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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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coco1691 I don't know what to do.. It's been 5 days of crying... Nothing is helping
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I;m 24 at the present time and i live with my parents and partner.He said as soon as he gets a job we are moving out.I am so close to my mum, i haven't spent more than 5 days away from her and cant fathom the thought of not being in arms reach anymor... View more

I;m 24 at the present time and i live with my parents and partner.He said as soon as he gets a job we are moving out.I am so close to my mum, i haven't spent more than 5 days away from her and cant fathom the thought of not being in arms reach anymore.I don't want to move out and do not want to grow up.I've fallen into depression badly. It's hard to get up in the morning, all i think about is moving out and how i'm going to Cope. I don't see a way to help this purely because i don't want to move out.I don't think ill ever be ready to.I am scared of not having my mum in arms reach anymore. Ill be in the same town and she said i can visit everyday and she will stay one night with me per week and i can stay home one night per week too.But i still can't get over how much i don't want to leave.We have even put transition periods in place for when it does happen.I still can't accept it. I am afraid of such things as: - Not wanting to see my mum much after a while.- Not needing her anymore.- Not wanting to spend time with her or my nan anymore- Not putting in the effort to come around.- Losing her.- Losing our bond.- Losing our closeness. ( i crawled into bed with her the other night even because she was upset and it was fine).- Growing up and realizing im an adult.- Her not wanting to be as close to me anymore.- Not spending as much time together as we are now.- My place not feeling like home.- Not feeling safe there when i have a panic attack.- Just not being okay.- My family are my WHOLE LIFE. I don;t want them to not be. I feel like im leaving my nan and mum like im losing them. Im an absolute wreck shaking and crying all the time. Barely eating due to feeling sick and im underweight due to anorexia and gastritus. I can't get into my psychiatrist till the end of next month. My family are my entire life. Please tell me it gets easier and the things i'm concerned about are silly and wont happen. I'm begging for help cause im dragging my mum, nan and partner down by the way im acting. They tell me to worry about it when it happens but i just cant get it out of my head. I've also been spending a lot more time with my mum and nan now that i know im moving out in the next year. I Don't know if thats my OCD or not. I guess it is considering I was fine not too long ago and didn't worry about when mum came home and now i watch the clock like a hawk waiting for her. I feel like im losing everything and its all going to change. None of us will be as close. Please help

Lonely_girl1 Hello
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Hi I'm Tasha I've suffers major Deppression I'm only 13 I've had Deppression since I was 10 um I've left my previous high school and started at a new one and I really hate it there is this girl called mikeala the only person I know we were best frien... View more

Hi I'm Tasha I've suffers major Deppression I'm only 13 I've had Deppression since I was 10 um I've left my previous high school and started at a new one and I really hate it there is this girl called mikeala the only person I know we were best friends last year but she has changed a lot she is men to me and talks about gross stuff so I left but my mum wants me to go back on Monday but I'm to scared I have no social skills I get major anxiety when around lots of people and people I don't know I know what she will do she has always done it she gets all here friends and they all gang up on me and bully me and I just don't know anyone I only have 2 friends that go to my old high school andi can be myself around them but I can't really talk to anyone anymore I don't think my family and my mum get that I can't talk to anyone and I just can't make friends I just can't handle it anymore I really don't want to go back I've been feeling really low and worthless lately I just don't know what to do anymore hat should I do?

annakay How can I help my boyfriend manage his depression when he has asked me not to contact him?
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My boyfriend broke up with me today; he feels like he can't love me because of his depression, even though I know he cares about me very much. He said that I 'deserve someone better' and that he 'knows how to handle it on his own'. I tried to tell hi... View more

My boyfriend broke up with me today; he feels like he can't love me because of his depression, even though I know he cares about me very much. He said that I 'deserve someone better' and that he 'knows how to handle it on his own'. I tried to tell him that I was fine to be whatever he needed, that I know depression is difficult and that I was ready for that but he wouldn't have any of it. I told him that I would always be there to talk if he needed someone, and that he was worthy of love and that I was willing to help him work through it but he insisted that we shouldn't contact each other at all, not even just as friends. So my question is should I respect his decision and leave him to figure things out, or should I try and be more proactive somehow? I know that he is already seeing a professional and taking medication. I really want to help but he's trying really hard to push me away and I get scared that I'm violating his personal space and not respecting his decisions if I try and call him anything like that.

