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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Pinkrose I feel lost and alone after accident
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Hey so I've never written on here for myself before but I'm just really feeling lost and alone right now. I'm 21 years old female and was working until I had a pretty sever car accident about a year ago which rendered me unable to go back to work unt... View more

Hey so I've never written on here for myself before but I'm just really feeling lost and alone right now. I'm 21 years old female and was working until I had a pretty sever car accident about a year ago which rendered me unable to go back to work until I was well enough. At first they told me 1 month then 2 months then 4 etc and now we are here over a year later and I have just started back at work. I am struggling. I'm good at my job but it's overwhelming and still painful with my injuries and i am frustrated because I still can't do the hours I could before. I t feels like somone stole 1 year of my life and I'm so lost and don't know what to do. No one around me seems to understand how hard it is for me to go back to work when I've been down at home for so long. I just keep thinking about what my life would be like if I wasn't in that accident which I know is stupid to do but I can't help it. I feel lost and alone even though I have people physically around me. Anyway I don't know where I'm going with this or even if anyone will respond I guess I just wanted to talk about it somewhere. Thanks for taking the time to read if you did.

Randomkid_ I have very pale skin that is destroying my self esteem
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I get called "albino" and "ghost" at school by random people and even my friends. I just want to look like everyone else but I feel like I'm just known as the white kid. I probably get a comment every single day and they're all nasty. I don't know wh... View more

I get called "albino" and "ghost" at school by random people and even my friends. I just want to look like everyone else but I feel like I'm just known as the white kid. I probably get a comment every single day and they're all nasty. I don't know what to do and I feel like I'm trapped in my own body for the rest of my life.

dustinB Newbie here---Would like some advice on how to balance work and studies...
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I work in a hotel, housekeeping department, and at the same time studying too. I have a hard time balancing both since I need to keep the job too to pay for my tuition. Any tips on how to manage both without having panic attacks? thanks

I work in a hotel, housekeeping department, and at the same time studying too. I have a hard time balancing both since I need to keep the job too to pay for my tuition. Any tips on how to manage both without having panic attacks? thanks

SweetAngel Fight with boyfriend
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Why would your boyfriend text you the next morning “missing you heaps” after a big argument the night before and it made him in tears. I’m confused.

Why would your boyfriend text you the next morning “missing you heaps” after a big argument the night before and it made him in tears. I’m confused.

imrllyscaredhaha always scared my boyfriend is going to get hurt
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Hi everyone, i have been with my boyfriend for little over a year. i have always been an incredibly anxious person and i often worry about both myself and my loved ones getting hurt or something bad happening to us. more recently, i have become extre... View more

Hi everyone, i have been with my boyfriend for little over a year. i have always been an incredibly anxious person and i often worry about both myself and my loved ones getting hurt or something bad happening to us. more recently, i have become extremely anxious regarding my boyfriend and his wellbeing. i feel the need to call him every couple of hours despite us still being busy at work or school. if i haven’t spoken to him or kept in contact with him much that day i begin to cry and worry and repeatedly call him in a panic just to make sure he’s okay. he’s the only thing i think about and it’s stopping me from doing simple things like work, homework, etc. he knows i have anxiety and says he will try his best to answer all my calls but when he doesn’t it makes me so much more scared and panicked. i honestly don’t know what to do. if i don’t know where he is or what he’s doing i cry and panic instantly, and i physically can’t stop until he calls back or i can see he’s active online. since “online activity” indications aren’t always accurate, i constantly check up to see if he’s active and i can’t tell if it’s accurate or not which makes me more and more anxious. i just want help on how to manage this anxiety. i love my boyfriend and i know he loves me just as much. i know that the logical way of thinking is that there is a very slim chance that he is ever in danger or hurt, but even the simplicity of him being busy and not answering my calls really upsets me. i just want to stop being so scared and anxious and start living my own life. any suggestions ?

