Loneliness

[Liam3148]

Hey my name is Liam, I’ve been lonely for quite a while even though I still live with my parents. I basically lost all my mates since I left my old school which was at least 5 years and have never been able to reconnect with any of em or made any friends since. I’m afraid if I never make any friends soon I’m going to lose all hope and be alone for my entire life. I’ve had some suicidal thoughts but can never go through with it cause I don’t want to hurt my family, I just don’t know what to do anymore..

[Sophie_M]

Hi Liam3148,

Welcome to the forums and thank you for sharing your story with us here.

We are sorry to hear that you've been feeling so lonely. Loneliness can be such a hard feeling to have to sit with, especially without any extra support. Do you have anyone in your life that you would feel comfortable talking to about this? Whether it be someone close to you or even someone like a GP? Please know that you never have to go through this alone, and support is always here for you.

If you would like to talk to someone, the Beyond Blue Support Service is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals.

We also strongly urge that in overwhelming moments you get in touch with our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).

We hope that you will find some comfort here on the forums. Please feel free to keep reaching out here on your thread whenever you feel up to it.

[james1]

Hey Liam,

I'm really sorry to hear you are feeling really lonely and you've lost so many of your friends. It's a really hard thing to deal with, and it can really lead you down a tough mental battle to just find motivation each day. I understand you are having suicidal thoughts and I just wanted to reassure you that you're not alone in this - I also had suicidal thoughts a number of years back and it made every day really tough to find some reason to function.

So I'm really glad that you've come and posted here because I think this is a really good and safe space where hopefully you might be able to form some kind of connection with the stories that are told. ne of the great things about our forums and one of the best sources of comfort I got was simply by reading other people's stories and posting on their threads. It's not the same as an in person connection, but I found it really helpful just to virtually speak to other people and see what kind of similar and shared experiences we've had.

In my own experience, feeling connected to people online helped me venture out and form new friendships or even just do new activities and see the same people there. Loneliness is a bit of a vicious cycle and doing even small things to reverse the trend can be super helpful in the long run. Best of all, you can feel better about it when those small interactions with people are really positive.

Have you got many chances to talk to or meet new people in your daily life?

James

[HappyHelper88]

Hi Liam thanks for posting

I’m so sorry your lonely, since I left school most of them dropped off except for the main one

just one person stuck around I feel lucky tho as it’s quality not quantity you Really only need one good friend to be there for u or even one close family member is great

i understand how ur feeling but don’t lose hope u will make friends through life at work and through other things

im glad to hear that they are just thoughts and nothing more please reach out to support if you need

there are several ways to try and meet people outside of work so you could try sports and other activities tho it is difficult through Covid but online is a good start, we have Facebook forums which is also a good way to meet people with common interests

I hope this helps

[geoff]

Hello Liam, it's not unusual that friends at school go their separate ways when school finishes, although the promise to keep in touch before it ends usually happens except they tend to go away and distracted making new friends who are now close to them, so relationships develop.

Is it possible that you can move out of your parent's house, this may enable you to meet other people rather than being in your parent's house and don't have to necessarily leave the house.

Living there precludes you from needing to go out and meet new people but if you can live somewhere else this can change, it's just a suggestion to think about.

Geoff.