Lucille She Doesn't Deserve This
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Ok everyone, I need your help. My best friend is having some trouble at home. Her parents are fighting all the time. And when the argument stops the start yelling at her for no reason. She's a good girl, a brilliant girl. She's healthy, incredibly in... View more

Ok everyone, I need your help. My best friend is having some trouble at home. Her parents are fighting all the time. And when the argument stops the start yelling at her for no reason. She's a good girl, a brilliant girl. She's healthy, incredibly intelligent, so kind and caring towards everyone (she even deals with me and all my problems), and she doesn't deserve any of this. She tries to hide it but I know she's in pain. A possible divorce is not something anyone deserves to live through, especially her. I know because I've been through it, I know how hard it is for the children of a divorce. I don't want her going through that alone. Everyone, I need your help to support her because she's not the type to ask so I am. Please help me help my best friend.

Jimmy19 Stressed about University
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Okay, so I am 2 and a half weeks away from finishing my first year at University however I am hating what I do. I am studying Industrial Design and have been flat out doing my 3 subjects, however 2 of those subjects take up a lot of my time and I hav... View more

Okay, so I am 2 and a half weeks away from finishing my first year at University however I am hating what I do. I am studying Industrial Design and have been flat out doing my 3 subjects, however 2 of those subjects take up a lot of my time and I have let the last one slip to the point where I doubt it is possible for me to pass any more. Obviously I feel extremely disappointed in myself, but at the same time I no longer want to follow that career. I have got a job interview this week for a casual supermarket position so I got that going for me right now (the unemployment in my area is ridiculous). The problem is that I have no idea what I want to do any more. I feel like a disappointment to my family and feel like I'm getting left behind by my peers.

Oct New; apologies in advance for the long post.
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Hello! I am new and I don't know what is wrong with me. Recently, I've been frequently having crying spells for no particular reason, and because there is no reason i can pinpoint that is causing my sadness I am feeling extremely silly. I start cryin... View more

Hello! I am new and I don't know what is wrong with me. Recently, I've been frequently having crying spells for no particular reason, and because there is no reason i can pinpoint that is causing my sadness I am feeling extremely silly. I start crying when i'm alone in my room, or at night when everyone is asleep, and I've been keeping myself awake because of it. I end up falling asleep in the morning from exhausting myself. Between the crying spells, I have these periods where i'm just perfectly calm and not particularly unhappy. Like right now as I am typing this (but i can feel it starting up again) Last night, when i finally stopped crying and went to bed, I felt content and happy. "I must've finally cried it all out" I thought, and I was extremely relieved but then it started all over again a few hours after I woke up. Literally just on-off-on-off crying. When it gets really bad, I start hyperventilating as well, but that has only happened once so far. I am here because I feel like it has gotten worse. Usually when I am feeling down, I look towards drawing to distract myself and it usually works. Today however, i've started multiple drawings, ended up scribbling all of them out and putting my head on my desk in tears. Most of the day, as well, I'm just laying my head on the table and doing nothing at all. I'm scared to ask my friends and family for help because, honestly, I dont even know if this is bad enough for me to require help or if it's something that I should be able to get over on my own. So if i did ask them, I'd feel like i'm just crying for attention or something. I also do not want to burden them with worry. I plan to just look around for information for the time being, to see if this is just a small hiccup or if it is actually something that may advance somewhere dark- and also find some threads that may have described similar experiences. Sorry for the long post, ty for reading and nice to meet you.

_steph_ New Here: Meant to be the best years of my life
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Hi everyone - i just discovered this forum and everyone seems to open minded and helpful so i thought i might try my luck for some advice. I'm 19, just finished my second year at uni and suspect I've been depressed for about 4 years now. For the past... View more

