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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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JaneVV Hey, I'm a lonely stress head named Jane!
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Hi everyone, Joining this online forum is something that I never thought I would ever do, but after reading some of the threads, I am glad that I have. My main reason for joining is that I have become incredibly lonely over the last two years. I am a... View more

Hi everyone, Joining this online forum is something that I never thought I would ever do, but after reading some of the threads, I am glad that I have. My main reason for joining is that I have become incredibly lonely over the last two years. I am an introvert and only had a few close friends when I left school. While everyone I know warned me that school friendships don't usually last, I didn't want to hear it. Now two years later, I fear that I have no one because one friend is never available and the other friend does not have very good conversational skills so trying to talk or hang out with her is very draining and pointless. I've tried making new friends at uni but its not very easy because most people just go to their classes and leave so there's barely any chance to get to know anyone. It makes me feel even worse when I see groups of girls from high school posting their regular catch ups and adventures together because I envy the strong friendships that they all have. I also suffer from extreme stress and often feel very anxious due to uni and work (I don't know if I have anxiety but I have felts some symptoms). I have come to realise that I am my own worst enemy because a lot of the time, I allow my worrying and overthinking to make myself physically sick. So, in summary, I have come here to talk about my problems with others because I don't want to constantly burden my family with them. I also want to learn different strategies to work on overcoming my issues. And finally, I want to be able to help others and give back to those who help me. Thanks for reading! JaneVV

Athena__ My Anxiety is Killing My Motivation
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I think that I have struggled with an incredibly mild form of anxiety for a large portion of my life, generally stemming from a fear of social interactions and persistent feelings of inadequacy. Thus far, my anxious tendencies have been quite managea... View more

I think that I have struggled with an incredibly mild form of anxiety for a large portion of my life, generally stemming from a fear of social interactions and persistent feelings of inadequacy. Thus far, my anxious tendencies have been quite manageable however as of the start of this year things are beginning to spiral beyond a point that I feel I can control. I have always been an academically inclined individual however I am a serial procrastinator, something that stems from my extreme perfectionism. I can't explain it clearly, but I believe my subconscious thought process is that 'if I don't try, then I can't fail'. I understand logically that this is flawed, but so far in my life I've never needed to control it. Through my fear of disappointing people, namely my family and teachers, I have always been able to scrape by, putting 100% effort in the night or even morning before and still achieving quite high grades. The problem is that as of this year not only am I a year 11 VCE student, I am currently studying a year 12 subject as well and this procrastination is no longer manageable. I am beginning to become apathetic to failure, pushing away school work to mindlessly scroll through my phone or watch something. I am not sure if this apathy stems from my knowledge that I can still achieve highly (which is incorrect, my grades are dropping in a number of classes), or if I've just become numb to failure. I have absolutely no motivation whatsoever and sometimes I lie down on my phone and I'm screaming at myself to get up and do something but my body feels trapped and my skin begins to feel all itchy. I want to be able to get my work done, and put effort in but school work makes me so anxious. I don't know how to become motivated. I'm seeing a psychologist at the moment (not for the first time, I've seen two other psychologists prior to her for other issues) and she's attempted CBT and Schema Therapy with me and although we've only had a couple sessions, I feel like everything is futile, that nothing is wrong with me and that I am simply lazy. I haven't responded well to any therapy (with her or the others) and I don't know if it's from a lack of effort or what. I just feel incredibly stuck. This is my first time posting and I don't really know what I wish to get from this but I feel like I need to get this all out and I find it easier to write than to speak. I hope I have articulated myself clearly enough and thank you for taking the time to read this.

Cathy1996 Been Bullied at work
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I'm been bullied at work and don't know what to do ive told my manager but it has really made my anziety go through the roof.

I'm been bullied at work and don't know what to do ive told my manager but it has really made my anziety go through the roof.

