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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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iKONIC15 New to this but hey,
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Hello, I was told that beyond blue is helpful and so I signed up and here I am. I have problems or issues I guess, but so do the majority of the population. I listen to people's problems and offer support etc but it's kinda hard if it's you yourself ... View more

Hello, I was told that beyond blue is helpful and so I signed up and here I am. I have problems or issues I guess, but so do the majority of the population. I listen to people's problems and offer support etc but it's kinda hard if it's you yourself you're dealing with. I am in my teens, so please be understanding of my choices of words, grammar etc (I don't know). Anyways, hello again and hopefully I can help you guys and you guys can help me.

Officer_Unicorn My story. So far
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My name is Billie and this is my story so far Primary school was the best time of my life I had heaps of friends and was really happy then high school hit me like a ton of bricks I moved houses so I moved schools I didn't know anybody and I was too a... View more

My name is Billie and this is my story so far Primary school was the best time of my life I had heaps of friends and was really happy then high school hit me like a ton of bricks I moved houses so I moved schools I didn't know anybody and I was too afraid to talk to any one and was on the verge or tears the whole time I spent lunch time alone so I started talking on the phone to my mum so I didn't look insane but she was busy obviously so then I had to pretend I was talking to her 3 weeks in nothing has changed and I pretending to talk to my mum then a group of 5 to 7 boys for my class walk by and my mum rings me while I'm pretending to talk to her they laugh and tell everyone that hit me really hard I didn't leave my bed for a week unless absolutely nessary So my mum transferred me to a homeschool kind of group that basically goes for two days a week it was ok small and the people were nice but since I had moved I lost touch with all my old friends so I start to fall in to the same pattern I wouldnt leave my bed unless absolutely necessary 5 days of the week fast forward one and a half years later my parents are really worried about me and move me to a main stream high school year nine I lasted two months there unable to make friends so they try putting me back in to the two day a week homeschool but I just felt too alienated and disconnected from the other kids after leaving for two months I couldn't do it so we make a decision that if I get a job maybe that will build my confidence the only problem is I'm not old enough yet so now I'm 100% homeschooled doing nothing waiting until I turn 14 and 9 months but then we realise nobody wants to hire a 14 year old so we wait until I'm 15 and now here I am 15 and 9 days old but I've barley left my room for almost 5 months and I hate myself now you might be thinking 5 months why haven't her parents noticed well my dad is rearly home constantly working and my mum is too busy with my autistic brother trying to cure him and I'm here sitting in my bed and i feel so alone I've tried reaching out online but it's all very temporary and I don't know what to do so I'm sitting here in my bed asking for help because I don't know what to do.

Irrelephant89 Stuck in a rut and can't get out
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Hi, im new to this and not sure where to start..I completed my intern year in a job I loved just under a year ago and I have been struggling to find work. I guess it's just the way things are atm but I can't help but feel as if I have failed . I'm al... View more

Hi, im new to this and not sure where to start..I completed my intern year in a job I loved just under a year ago and I have been struggling to find work. I guess it's just the way things are atm but I can't help but feel as if I have failed . I'm always tired and nothing seems to make me happy . My boyfriend tries so hard to help cheer me up but it doesn't work. My birthday is coming up and instead of spending it with my friends I just want to hide out in my room and be alone. I have a well balanced diet and I gym and take Pilates classes which keeps me active but the happiness doesn't last .Im constantly finding my self 'off with the fairies' or in a day dream. It gets worse at night and when I'm alone. The way I'm feeling and acting is affecting the people i love and I don't know how to pull my self out of this sadness. Jess

JS911 Depression, hate and mental health issues
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I feel like I can't talk to anyone. I feel so empty and useless and unneeded. I have physical things like tech and other stuff but not personal wants like a friend I can talk to or someone i can talk to when i feel like nothing. I always feel like I ... View more

I feel like I can't talk to anyone. I feel so empty and useless and unneeded. I have physical things like tech and other stuff but not personal wants like a friend I can talk to or someone i can talk to when i feel like nothing. I always feel like I don't belong and everyone hates me, I hate myself and I have a short fuse. Please give me some advice. Thanks.

Mike450 Anxiety is breaking me
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I've had a really rough 2 months and I'm just now starting to leave the house and go out with friends, but still in the back of my mind I get extremely upset because I obsess over who I am lately. I'm a 21 year old male and I have a few different gro... View more

I've had a really rough 2 months and I'm just now starting to leave the house and go out with friends, but still in the back of my mind I get extremely upset because I obsess over who I am lately. I'm a 21 year old male and I have a few different groups of friends but I just don't know who I am, what my morals are etc. I know people can be slightly different from time to time but I always COMPARE myself to people/celebrities I just can't make a decision of who I am, like I feel like people have an understanding of who they are but I literally feel like I don't, I'm just morphing depending on who I'm around and this makes me really depressed lately like I'll never be normal, the way I act, talk, speak etc changes. I feel sick thinking about it, I know I'm really ocd/anxious and stuff but I don't know I'm just struggling really bad lately I try to ignore it and go out as much as I can while I'm feeling good lately but then when I'm all alone at night I just get upset about this. I struggled with binge eating for a long time so I spent about 2 years isolated from everyone. right now I'm inbetween jobs but about to start a security course but then I get scared because what if that's not me. I just have no idea about myself and I use to think "Oh one day I'll figure it out" but now I'm obsessing this is a disorder and I'll be like this forever. It's so exhausting and talking to physcs and stuff about it I never really seem to get through to them what it's like. I'm trying really hard to be here for my family but everything stresses me out, will it always be like this?

