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Walking Over Me

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Hey, I just made an account and decided to try and take some steps in reaching out. I want to talk and share somethings. My first steps. I have so many things that I don't know where to start. I am very withdrawn and yet at the same time people see m... View more

Hey, I just made an account and decided to try and take some steps in reaching out. I want to talk and share somethings. My first steps. I have so many things that I don't know where to start. I am very withdrawn and yet at the same time people see me as if I am a normal chatty person. I hold conversations with my friends, talking about weird, wacky, small talk things and yet I analyse everything I say to them as if I don't want to make any mistakes. When I come home I just stop talking. I keep it to the bare minimum so my parents don't ask to many questions. I don't like having deep conversations for I feel as though all I have to say will just hurt other people. I let them walk over me even though it hurts me for I am scared to hurt them. I cry in secret for the pain I cause myself yet I appear stony face to everyone. I must not show emotion. Only recently have I noticed how bad that sounds. I just saw it as protecting friendships and others. I didn't see what it was doing to me. I don't know how or when but I have started to hate when people touch my skin with theirs. I avoid my sister hugging me even though she loves hugs and is a very touchy person. I have just become more withdrawn and since no one knows I don't like people touching sometimes at school I have a few very social friends who come up and hug me. I feel awkward and the need to get away. I see now also that I have began to loose interest in things I used to enjoy. I find small tasks hard, and a general feeling of disappointment sitting on my shoulders. Shame mixed in for I feel I have a good life and yet I feel this way. Almost as if I shouldn't. I just have kinda given up. I sometimes don't want to wake up. I don't want to talk to people around me about my problems for I am scared what it will do to them. The though of telling them is so far away in my thought process. I am just thinking, hide it, hide it, hide it. This I feel is my first step to trying to talk to people. I just felt it was good to off load all this stuff and know I don't have to deal with consequences for others. -Patchfruit-

Becoming constantly anxious and paronoid, and could do with some help and support

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hey everyone hope ur having a great day i could do with a bit of support/help at the moment I am 17 years old currently in year 12. Until around half way through last year I have always been a social butterfly and Made people laugh and smile and woul... View more

hey everyone hope ur having a great day i could do with a bit of support/help at the moment I am 17 years old currently in year 12. Until around half way through last year I have always been a social butterfly and Made people laugh and smile and would go out a lot to parties and with my friends to places. I have been slightly depressed for a fair part of my life but it never really effected my social life. however in the last year I have started getting more and more anxious and now when ever I go to school, work, and the rare times I actually go out without bailing last minute I get anxious about talking to people and paranoid of what they think of me. I loved going to parties and going out with my mates but now I’ve turned introverted and left my self alone with my thoughts and I’ve noticed my mental health is getting worse and worse. I struggle to hold conversations, and don’t talk in groups, and cant introduce myself to new people(I used to love meeting and taking to new people). im starting to feel like all of my friends hate me and I don’t really talk to them anymore causing me to push my self further into isolation I used to be able to embarrass my self and be the Center of attention without a worry. But now All day I’m replaying social situations in my head making me anxious and extreamly paranoid,Making me even nervous to simply walk down a street and it’s getting worse this is having a huge effect on my every day life And I just want to be able to feel confident and be able to socialise like I used to, and enjoy life without being anxiety riddled constantly putting my self down snd Having extremely anxious and paronoid thoughts all the time. If anyone could offer me some support, or some ways to improve this aspect of my mental health it would really help me out at the moment. thanks heaps

Should I be concerned?

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Hi, Names Jack, as you can tell from my forum name I'm a musician from brisbane. I'm 17 years old and I am currently studying at a music orientated high school. Basically to sum it up, in the past I had these really bad thoughts of demotivation, low ... View more

Hi, Names Jack, as you can tell from my forum name I'm a musician from brisbane. I'm 17 years old and I am currently studying at a music orientated high school. Basically to sum it up, in the past I had these really bad thoughts of demotivation, low self-esteem, anxiety and extreme stress and now these thoughts and feelings has raised once again. And I'm going to be honest, I'm a very fortunate kid with this school and the opportunities I have had in the music industry. However I don't understand why these thoughts and feelings have came back. Almost every time I come back home from school I break down in tears or even on the train I just break down in tears. In a sense I know the reason but that reason hasn't even happend. For example, I analyse everything way to much. I always judge by body language, facial expression and actions, so if I get a slight "hint" that this person doesn't like me, my head for some reason explodes that small hint into a huge problem and that's when I begin to feel real down. Today I was at school and my girlfriend didn't really talk to me as much as she usually would, I'm not sure why but the thought "I'm going to lose her" came into my head and that was all I was stressing about all day. However when I'v calmed down (usually late at night) I know for sure that I was worrying over nothing. Another example would be related to my music. There are days where I am extremely motivated to get stuff done like that EP cover I was finishing or various other works then there are days where I feel extremely unmotivated. Unmotivated to the point where I feel useless and I question to myself why do I even try? It's been months since I'v experienced these issues and now they have come back again. What does this all mean? Should I seek counselling or should I just brush it off and hope for the best? Cheers, Jack