Sloth7 Drug induced anxiety?
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Hey all, newbie here. Apologies for rambling but I’m very concerned and it’s impacting my life and relationship. Anyway, just after my 19th birthday I was given a new antidepressant and from one pill it caused serotonin syndrome (taken and diagnosed ... View more

Hey all, newbie here. Apologies for rambling but I’m very concerned and it’s impacting my life and relationship. Anyway, just after my 19th birthday I was given a new antidepressant and from one pill it caused serotonin syndrome (taken and diagnosed on the 30th of March) i was smoking cannabis before and after I took the pill until it started to kick in and cause me to develop SS. So I went through that SS and the day I felt I was completely done with SS I decided to smoke a cone (Aussie slang for smoking out of a bong) and all was good, so I smoked like 1-2 cones with a few hours break in between a day for about 3 days straight then one night I decided to have a cone, then another one and that’s when it all turned bad. My heartbeat went up to 160 almost instantly, and to this day I’ve been dealing with different forms of panic attacks (sometimes I have no symptoms other than fast heart rate, other times i experience dissociation) I’ve developed irrational thoughts such as “food and things I’ve touched or ingested are laced with a drug and I’m going to trip and die”. And I’ve also been completely unable to sleep, as soon as I lie down and start to get comfortable and relaxed I get a strong hot flash and have to sit up and wake up a bit so I’m litterally up all night! I’ve been doing research into cannabis withdrawal and detox and apparently it can last for months? Maybe that’s what wrong? Because I used heavy and daily for years. But I’m scared that night when I smoked that cone I just automatically gave myself a panic or anxiety disorder? Doctors and psychologists don’t know what I’m experiencing or why. could this just be a severe long lasting form of long time use withdrawals? Or possibly a panic disorder? Can you be “cured” of a panic disorder?

wildcat101 anxiety ?
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I haven’t been diagnosed but my anxiety comes and goes and is really confusing. in some situations i feel completely fine and some the thoughts in my head go out of control. at school in the morning my friends bus comes 15 minutes later then mine so ... View more

I haven’t been diagnosed but my anxiety comes and goes and is really confusing. in some situations i feel completely fine and some the thoughts in my head go out of control. at school in the morning my friends bus comes 15 minutes later then mine so i have to wait on my own for them at school. this is mainly everyday i don’t know what to do because i walk down the halls and see people look at me weird and in my head i worry. my chest kind of tightens, i become kinda breathless my hands start to sweat and i fidget with my hands. most of the time i just wait in the toilet stall and some days i cry because it all just gets too much these symptoms come every time i feel anxious. Situations replay in my head and i worry that i said something wrong and regret what i did in that moment. i could just be sitting in class and something pops into my head and i can’t get it out and i can’t concentrate therefor i don’t get any work done and then i worry about getting in trouble for not getting any work done. most of the time i have to do something with someone because i worry about saying the wrong thing like for example my teacher said if we want feedback on our exams then we can come see him in his office. i really wanted to get feedback but i was too anxious to go into the office because it’s the same office as one of the teachers i have had problems with in the past. and when you open the door everyone just looks at you and there is so many more reasons that kept going though my head over and over so in the end i just couldn’t do it so i didn’t. This is the confusing part i am really confident around my friends. i am pretty good at AFL and i have made a state team for it. so at domestic footy i feel confident and at trainings i talk to people with so much confidence. but after i worry i said the wrong thing and starting the conversation can be a bit difficult as well. I really want to talk to someone about how i feel but i am afraid that i don’t really have anxiety. i have tried talking to my mum but i left out a lot of details. i have done a bit of research and i worry that i am overreacting because of how confident i can be but then i think how anxious i get sometimes. i read all of the posts other people put on and my experiences seem like nothing compared to what other people go through so i really don’t know what to do. This is only some of the things that go though my head and some of the situations in my life i just want some guidance about how i’m feeling.

