I'm a horrible person who doesn't know how to be respectful???

Lost_Soul
Community Member
I'm not okay. I feel very upset and awful. I haven't been able to study (even though I have final uni exams coming up next week), eat or just experience a willingness to continue living on for the past two days. I have been told that I am disrespectful and 'bully' by many many members on a social platform for giving advice to someone on a social platform that they should try to understand another person's perspective before expressing their own on the matter so that the person doesn't feel misunderstood. I ended up deleting my account. Prior to deleting my account, I made a post saying how I'm crying badly whilst hiding in the bathroom and I would like some support even if it is just hugging emojis or hearts....but despite this the members who said I was disrespectful provided no support. It almost seems like their support is dependent on 'the side' they take rather than non-discriminatingly providing support for those in need. I hate such selective support - 
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TrueSeeker
Community Member

Hello

 

I'm so sorry that this happened to you. It's definitely not easy to go through something like that. I agree with you that we do need to understand both sides of a story before we make conclusions.

 

Unhealthy group dynamics and peer pressure can cause a lot of distress and it's not right. Unfortunately, a lot of members in a situation like this pick the group majority's opinion to avoid being rejected. Very likely a lot of members are scared to take your side even though they agree with you and know that it's not right what happened to you. It's really important to remember that abuse is always wrong and it's not your fault for being treated badly.

 

I understand that it really hurts at this moment and it might seem that the whole world is bad. It's not the case, there's a lot of people out there that agree with you and have the same good standards as you do. They would never treat you like that as you don't deserve it.

 

Please contact Beyond Blue if it gets too bad or you can talk to your GP about it too as it can make it all easier to cope with. Please be nice to yourself and feel free to update us on how you're going whenever you feel like

thankyou xx.