I’m gaining weight

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I’ve always been the type where my weight has remained pretty consistent however in the last 6 months I’ve gained almost 10 kilos which is a lot for me. I know why I’ve gained the weight a poor diet and some medicine that I take. It’s not the worse a... View more

I’ve always been the type where my weight has remained pretty consistent however in the last 6 months I’ve gained almost 10 kilos which is a lot for me. I know why I’ve gained the weight a poor diet and some medicine that I take. It’s not the worse as I’m still maintaining a healthy weight and exercising but it doesn’t help my body image. If anyone has some tips that’d be great.

Uni Exam Anxiety

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Hi everyone To put it simply, my anxiety about uni exams is out of control. When I'm not worrying about failing my next exam, I'm worrying about how I probably failed the last one I did. Especially since I've done very badly on exams this semester, t... View more

Hi everyone To put it simply, my anxiety about uni exams is out of control. When I'm not worrying about failing my next exam, I'm worrying about how I probably failed the last one I did. Especially since I've done very badly on exams this semester, the wait to get my results after walking out of the exam room is becoming absolutely unbearable. I can't sleep the night before an exam (or any night really), even if I'm tired, and I've tried meditation and avoiding caffeine and all that and I don't know what else I can do. Part of it is that I'm literally terrified of going to bed at this point, because I know that lying in bed with time to think just turns me into an anxious mess, no matter how much I try to think about other things. I know logically that stressing about exams that have already happened have literally 0 possibility of changing the outcome, but I can't help it. I've also had to leave all of my exams to go at some point and sit in the bathroom just so I could have some time out to breathe because I literally feel like the ground is swallowing me up in there. I've had a pretty bad semester overall - tough subjects combined with bad mental health and an overall lack of motivation have made the last 3 months really difficult, and while I know I want to keep going next semester, the thought of going through this 5 more times before the end of my degree has me wondering if I can do this. I study really hard, but whatever I do I just can't seem to get half decent results - it's really hard seeing people who literally spend the study period doing nothing or even on holiday have an easier time than me with exams. I tried talking to a university counsellor, but honestly they could not have been less useful and seemed more keen to talk about what my life plans entailed which only made me more anxious. Please help me! Sarah x

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I'm recently joined here for some advice for my currently life situation. I am quite depressed and this has happened for as long as I could remember since I was around 14. I grew up having a few friends back in high school. Really good friends but sl... View more

I'm recently joined here for some advice for my currently life situation. I am quite depressed and this has happened for as long as I could remember since I was around 14. I grew up having a few friends back in high school. Really good friends but slowly drifted away from them. By 17 I lost them all in a blink in an eye, because of parent's strict nature. Study to become doctor or something. No time for fun. At this point, I felt 'alone', even though I had my family. By 18 I went to university to study something like any other sheep. In this case, I studied some engineering courses completing 3 years of it so far. Always stay indoors, never went to parties or celebrated my birthday. I did try applying for jobs for the first two years but never got passed interviews, probably because I had a depressive aura. So by then, I didn't even have a part time / casual job due to 'no time' to work because of engineering workload. I couldn't even make friends either (I felt like people just used each other for assessment) Now I'm 22 in my finals trying to get my degree but with recent family violence revolving around my parents (police got involved) at home I felt even more stressed out. I began to fail a lot of classes to the point I might not be able to graduate anymore. I feel defeated. Basically I'm a 22 year old still controlled by parents who wasted 4 years (or gained plenty of knowledge) + 100 K student debt + no life direction + no friends (isolation) + no job (not experience at all). Super depressive and I don't feel that genuine 'fun/happy' or positive feeling anywhere. Pretty much have the 'poker face'. Death of recent pets didn't affect me emotionally either even though I know I love them. Now, I reached a point where I am going to give up on everything or even restart life. I'm thinking of downgrading my career to do trades because I don't want mental stress anymore. Besides my sad life story, here's some positive things about me. - I like to cook for fun - I like to grow veggies - I like dogs, rabbits, cat, snake, birds and fish - I did a lot of volunteering for 2 years for fun but pointless for resume. My current routine 8 hrs sleep (currently down to 4-5hrs for the last month) 45 min morning jog Eating healthy food (food consumption irregular now since last month) 30 min meditation Watch Videos/ Cook when bored Any tips? Any advice about career pathway? What should I do now? I feel completely cornered on how to continue on with life.

Hello, Hello, I'm a weirdo.