I_never_know_what_to_call I suck at my job
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For the longest time I've never felt explicitly talented at anything, or particularly interested enough to gain extreme skill in anything. I somehow landed a full time job 7 months out of highschool, I re-prioritised based on mine and my girlfriend's... View more

For the longest time I've never felt explicitly talented at anything, or particularly interested enough to gain extreme skill in anything. I somehow landed a full time job 7 months out of highschool, I re-prioritised based on mine and my girlfriend's income. And we're just about to go to pre approval on the home loan. And now that I'm so close, my lack of ability and overall lack of life experience has meant I'm landing my final written warning at work for underperforming. Frankly I'm screwed. I never really had much self worth to begin with but I thought I was okay, people liked me, I was above averagely clever. But working at this job and being told and proven time and time again that I am shit at this job. That I just need to "get my shit together" and I'd actually be fine. IF IT WERE THAT EASY WOULD I NOT HAVE DONE IT BY NOW? I just feel like just as life was starting to work, starting to make sense and I had purpose and direction, things I craved for so long, it's all being taken away. And no matter how hard I try to be better, I just continue to be a burden on my coworkers. I'm going to lose my job and I don't know what to do.

sadisticgorl I feel lost
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Hi all, im sorry for that title I’m very new to this thing, hopefully this can help me cope with my anxiety. As you can probably tell I am not an adult and barely a teen yet, and I know you’re saying “how can this girl who’s barely even a teen have a... View more

Hi all, im sorry for that title I’m very new to this thing, hopefully this can help me cope with my anxiety. As you can probably tell I am not an adult and barely a teen yet, and I know you’re saying “how can this girl who’s barely even a teen have anxiety?”. And you may be right, I don’t want attention or anything I just want to be heard. Lately my heart is starting to hurt. My friends are slowly deteriorating and forgetting about me. We all used to be a group but now they’ve all broken up into little duos leaving me alone. They’ve all changed and barely even talk to me. But I can’t help it and I keep hanging on. I really wish I didn’t care so much, but it’s impossible, we were all the best of friends. one of the people in the group, she figured I was feeling a bit down and asked me if ‘I was okay’. We talked for a while but it didn’t feel she was supporting me. At the time I felt very happy, “maybe I can get back with the group, maybe we could all be friends again.” That was what I thought. But she never came back, she hasn’t texted me or asked and none of the rest of them realise how much they’ve excluded me. But I keep wanting to go back, and I’m terribly antisocial so I haven’t made any other friends. Ive been trying to reconnect, but I fear it’s just me who wants them back. I’m always the one texting first and they answer with vague replies or after a long time. I think I’m trying to hard, but when I don’t try I keep thinking of all the great times we’ve had together and my heart aches. This isn’t much to share but slowly I’ll unwind more here, as I’m a newbie. The answer may be clear to you all, but I’m at a loss. Please help me ! much love to you all who are suffering just as I am

happyfrownychicken I think I might have depression but I'm too scared to tell my parents cause I don't want to worry them
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Hi all I understand that people on this forum aren't professionals but I just wanted to seek out an unbiased opinion about what's going on in my life. For a while I've considered the thought that I have depression it's been about 2 years since I've b... View more

Hi all I understand that people on this forum aren't professionals but I just wanted to seek out an unbiased opinion about what's going on in my life. For a while I've considered the thought that I have depression it's been about 2 years since I've been dealing with these awful feelings of self doubt. When I'm around friends and family it goes away like I've flicked a switch or something.There's a part of me that tells myself it's not a big deal and that I'm just being over dramatic. But every time I'm alone or even just left to my own thoughts these feelings return.I hyper analyse everything I say and do in my mind telling myself I'm stupid and why did I say that.Sometimes after going out with friends I convince myself they all secretly hate me and that I'm only there cause they pity me.Whenever I'm alone just have this undying sense of worthlessness and loneliness.I feel like nothing will get better and I will always feel awful.The amount of times I tell myself that the people around me would be better off without me has been happening far too often lately.I often get excruciating headaches(I've had an mri and they didn't pick up any problems) that I have to take serious migraine medication for. I also have had a lack of appetite recently.I told my mum about this and she said it definitely wasn't because of depression. I sometimes cancel going out with friends because I just feel like I'll get too anxious.When I'm with other kids my age I just feel like I'm not good enough and therefor I don't have a ton of friends cause I lack self confidence. Last month my dad took me to a career fair and I told him I was too overwhelmed by all the people and the stalls he said he didn't understand and wouldn't let me get out of the hall it was held in.I started to feel uneasy and lightheaded (hyperventilating) and my eyes started to water I ran outside the hall and my dad was upset with me.Every time I try to talk to my mum about these feelings she just tells me that It's normal to feel this way and I'll get over it.I'm not sure whether to believe her. I don't want to blow this way out of proportion but also I feel like something may be seriously wrong with me. I don't know if It's anxiety or depression or if this is all normal and I've somehow managed to just work myself up to this point.What are your thoughts? to put it into context I am a person in my mid-late teens

