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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Ghostboy Alone and lost
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I recently told my mum I can’t go to university anymore because I am so unstable right now but she doesn’t understand. She was the one person I thought would and it took me a year to tell her. Since she doesn’t understand, I don’t know where to go fr... View more

I recently told my mum I can’t go to university anymore because I am so unstable right now but she doesn’t understand. She was the one person I thought would and it took me a year to tell her. Since she doesn’t understand, I don’t know where to go from here. I’m 21, I used to be so happy and confident and now I’m in my room all day because I can’t find the energy to go out. I dont see my friends anymore and they all think I don’t want to see them but that’s not it at all. If I told them how I felt they would never understand because I’m so good at hiding it. When I started uni I told myself I would stick to it and make friends but here I am dropping out. I just need people who understand what I’m talking about. Anyone.

Autumnflowers Feeling isolated
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I don't really know how to talk about this, I'm new to the forum. I moved to Australia to be with my boyfriend, but I feel totally isolated. My family live on the opposite side of the world so even talking to them can be difficult with the time diffe... View more

I don't really know how to talk about this, I'm new to the forum. I moved to Australia to be with my boyfriend, but I feel totally isolated. My family live on the opposite side of the world so even talking to them can be difficult with the time difference but we manage it. It took me a while to get a job as where I'm living is very quiet so there's not much work, even then I only get a few hours in the evening, it sucks because my boyfriend works 9-5 so I'm home alone all day and then I go to work so we hardly get to talk, either that or hes playing games to unwind from work and is so immersed in it he often doesn't hear when I try to make conversation or gives short answers (honestly other than that hes an amazing partner). I'm trying to get to know people at work but our managers don't like us talking so I'm not getting the opportunity to talk to anyone. I've tried making friends with my boyfriends friends but there's only one person that's extended their friendship to me but we also work opposite hours so we don't get to hang out much. I'm still learning to drive and have no neighbours so I'm trapped in the house. Im on a working holiday visa so I can't really study and have no real qualifications. Its winter here and constantly rains so even going for a walk isn't really an option. I'm plagued with nightmares every night, its making me incredibly jumpy and I feel like theres always something lurking in the shadows, I'm very judgmental of myself, can hardly sleep or over sleep and want to cry constantly. I'm used to travelling and making friends and have done it for the past 4 years but this time things just aren't clicking for me. We've signed a year long lease so I cant move and my boyfriend has said if im still unhappy at that point we can move elsewhere. Im just feeling really lonely and the thought of this for a year is daunting

Char02lie Telling teachers I’m depressed
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I’m in high school and have been struggling with depression and anxiety. I got diagnosed a while ago and have been put on medication. I’m not sure if I should tell my teachers, as I’m seriously struggling, because that would mean telling 6 people (se... View more

I’m in high school and have been struggling with depression and anxiety. I got diagnosed a while ago and have been put on medication. I’m not sure if I should tell my teachers, as I’m seriously struggling, because that would mean telling 6 people (seperate teacher for each class) about my issues. I feel like I’ll be viewed as an attention seeker using any excuse to get an extension

ALu1993 Not sure how I'm feeling.
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Recently I've really been struggling with just being generally happy. In fact my emotions feel so mixed sometimes I tend to just isolate myself. I'm literally in fear of the words that leave my mouth, like I want to connect and talk with people bit I... View more

Recently I've really been struggling with just being generally happy. In fact my emotions feel so mixed sometimes I tend to just isolate myself. I'm literally in fear of the words that leave my mouth, like I want to connect and talk with people bit I just don't know what to say anymore/ how to have a conversation. Sometimes when I run into a colleague it's just hi how ya going 'yep good thanks, how about you? Good. That's good' type situation and it's driving me insane. I usually spend most of my lunches alone. It's only really recently starting to really effect me. Like I used to enjoy eating my lunch alone, maybe look at Facebook or watch a video at the same time. But now I think about how alone I am every lunch instead. It's starting to really demotivate me at work too. At home I live with my partner and of course there's good and bad days but I'm just feeling more and more alone and I dunno I'm scared it won't change. I try to engage with my partner a lot, but the last few days and particularly today I just haven't felt like trying and was hoping to receive some comfort from my partner but it was out of reach. I figured they're probably tired too, both of us work full time, so generally were quite tired by the end of the day. Ugh I Feel like ive digressed. A few years ago i got hooked on drugs and to be honest i dont think ive ever been the same since. Im clean now and have been for a while. But i remember there was a time before drugs where i was never so self aware of my own silence that its got to a point where it's started started to eat away at me.