Hi everyone - i just discovered this forum and everyone seems to open minded and helpful so i thought i might try my luck for some advice. I'm 19, just finished my second year at uni and suspect I've been depressed for about 4 years now. For the past 5 years I've always had someone terminally ill in the family, all 3 of them had cancer, and all three died, the last of them early this year. Even though i wasn't directly involved in their care, the atmosphere at home and seeing their deterioration really took its toll on me. My parents would get angry at me for not asking how they were, but i was scared to because i didn't want to hear they were getting worse and i didn't want to act nosey. At school I never felt like I really had much in common with my friends, even though i got along with them - people would always comment how i was so mature but tbh i just felt detached. When school finished I gravitated towards my childhood friends who i kept contact with through church and who i knew were my best bet for long term friends. I live about an hour away from them all and they're all so close, so the past 2 years since i finished school I've been torn between desperately wanting to get really close to them, but seeing that they couldn't put in the effort to see someone who lives so far away. I can't make friends outside my church/culture group anymore because I feel like it's the only thing thats held me up through everything and no one else understand my values. After doing my first year of uni i realised i hated my degree and wanted to start something new, but now that I'm a year into my new course i'm under so much pressure to achieve and do well and even though I'm more content with my direction i still struggle to find the motivation to do much more than wake up in the morning. My parents are doctors and i'm scared to open up to them because i don't want them to ignore how i feel and say i'm dramatic, or start treating my like a patient, but i think I'm at the point that i need help and don't know where to go. I live at home, can't drive and don't even have my own medicare. Sorry for the long post, hopefully someone can give me some pointers - just under pressure that these are meant to be the best years of my life and all I can think about is how I don't mean much to anyone. Am I depressed or being melodramatic??

Lauren1992 Feeling scared
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I am a 23 year female suffering from anxiety,I have had anxiety for almost 1 year now and it has been a battle i have faced with every day. My anxiety has gotten worse since i separated with my partner after a 7.5 year relationship which was 6 months... View more

I am a 23 year female suffering from anxiety,I have had anxiety for almost 1 year now and it has been a battle i have faced with every day. My anxiety has gotten worse since i separated with my partner after a 7.5 year relationship which was 6 months ago.I managed to control my anxiety this whole year until my relationship ended. I always considered myself to be so head strong and never thought i would have to deal with something like this.I have panic attacks often which are very scary and my anxiety is getting worse. I have been seeing a psychologist for 6 months and occasionally do yoga, go for long walks and try to relax as much as possible.I am scared that this will never go away. I recently visited the doctor and now i am taking medication to help with my anxiety and have only just started taking this. I decided to start taking this as my anxiety was affecting my job at work. The medication has been quite overwhelming and recently it made me feel as though i was making myself think i was going crazy and had bad thoughts.Is this medication just a bandaid or will it actually help me long term? I am doing everything i can to get back on track but i don't understand what will happen once i eventually stop taking the medication.I feel as though i am alone because none of my friends have experienced the anxiety i have, nor have they had an attack.I remind myself everyday that this storm will pass but would like to hear from people who have gotten through. Thank you

Bray I don't know.
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Hey guys, Just wondering if anyone here has felt all alone even though you have a good amount of people always with you? No matter how many people I'm always with, I feel worthless and alone. I'm really good at hiding emotions and tend to keep it all... View more

Hey guys, Just wondering if anyone here has felt all alone even though you have a good amount of people always with you? No matter how many people I'm always with, I feel worthless and alone. I'm really good at hiding emotions and tend to keep it all inside. I find it hard to talk about it because no one really understands. I'm pretty much on here not knowing what to expect, but to find someone who knows how I feel or to relate because I'm at a point of my life where I just don't know what to do anymore. I just don't seem happy anymore and I constantly feel alone. At work, I'm known for a big smile and positive attitude, but deep down I'm slowly just giving up. I just don't know to be honest.. I'm starting to get to a point where I distance myself from people as well, maybe I'm afraid to get hurt, I don't know. If someone can relate to anything I have mentioned, please give me some advice on where to go, because I'm completely lost.

balletgirl101 I don't know how I should be feeling
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My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago and he has already moved on with my best friend. They have been dating for two weeks now and I only found out a couple of days ago and they never were going to tell me, it was only because I personally me... View more

My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago and he has already moved on with my best friend. They have been dating for two weeks now and I only found out a couple of days ago and they never were going to tell me, it was only because I personally messaged her because I had suspicions something was going on. I have had a long history of my ex's dating my best friend straight afterwards and both of them knew that. I want her to be happy but than again why does it have to be with the person that I still love and am trying to move on. I received a message off him saying that the had been talking for more than a month non-stop and she helped him move on and I just have to deal with it. I really do not know how I should be feeling. I see them together all the time at school and it makes things so much worse. I guess it is really hard because not only did I lose my boyfriend but also a really close friend. I really don't know how i should feel about the situation...