I'm new here: Depressed, anxious and lonely

[Rachh1492]

Hi, I'm New here and I just wanted to introduce myself.

My depression and anxiety started about 2/3 years ago, but it's taken a turn for the worst this year. A lot of things have happened with friends and family, and I've just got really depressed and I can't seem to get myself out of the rut. Any suggestions on fighting depression? I've also become very anxious in social situations and in class I'm I'm finding it very hard to participate in class discussions.

Please help,

thanks 🙂

[james1]

Hi Rach,

Welcome to the forums - we're all here to help you through this really difficult period with depression and anxiety.

It sounds like you have a lot on your plate and you're feeling a bit overwhelmed. Have you tried talking to your GP or someone else you trust? I started seeing a psychologist just recently and it is really amazing how much help a professionally trained person can be.

I'd also recommend giving the BeyondBlue helpline a call (1300 22 4636) who are available 24/7 and you can call them even if it's not an emergency, and you just need a friendly voice to listen to you.

Otherwise, I'm really glad that you've posted here as well. That shows a lot of courage to open up to complete strangers. Can I ask, if you're comfortable, what has triggered this bout of depression and anxiety?

Sending you hugs in this difficult time!

James

[Wednesday]

Hi Rach,

Welcome to the forum.

Don't you just hate that feeling of being in a rut, it's horrid. You mentioned being in class what are you doing? James has given you some good information and phone numbers. He asked if your seeing anyone. If not a visit to your GP is a great first step. If you are seeing someone can you get an appointment soon to work through what's happening for you?

Please reach out, neither anxiety and/or depression are fun and you could do with some support. Do you have anyone close by you can talk to? It's hard but not impossible this moment will change and it will get better. Make sure you are looking after yourself and doing things that you enjoy.

If your up to it let us know how you are going.

Best wishes

[Rachh1492]

I'm not really sure what has triggered it, 2/3 years ago I was going through bullying and I did try and harm myself but I thought I was getting better but it's just got worse this year. I'm pushing the people that love me away and it hurts a lot 😞

[Rachh1492]

Yes I hate the feeling of being stuck in a rut. I'm in high school, still, unfortunately. I'm not seeing anyone at the moment. I'm talking to my friends and support network but as I said to James, I'm pushing them away because I don't want to bother them

i'll let you know how I'm going.

thanks 😭

[Wednesday]

HI Rach,

I get that when you feel low it's easy to become more insular, but try to reach out. Maybe you don't want to feel like a burden to your friends and people can get frustrated with us whew are not in a great space. It is hard to pull your socks cup when you feel like this, is there a school counsellor you can talk to?

Come back and vent anytime.Good luck. x

[Rachh1492]

I isolate myself terribly, and it just hurts me, and people around me. There is a school counsellor and I have talked to him a few times, I just don't feel comfortable 😕

Rach X

[Wednesday]

Hi Rach,

You have some really good insight into yourself, that is gold, good work!

Shame about the school counsellor. I'm sorry that you were bullied that must have been a dreadful experience. I can remember the same thing happening to me when I was at school, it hurts a lot. Stupid, pathetic, uneducated, people who do they think they are!

Who else is there around that you could reach out too. Are mum and dad around to talk to? What about the GP can you go there alone?

You asked what helps with depression, have a look around the site there's lots of information on here. And I know this is going to sound twee but it does help to exercise, not maniacally though. If you can get, a twenty minute walk most days would help. Some social contact is important too. Why do you think you are pushing people away at the moment?

What if you try to do just one thing each day that makes you feel good, walk the dog or cat, call a friend and tell them you would like to catch up, read a funny story, meditate, whatever makes you feel good?

Do you want too share some more about what has been happening for you recently? No pressure.

Here's a hug. You will feel better this is just a moment in time. xx

[james1]

Hey Rach,

I don't want to add much more to Wednesday's great suggestions - just wanted to say that I've been reading your posts, and I wanted to send you hugs to help you through this.

Every hill, no matter how steep, has a peak and you will see the other side!

James

[Rachh1492]

My sister and law knows what's going on, and I can't go to the GP alone till I'm 16. I've tried excercise, and that does help. I couldn't tell you why, but I think it's something to do with feeling like a burden to my friends and family. I try and do something positive everyday, but the negatives always over run them. There's nothing much else too it. I'm struggling with friendships at school, my grades, boys, peer pressure and just the normal teenage issues.

Thank you for your support xxx