donnie123 I'm lonely and sad. here's my story lol
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do I belong here? I see everyone always fits in somewhere and I see lots of people always in like online groups of friends. so I came to say hi. I'm seeking just nice people. here's the story I turn up to school sit there with my mates while they ign... View more

do I belong here? I see everyone always fits in somewhere and I see lots of people always in like online groups of friends. so I came to say hi. I'm seeking just nice people. here's the story I turn up to school sit there with my mates while they ignore me, call me shit at footy for no reason other then for a laugh? Umm call me a pedophile because I dated a girl who was 15 and I'm 16. and every time I walk past someone now they all call me a pedophile..it really gets to me. I posted up on instagram an "ask a question" and a couple replies were "do us a favour and kys". now I don't even know these people and somehow they are out here saying shit like that to me?. and my friends are no help. they all saw it and laughed and they planned a trip to Melbourne with me sitting right there, they hang out and do stuff and I'm not invited. they all talk to people on snapchat and I try to message for a general conversation and they just leave it on read. I get called derogatory comments at school because apparently I "talk to too many girls" well I actually only talk to the one girl on snapchat. I was forced to get rid of every female I have so people would stop saying shit about me. it didn't work. every laughs at me and they all talk shit behind my back. my friends give me shit about how I wasnt good enough that's why my ex cheated. life's shit. what do people gain from being like this. now I know it looks desperate. but maybe can someone just.. you know be nice. and just talk...is this normal to happen? is anyone else hated? IDK anymore.. can't wait for my P's though..

lsfk I don’t know if I really am sad
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I’m not sure whether I’m feeling depressed or if it’s just nothing? Since the middle of last year I began have sudden outbursts of just uncontrollable crying over small things; I would keep crying and my whole body would tingle and it began getting h... View more

I’m not sure whether I’m feeling depressed or if it’s just nothing? Since the middle of last year I began have sudden outbursts of just uncontrollable crying over small things; I would keep crying and my whole body would tingle and it began getting hard for me to breathe and I’d become lightheaded. I have no reason to cry but I can’t help but feel sad. These weren’t very often though, maybe just happened 3 or 4 times. Also I have a lack of concentration, I find it hard to read books and study for math, I also rarely prepare for essays and tests. Because I keep getting bad grades, I feel even worse but I can never concentrate on studying. I have a lot of friends and a family that loves me a whole lot but I just keep feeling helpless and sad. I also care a lot about my image but recently I got a haircut and it really effected how I see myself and now I just feel a whole less confident and because of my lack of self esteem now I cried a lot last night. I don’t want my friends or family to know unless I really am depressed so how can I really tell? I know I should talk to someone but I don’t really have a lot of close friends who take this kind of stuff seriously and I also think they’ll just say stuff like “oh yeah me too I cry like that too” but I’m not sure if they feel the same as me. I’m not close with any of my teachers either, and the counsellord at my school are intimidating, if I go in my friends will also suspect something. I also don’t want to tell my parents because they are divorced and my mum just got promoted in a new role and engaged, I don’t want to worry her about nothing if I’m not really depressed. And my dad is working two jobs and has to care for my brother, my grandparents, myself and himself. I don’t want to stress him out even more. What should I do when I feel like I have no one to talk to? My friends don’t usually take me seriously since I’m usually so happy and make jokes and make them laugh a lot. I feel so happy when they laugh with me but when they tease me a little I also get really sensitive and feel sad again, I can’t show that to them though so I just tease them back. I really don’t know what I should do and who I should talk to so that I can know if I really have depression

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