Guest_000 what do you talk about to people when hanging out?
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I'm getting to know people from school, but when the opportunity to hang out outside of school arises I feel anxious because I am not sure what we would talk about and if it would be awkward when we run out of stuff to talk about. How can I overcome ... View more

I'm getting to know people from school, but when the opportunity to hang out outside of school arises I feel anxious because I am not sure what we would talk about and if it would be awkward when we run out of stuff to talk about. How can I overcome this and make our friendship more comfortable? Thanks

hanne6 Introducing myself and feeling discouraged by anxiety
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Hi all! I'm new here and am a student in my mid-20s with anxiety and bipolar. Things are so much better than they used to be (when I lacked much hope at all) and I still marvel at how far I've come. Yet, I struggle with constant anxiety which is exha... View more

Hi all! I'm new here and am a student in my mid-20s with anxiety and bipolar. Things are so much better than they used to be (when I lacked much hope at all) and I still marvel at how far I've come. Yet, I struggle with constant anxiety which is exhausting and always feels like it's threatening to throw me into depression (leaving me with yet another worry). Sometimes it feels things would be easier if I were to permanently isolate myself. I try to see my friends but feel it would be easier on myself and them if I didn't have any. I keep thinking that things could be even better than they are now if I could get on top of this anxiety (somehow). I'm terrified, however, of making things worse. I keep telling myself things are great so don't ruin them and worry that if I seek out further help I'll fixate so much on my anxious thoughts that I'll just make my mental health worse. Or, that I won't be able to accurately describe what's going on and my GP will think I've made an appointment for no reason, there is nothing that can be done, and I am wasting her time. So, it seems I am left stuck with anxiety that "could be worse" so why get help and risk making things worse. Quite discouraging...

rollerskater1 I moved to a new school this year, and have really struggled to make friends and genuine connections with my peers.
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I moved this year to a new school, and thought I would make friends easily and quickly. I have very good friends at my old school I love and still talk to regularly, but at my new school I am mostly alone. I am beginning to think I am showing signs o... View more

I moved this year to a new school, and thought I would make friends easily and quickly. I have very good friends at my old school I love and still talk to regularly, but at my new school I am mostly alone. I am beginning to think I am showing signs of anxiety and depression, as I am upset a lot because of loneliness. I don't know what to do, and I am tempted to move back to my old school, where I know I would be a lot happier, surrounded by people I know and am close with. I did have one person I know move with me, but she has since moved on, and I initially joined her group. However, I felt like I didnt fit in there, so I ventured out to try and find others. I did meet two people, and they have a group, but I struggle to connect with their friends, and everyone seems to already have their own cliques, and while I try to fit in, no one seems to be fully accepting of me. I don't know what to do, and I just needed to rant here to let out what I have been experiencing throughout the year.

Ameliaxo I feel so Ugly..
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I'm In high school and for a long time I've felt so ugly so useless lately things are getting worse and I just really hate my life at this point my friends try to tell me I'm not ugly but I never believe them.. I also get bullied and people play stup... View more

I'm In high school and for a long time I've felt so ugly so useless lately things are getting worse and I just really hate my life at this point my friends try to tell me I'm not ugly but I never believe them.. I also get bullied and people play stupid jokes on me just to embarrass me I start to feel so dead inside. 2 weeks ago I broke up with my Girlfriend and I'm still going through breakup lose and I guess everything is going on and I've been on verge of tears all week I just need some help.. If there is someone else out there that is going through the same thing lets just say I feel your pain..

dumb_plant school sucks and i don't care about anything
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nothing matters to me and it's starting to become an issue i think, everything that used to bring me joy doesn't anymore. I feel further and further away from reality and the further i get the emptier i become. thats what confuses me the most its not... View more

nothing matters to me and it's starting to become an issue i think, everything that used to bring me joy doesn't anymore. I feel further and further away from reality and the further i get the emptier i become. thats what confuses me the most its not necessarily the sadness that gets to me but the empty feeling i have constantly. i don't try in school because i feel so hopeless i'm not smart enough to keep up with everyone else, and i really hate it. the school system ranks us against each other and when is see how smart everyone else is i feel so worthless how can i care about something that forces me to feel like shit by constantly comparing myself to others? i sound whiny right now, i have no reason to feel like this i have a great family and cool friends which makes me feel even more guilty about giving up at the age of 15, i'm probably just being overdramatic. i have no mental illness that i know about, all i know is that i'm struggling.

spontaneous sunflower How to start conversations and get to know new people???
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So 6ish months ago I moved to a new school. I was starting year 11 when I moved here. 6 months of being at this new school and I spend most recess and lunchtimes studying by myself, sitting somewhere in the school scrolling through my phone or someti... View more

So 6ish months ago I moved to a new school. I was starting year 11 when I moved here. 6 months of being at this new school and I spend most recess and lunchtimes studying by myself, sitting somewhere in the school scrolling through my phone or sometimes I go home for lunch if I have a free period before or after it. I don't have a group to hang out with at lunchtime. I'm all on my own. The thing is, I do have friends in some of my classes. I have people I can sit next to during class and message out of school hours for help on hw or if I missed anything. But these people and I don't know enough about each other to like extend the friendship beyond school and classtimes. I know I can make more of an effort to reach out to people, and that i should've done so earlier in the year when I was new, but I just don't know how to go about it and I'm always overthinking it. To ask someone I barely know what tv shows they like feels out of blue for me, you know. I'm shy and annoyingly a few of the people I sit with in class are pretty shy also. I just don't know how to get a conversation going and how to get to know someone enough that when I ask them if I can hang out with them at lunchtime, we're not just awkwardly wandering around the school making pathetic small talk. The people I would like to get to know better are nice people. It's not like they wouldn't allow me to hang out with their group at lunchtime. It's just that I don't want it to be awkward. I'm sure me and these people have something in common but I don't know how to make a conversation with them and find out what similarities we have that we can bond over. So yep... help? How does one talk to fellow human beings?? Thanks.