I'm in a bad situation and need help

[izzywest13]

Ok my names Isobelle and I have a girlfriend last night we were together at a sleepover (with about 10 other people) and we took a selfie together cuddling and I meant to send it to my friend Georgie but I clicked on a girl called Eliza who after opening the photo blocked me. Later that night Eliza posted a selfie and my friend (who was also at the sleepover) Jaylah commented saying she looked cute (Jaylah is bisexual) Eliza deleted the comment and told Jaylah not to comment on her photos. Jaylah asked why and they ended up having an argument and I got involved too because of her blocking me. The next morning I felt bad about the fight so I messaged her saying I'm sorry and then I got a reply... from her mum and her mum wanted to take this as bullying to higher authority. I told her I had apologised and we all felt it was a stupid fight and we were sorry. The mum messaged Jaylah in the arvo saying she'd talked to a police officer and that we were sick people and cyber bullies (we go to school with this girl btw) so Jaylah and I are obviously both extremely confused and scared because shes talked to the police and any advice right now would be very helpful.

[james1]

Hey Isobelle,

oh that is a really scary situation to be in and I'm so sorry to hear that it got out of hand so quickly. Please, the first thing I want to let you know is that you have not done anything wrong. We get into fights and misunderstandings, and the key thing to do is to apologise - which you did!

From what I can see, you've been very mature about this situation, but for now, it is best to ignore all messages from Eliza and her mum.

Have you and Jaylah spoken to your parents? They can help you out here and will help you know what to do.

Please don't feel worried because it sounds like this was all just a simple misunderstanding.

Let us know how you go - I can see this is really upsetting for both you and Jaylah, and it'd be great to hear back from you.

James

[Narniakid]

Hey izzywest13, welcome to the forums and thank you for reaching out to us.

I agree with James, this sounds like a big misunderstanding and miscommunication. You have been very mature about it by apologising, so well done on your behalf.

Considering how much this girl's mother has overreacted by calling the police, I would definitely tell an adult - if you don't want to tell your parents, is there a teacher or a counsellor at school you'd be willing to talk to?

I totally understand why you're upset, you didn't do anything wrong! As far as the messages from the mother and Eliza, just leave them as unread for now, at least until you tell an adult.

Hang in there, hope to hear from you soon,

Crystal