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Hey, just a kid here looking for advice. Honestly, I don't know where to start, but I'll try my best. I'm detached from things. Friends, family, people in general. I'm confused because sometimes I'm having the time of my life with my friends and fami... View more

Hey, just a kid here looking for advice. Honestly, I don't know where to start, but I'll try my best. I'm detached from things. Friends, family, people in general. I'm confused because sometimes I'm having the time of my life with my friends and family, but other times, I feel like the most loneliest person in the world. I get the feeling that no one knows who I am, and I'm not even sure if I know who I am. Sometimes, I think I'm just this physical embodiment of other people thoughts, feelings and expectations of me. I feel like a fake. I lack motivation to do pretty much anything, and I fail to speak out when something bothers me. I usually try to play things off with humor and whatnot, but I never let people know how much something affects me. An insult? I'd laugh it off, then proceed to think about it for the rest of the day. A push, a shove, anything including physical contact bothers me, though I'd never speak out. Guess I'm a bit paranoid. What I mean is, I think the worst of people a lot of the times. I feel like this is a complete 180, but my minds been to some dark places, which scares me. Wanting to hurt others, being paranoid about people hurting me, being paranoid that I affected others negatively. I feel like a mess. But anyway, I'm glad to be able to get some stuff off my chest. Vent a little. To be honest, I think this is the first time I've taken my mental health seriously. Probably the first time I've taken anything seriously. Guess I'm kinda proud of myself.

Studying Tips Plz

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Hey Guys, I am in year 11 and going to year 12 and I study around 2-3 hours a day. However, my marks were not very good for how much effort I put inot my study (all i feel i do is study, I feel like a can never enjoy myself without stressing over stu... View more

Hey Guys, I am in year 11 and going to year 12 and I study around 2-3 hours a day. However, my marks were not very good for how much effort I put inot my study (all i feel i do is study, I feel like a can never enjoy myself without stressing over studying and school work). Please i need some tips and strategies on how to effectively study and not stress out so much. Thank you

Too Distracted by Emotions to Finish Assignments

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I'm trying to complete a task that is due tomorrow but I keep feeling sad and stressed. My classes contain a few "intellectuals" that make fun of me for getting a low marks and the class in question is one that I'm already failing (I'm in year 12) . ... View more

I'm trying to complete a task that is due tomorrow but I keep feeling sad and stressed. My classes contain a few "intellectuals" that make fun of me for getting a low marks and the class in question is one that I'm already failing (I'm in year 12) . Nobody supports me, not even my single mum, but that's because she has mental health issues to worry about. I keep thinking about how she needs to lose weight but she's been like this for years and clearly isn't determined enough to go through with it. I can't speak to anyone like the counsellor because she's never there when I want to talk to her. Everyone acts like me and my mum don't matter and she is constantly reminded of bad memories no matter where she turns to. The teacher is like a new stepdad that you want to impress and I don't know if I can face his look of disappointment again. Lastly, I'm a boy, so I don't ever recieve compliments or words of praise from anyone, which really takes a toll on me. Anyway, I know I'm stressing over my ATAR too much but I have zero connections and I'm also financially weak right now.

exams suck. so does school

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here comes the worst week of the year. Exam week. This year has been the worst. I think i’m going to fail not because i don’t listen in class not because i don’t do my homework. Just because i’m always so stressed. I need to study but i am either alw... View more

here comes the worst week of the year. Exam week. This year has been the worst. I think i’m going to fail not because i don’t listen in class not because i don’t do my homework. Just because i’m always so stressed. I need to study but i am either always too tired and depressed to even sit down and think about doing work. What we spend like nearly 7 hours at school just to get home and do more school. Surely that’s illegal oh wait nope that’s how it works. i do sport everyday so i never have time after or i am just way to worn out to even think about studying. everyone’s always like school is first priority but without my other activities i would feel even worse. i get home after a long day and just want to go to bed so i can’t get my homework done. and the next day i can’t concentrate because i am either stressed about not getting work done the night before or to tired because i stayed up all night getting it done. and when i’m tired my anxiety levels go up so much and coping at school gets really hard Also you only get one chance at school if you mess that up then your practically stuffed for your entire life and that’s a lot of pressure that everyone carries around i feel i’m the only one who even thinks about that. And when i get home from a stressful day at school, home if even worse. My dads first priority is to eat, mum probably has had a bad day at work and is feeling sick cause of her health problems. and my brother has a test that he has to do. like hello i’m here too just because i don’t have learning issues like him doesn’t mean i don’t struggle with school. i mean i would say i am smarter then the average bear but i always feel like i have to carry that on my back all the time and live up to that expectation. if i fail it’s like well did u study hard enough instead of my brother he gets the don’t worry about it just aim for the next one. Thanks for the vent feel free to reply back with all the stuff that goes on in your life.

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I’m gaining weight

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Hello, Hello, I'm a weirdo.

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Walking Over Me

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Becoming constantly anxious and paronoid, and could do with some help and support

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Should I be concerned?

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I’m gaining weight

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Uni Exam Anxiety

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hi everyone

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Hello, Hello, I'm a weirdo.

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Studying Tips Plz

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Too Distracted by Emotions to Finish Assignments

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exams suck. so does school

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