Puzzle I am unlovable
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Hello, my "name" is Puzzle and I am new to this forum. This year has been a really awful year for me. My dog died, I haven't been able to hold down a job and on the weekend my boyfriend broke up with me. I am feeling so alone. How do I feel better? I... View more

Hello, my "name" is Puzzle and I am new to this forum. This year has been a really awful year for me. My dog died, I haven't been able to hold down a job and on the weekend my boyfriend broke up with me. I am feeling so alone. How do I feel better? I am worried I have undiagnosed depression/anxiety. I would love to see a psychologist but all I can think about is the cost...how do people afford it? I want to change my attitude and feel genuinely happy but I don't know what to do to make it happen. I feel like I am unlovable and that I will die alone.

KingKong Don't like spending time with family.
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Hello, I'm new I'm 16, male. This is my first post, so I'll try to keep it short. For a while now, I've felt like the odd one out in my family. Now, i know there's always that /one/ person who is typically different (which isn't necessarily a bad thi... View more

Hello, I'm new I'm 16, male. This is my first post, so I'll try to keep it short. For a while now, I've felt like the odd one out in my family. Now, i know there's always that /one/ person who is typically different (which isn't necessarily a bad thing ), but I've come to realise that i don't very much like spending time with them (ESPECIALLY at home). You could say that it's just a usual teenage thing, but i feel as though it's something a little more than that. Spending time with my mum is uncomfortable, especially when we're alone, and i also feel uncomfortable around my twin sister. I have a brother, though he is quite young. Time with him is OK. The thought of this makes me feel wierd, and to a lesser extent, disgusted with myself. I would much rather play computer games than watch TV with the family (and FIY, i do not have an addiction to games xd ). Affection from my mum - from anyone related to me - makes me annoyed, uncomfortable, etc. It would be worth noting that i do not have a dad. Anyone know if this is 'normal'? If not, should i be concerned-ish?

Poppy One attachment to pet
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Hey there. so tonight I spent about an hour crying over the fact that my dog is ageing ; I have always loved animals especially dogs and my dog Lola and I have always been really close. Im not sure why but her death / her getting sick / ageing has al... View more

Hey there. so tonight I spent about an hour crying over the fact that my dog is ageing ; I have always loved animals especially dogs and my dog Lola and I have always been really close. Im not sure why but her death / her getting sick / ageing has always been a huge huge fear for me. Im seeing a psychologist partly because of this later this year ( a waiting list ) and due to general anxiety. But losing my dog who is seven and showing signs of ageing really scares me. I was wondering if anyone else has this with anxiety ? I am an only child and my parents are divorced so the two of us have always been together a lot. both my dad and boyfriend find it hard to understand and I think I frustrate them with how often it worries me. Excuse the essay thanks for reading !

issy93 Is my relationship making me depressed, or is depression affecting my relationship?
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Hi everyone, Lately I've been having intense episodes of depression but they aren't long-lasting, they only last like 30 minutes and then I'm ok again. I get them once every few days, sometimes once a day. When they come, I can't stop crying really h... View more

Hi everyone, Lately I've been having intense episodes of depression but they aren't long-lasting, they only last like 30 minutes and then I'm ok again. I get them once every few days, sometimes once a day. When they come, I can't stop crying really hard, and feel my life is just doomed. Usually it's triggered when I'm around my boyfriend: when he does anything that remotely upsets me, or when I think of our past. He's a great boyfriend but in the past we've had several breakups, and because he has a cognitive disability from a car accident, he sometimes acts immature and doesn't think before saying things. It's really difficult. He doesn't EVER mean to upset me. I have major trust issues due to our past but thing is we both love each other and are trying to make it work and put our past behind us. I can't cope with these constant depression episodes though. I don't know if I'm depressed and throwing it onto the relationship or if my relationship is making me depressed. Also is this depression or is it in fact bipolar since the depression doesn't last long at each time? I'm absolutely fine when I'm not experiencing an episode. Thanks for any help.

Well_Then How To Talk To Mother
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Hey, Without going into copious detail about my self or my circumstances I will simply make some dot points. - Age: 17 - Father died when I was in year 4 (10yr). - Mother Suffers from Bipolar (medicated). - Was diagnosed with ADD (6 months ago) - Suf... View more

Hey, Without going into copious detail about my self or my circumstances I will simply make some dot points. - Age: 17 - Father died when I was in year 4 (10yr). - Mother Suffers from Bipolar (medicated). - Was diagnosed with ADD (6 months ago) - Suffer from severe on going back injury. In short I feel that I'm struggling with everyday life, spending hours simply starring at my homework, assessments and general school work when I get home until I go to sleep. I lack motivation... Don't sleep well or at all. All of this has lead to a noticeable decline in school achievements. How would I discuss this with my mother, have tried before and was told I was just lazy or faking. How could I have a serious discussion to my mother about how I fell when she really doesn't seem to want to listen. Kind Regards...