Hey Donnie123,
Thanks for replying to my post! It makes me feel better knowing that I’m not alone. I’m 19 btw.
I completely understand how you feel when it comes to loneliness and while I probably don’t have the best advice, I’d like to try and help you.I honestly think that people who constantly put you down and don’t invite you to places in front of your face, do not deserve your time or energy. The sooner you get rid of those toxic people, the better. I know it can be hard to let go of people especially when you’ve been friends for such a long time but in the long run, you will feel much better.
Making new friends is something I’m also struggling with but like you said, just try to be yourself and don’t change for anyone - if people don’t accept your true self, then that’s their loss. I think there’s heaps of friendly people on these online forums so you have come to the right place. I know you said that you play footy so maybe you could have a look at joining an Oztag team and playing for fun? It’s a good way to make friends and meet new people. Or you could look at joining Facebook groups for specific interests/ hobbies - from there you can go to events and meet people who share similar interests to you.
In response to people calling you derogatory names, you should try not to worry about them because you know deep down that the things they are saying are not true. Ignoring them can be hard but it’s the best way to stop them because they have no power over you. Also, when I was younger I had ask.fm which is similar to the insta thing. Getting rid of it was the best thing I done because no one could write horrible things to me anymore. People are nasty so the best thing you can do is take away their power by not posting those ‘ask me something’ things.
If things are getting to you, it’s probably a good idea to seek help from a medical professional. There’s heaps of support available. Please don’t forget - you are not alone.
Hope this helps,
JaneVV
