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Hi,
I am an emotional person, but one thing that is stopping me is me being unable to cry it out. As I have depression and anxiety, I have the feelings to cry, but I cannot produce the tears. Is there something wrong with me? If so, what is it and what can be done?
I have been clean for the past 12 months, which is a huge achievement for me. But the urge to cry is still there, but won't come out.
Hope someone can help 😕
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Ed, welcome to the forums and you have asked a really interesting question and unfortunately i do not have the answer.
Have you discussed this with a GP?
Out of interest, when you say, "You have been clean for 12 months", clean from what? (Do not have to answer if you do not want to).
Are diagnosed with depression and anxiety? If so, how are you being treated?
I have never heard of this before, that is not to say it doesn't happen often enough though so i am interested in your story.
Cheers
Mark.
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Hello Ed and welcome. I can relate to your situation. I do cry quite lot and sometimes this is annoying. There have been times when I want to cry, perhaps produce a tear or two but then nothing. It does feel a bit odd. May I ask, have you always felt like this, unable to cry/produce tears, or is this a recent problem?
From my experience I have realised they are other processes impacting on my my grief or hurt. Sometimes I am so angry that apart from the angry tears (which is not really crying) I cannot cry. I think sometimes the hurt that upsets me is too deep, too hard, too buried that I cannot really reach or feel it's entirety. Tears are a great relief for our feelings and although this can be exhausting, crying helps to let go of the whatever is happening.
Do you see a professional mental health person? If not may I suggest you have a chat with your doctor and ask about getting some help for your depression. Would love to hear from you again.
Mary
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Hi Mark,
Thank you for your reply.
I haven't seen my GP in a few months, but I am to see the GP in the next week or so.
And the answer to your question, clean as in self harm, but I don't do it now 🙂
I am diagnosed with depression, and diagnosed with severe anxiety as well. I take medication for my depression but for anxiety I don't take anything.
I do see a psychologist, but for this one it takes a while to finally get an appointment as this one is extremely busy and is self employed.
Thanks again,
Ed
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Hi Mary,
Thank you for your response.
The answer to your first question: yes I find it hard to cry and produce tears. It has been going on since about July 2016, which is not that long.
I do see a psychologist, but not enough (well for me anyway); for this psychologist it takes a long time to see this one as (this one) is self-employed, and has a fair bit of patients.
I take antidepressants to help my depression, recently I have had by prescription dose raised, but it only keeps me feel 'meh', not 'yeah' and happy chappy aha
Thanks again,
Ed
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Ed, that is so good that you are free from self harming, well done.
It will be interesting to see what the GP says about what is going on. Pity the psych is hard to get into - that must be really annoying.
Is it possible that you need a meds change for the depression?
With anxiety, I find mindfulness to be really handy. Have you ever given that a try?
Cheers
Mark.
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Hello Ed
Free from self harm, that is tremendous. A good sign on your journey.
How much help do you think you are receiving from your psych? I wonder if you should think about going elsewhere and getting more regular help. It would be a good thing to discuss with your GP. Also any ideas he/she has about your lack of tears.
I take it your GP is looking after your medication. Even increasing the dose of meds needs time to properly kick in, but if it is not working as well as you want, then have a chat to your GP about this as well.
I love your description of how you feel. it only keeps me feel 'meh', not 'yeah' and happy chappy aha. Very expressive.
Mary
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