Beanest133 I'm a little bit lost.
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I can't motivate myself anymore I can't seem to think positively. I practice unhealthy relationships with my friends. I am in a long term relationship and I'm not sure if I even want to be in it. I'm stuck in a town I absolutely can't stand with a de... View more

I can't motivate myself anymore I can't seem to think positively. I practice unhealthy relationships with my friends. I am in a long term relationship and I'm not sure if I even want to be in it. I'm stuck in a town I absolutely can't stand with a desire for more that I can't seem to actually motivate myself for. My parents had a bad outlook on mental health and medication and so for what feels like my whole life I've been telling myself it's not that bad. But I'm starting to realize it is. I've tried therapies but the talking alone doesn't seem to help. I know and understand the what they're saying and I definately try to apply it. But it seems like I'm pouring a teaspoon into the ocean trying to tackle my issues with mindfulness and whatnot. I've been to three different doctors about trying to get on medication but they've all prescribed me different things. Being a free clinic (can't afford anything else) I get less than 10 minutes talking and they shove me out the door with very little information on whatever they've prescribed me. So far I've been to scared to take anything. I can see the steps I have to take in my life to get better. I just can't seem to make them. I feel like my passions and dreams slip away more and more everyday and I feel less and less like myself everyday. I know I have a boatload of problems. But I'm scared I guess. To admit to them, own up to them. I want a doctor to actually listen and explain to me what I need to do to get better or something. I feel like I'm spiralling downward. My whole life I've never truly believed I had potential for anything. I can honestly say that. But I know I can be something better and live a better life I am just so lost as to how. What steps do I take how do I make myself get the help I need with such s**t family support. I don't know why I'm even posting this I just needed to say that I look at people younger than me and they are doing so well and I wonder why the hell I'm so useless.

lostgirl13 Where to from here?
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My life is a mess.. Over the summer holidays my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me, it was sudden and I really didn't see it coming. Everyone said it was "good timing" because a week later I was headed to Europe to complete an internship for my cu... View more

My life is a mess.. Over the summer holidays my boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me, it was sudden and I really didn't see it coming. Everyone said it was "good timing" because a week later I was headed to Europe to complete an internship for my current bachelors degree. To be honest, it did feel like a good thing at the time, I had a great time whilst I was away and met so many great new people and formed new friendships. I've been back home now for 3 weeks and all I can think about is being away again, it's been hard to come back to uni and face everything that happened before I went away. I feel like I'm just trying to live as if I am still away and have made some pretty concrete plans to go back to Europe and rekindle my friendships once I graduate. I feel like I might be in denial about how I'm feeling but I don't really know how to address it. For now I'm just feeling really down and without purpose, the end of the year feels like a lifetime away and I find I'm just wishing away my time - I don't like it. I'm coping by stress eating and going out on the weekends, but this is making me feel worse because I'm gaining weight and feeling negative about my body image. Also, I'm spending too much money trying to make myself feel better when I need to be saving if I want to go away again. I'm just in such a negative place right now and I don't know how to deal with it. I feel so lost, can someone help?

youcantknow Anxiety at school!
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I have been finding it really hard coping with my anxiety at school! I've been having to leave class and just go to the toilets and breathe because I cant cope! At the moment in my health class, we are talking about mental health even just thinking a... View more

I have been finding it really hard coping with my anxiety at school! I've been having to leave class and just go to the toilets and breathe because I cant cope! At the moment in my health class, we are talking about mental health even just thinking about it makes me wanna be sick. every time we start talking about it i have to leave and go to the toilet because i start having anxiety/panic attack! please help i don't want people to know i have anxiety! i feel like whenever my teacher starts describing someone with anxiety everyone starts looking at me and notices that i am doing everything she says! i just want to be normal.

youcantknow Friends are confusing!
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I don't know if my friends are really my friends anymore? My other friend's ar saying that there talking smack about me, ki don't know y they would do that was so close were besties! there hurting my feeling left to right and centre i don't know what... View more

I don't know if my friends are really my friends anymore? My other friend's ar saying that there talking smack about me, ki don't know y they would do that was so close were besties! there hurting my feeling left to right and centre i don't know what to do?

mollycc12 Lost
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I feel so lost and alone. I just don't know what the way forward is anymore. My beautiful boyfriend is the most amazing man in the world but my insecurities and constant mind racing is making me lash out at him. He doesn't deserve it. I love him more... View more

I feel so lost and alone. I just don't know what the way forward is anymore. My beautiful boyfriend is the most amazing man in the world but my insecurities and constant mind racing is making me lash out at him. He doesn't deserve it. I love him more than anything, and I don't want to loose him but all the conflict is taking its toll. Everyday just seems like a battle and I just don't know what the answer or way forward is anymore. I have a therapist I see and I'm on medication but it seems recently that everything has just fallen into a heap and I don't know how to find my way out. I just feel so lost, confused and alone.