii-font-family:Calibri; mso-ascii-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-hansi-font-family:Calibri; mso-hansi-theme-font:minor-latin; mso-fareast-language:EN-US;}

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How I cleared debilitating Social Anxiety from my life - Probs for young people - Drastic change required!

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Newbie!

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New and Confused (about how I'm feeling)

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I am my own worst critic

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Feeling lost and hopeless

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Family holding me back

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Anyone else struggling with Grief?

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Partner and depression

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How I cleared debilitating Social Anxiety from my life - Probs for young people - Drastic change required!

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Newbie!

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