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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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marko BE MY FRIEND ‌😱‌‌😱‌
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im autistic, depressed 16 n stuff. i have no friends because i can never find ppl who i relate to or match my energy ykwim. so if u r lonely or want to adopt a silly introvert i am here!!! i like rock, cats, video games. yurr

im autistic, depressed 16 n stuff. i have no friends because i can never find ppl who i relate to or match my energy ykwim. so if u r lonely or want to adopt a silly introvert i am here!!! i like rock, cats, video games. yurr

AKMU I feel so lonely.
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all my life I think I've had difficulties with having someone there because I've got social anxiety so I don't have many close friends and I think my mum despises me over my dad (they are divorced). I've recently gotten anti-depressants which have ma... View more

all my life I think I've had difficulties with having someone there because I've got social anxiety so I don't have many close friends and I think my mum despises me over my dad (they are divorced). I've recently gotten anti-depressants which have made things good and I can talk to people now, but the second I go home I just feel so alone because my friends and family don't talk to me. Due to the medication it feels weird to be sad, like I feel like I shouldn't be sad but I just feel so over everything and want it to be over. I had a falling out with one of my closest friends because she was manipulative etc and I couldn't deal with it and now everything's just worse. She was the only person who talked to be outside of school and now she's gone so it's just me. Everyday I just feel like crying and I want to talk to someone about it but my mum isn't big on psychologists and stuff because it costs money. I love my mum a lot but I feel she doesn't love me much just because of my dad. Years ago when I wanted to end my life she didn't really care and she was more mad she had to talk to my dad about it and pay for a therapy. I'm in year 12 now so everything's more stressful and having no one to talk to is making everything worse. I don't know what to do I just want to be happy.

Guest_18458530 Difficulty in isolation
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Hi,I came in this forum to seek advice. I have been suffering from chronic fatigue and other symptoms the foremost of these been anxiety for over 2 years now. As a result of these symptoms I have been largely housebound, did not finish school, and ha... View more

Hi,I came in this forum to seek advice. I have been suffering from chronic fatigue and other symptoms the foremost of these been anxiety for over 2 years now. As a result of these symptoms I have been largely housebound, did not finish school, and have lost touch with many of my friends. While my family has been incredibly supportive, I find that most of the people I interrupt with outside of home are medical personnel. Due to the stress of my Illness currently I spend most of my time at home, and consequently, find it difficult to interact and connect with people my age (19). I was wondering if anyone had similar experiences or recommendations on possible courses of action which do not require too much energy.

Carla200288383 Moving schools
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Hi my name is Carla and im in year 9, i’ve recently started at a new school an hour away from my home, and its safe to say im struggling. i have no motivation whatsoever to go to school, i hate waking up and hate seeing everyone to do with this schoo... View more

Hi my name is Carla and im in year 9, i’ve recently started at a new school an hour away from my home, and its safe to say im struggling. i have no motivation whatsoever to go to school, i hate waking up and hate seeing everyone to do with this school. there is a lot of drama revolved around me here and i just want to get away from it. i have fake friends too, and its hard to cope with all the work since i used to be one of the top in my class but now im droppin. im wondering if i should move to the school that is closer to my house. my old friends are there now, the school used to be considered feral but it has improved a lot since then. i want to be near my house, my old friends and not have to wake up so early. the school im at now is considered really good but i don’t understand the hype. i dont know what is the right decision to make, what if i leave and continue to have no genuine friends? what is the right decision??

KadeJ ADF medical appeal for depressive anxiety disorder
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G’day guys, just seeking some advice on my medical appeal for the ADF (Army Medic). When I was 16 I had been diagnosed with “depressive anxiety disorder” and prescribed with anti depressant medication. There was lots going on in my life at the time a... View more

G’day guys, just seeking some advice on my medical appeal for the ADF (Army Medic). When I was 16 I had been diagnosed with “depressive anxiety disorder” and prescribed with anti depressant medication. There was lots going on in my life at the time and I was very aggravated with the world. My Mum took me to a paediatrician and I ended up with this diagnosis. The medication never seemed to make me feel any better, I was never reviewed and just kept getting advised to take this tablet. Now, I am 21 years old and stopped taking the tablet in January. I feel better than ever. I started exercising whilst also working full time, I’ve been studying at university since 2023 trying to become a paramedic. I have previously been knocked back from the army twice. I have applied again and of course, been knocked again. I constantly kick myself for ever agreeing to go to the paed as this situation would never have been an issue. I have made the decision to appeal and have seen a psychologist. She says that I shouldn’t have ever been put on medication especially at 16 y/o and that the certain type of antidepressant is not approved for anyone under 18 y/o. (Australia) my main questions are: - what are my chances of a successful appeal - what is some strong evidence to chuck into my appeal Thankyou for taking the time to read my post. Kade.

Guest_60121912 Please help
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Please help. My son recently attempted to take his own life (I know that's not the right terminology and for that I'm sorry). It was just days ago. His pain isn't something that will change. He's grieving the loss of his step father, his girlfriend a... View more

Please help. My son recently attempted to take his own life (I know that's not the right terminology and for that I'm sorry). It was just days ago. His pain isn't something that will change. He's grieving the loss of his step father, his girlfriend and him are having issues, his dad and his relationship is strained. I can't change these things and his pain became unbearable. He has done every kind of talk therapy for 5 years about these things and he can't talk about them any more. He says that talking about things makes it worse, they can't be fixed but the pain is clearly crushing him. I have taken leave at work so I can be with him but this is a temporary thing. I can't follow him around forever and just keeping him alive while he's being crushed by pain isn't the answer. Where do we go from here? We've talked to doctors who say more counselling but how if that makes him feel worse??

Guest_64694817 No purpose in life
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i’m 18 years old. i have no friends. my family acts like they can’t stand me. i’ve graduated high school and struggling to find a job due do my anxiety (not that i want one anyway). i rarely get out of bed unless i have to. i do nothing all day and i... View more

i’m 18 years old. i have no friends. my family acts like they can’t stand me. i’ve graduated high school and struggling to find a job due do my anxiety (not that i want one anyway). i rarely get out of bed unless i have to. i do nothing all day and i genuinely have no direction in life. i feel like collapsing when i see any type of friendships online. i miss having a friend group and i feel like i’m missing out on everything, like life is passing me by. i’m mourning a life that doesn’t exist. i wish i was never born. how is that fair? why do i have to deal with such suffocating thoughts and feelings when i don’t even want to be alive. i’m full of hatred and anger about my past. i’ll never get over it. what’s the point of continuing?

Guest_03848443 Freaking out about maths
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I’m currently in year 11 and I’m doing maths methods. My first test wasn’t great, but my second was 88% which is really really great in my class. My next test however was 17%I think the reason I scored so low is because there’s nothing I hate more in... View more

I’m currently in year 11 and I’m doing maths methods. My first test wasn’t great, but my second was 88% which is really really great in my class. My next test however was 17%I think the reason I scored so low is because there’s nothing I hate more in the world than maths methods. Every moment in that classroom feels like hell. I literally dread sitting down to do my maths homework. I think to myself, maybe maths just isn’t for me? But then I also wonder that maybe the reason I’m doing so badly is because I’m not putting the effort in. It’s true, I could be studying a lot more, but I cannot bring myself to do it.I am resitting the test I got 17% on this week and I have a SAC on the same topic too. I’ve fallen so behind I wonder if it’s even worth studying because there’s no way I’m going to pass either of them. I’m feeling so anxious and I don’t know what to do or how to study for it. I don’t know if my teacher would be very pleased with me if I come up to her and tell her there’s no point in my resitting the test I failed because I’m not going to do any better.

izzy My 16 year old struggles
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I’m not really sure what i’m meant to write, this is my first time going to a place like this and talking about it, but it seems to help everyone else. Im in year 11, which has a lot of work and exams and stress… which doesn’t help anything! But i’m ... View more

I’m not really sure what i’m meant to write, this is my first time going to a place like this and talking about it, but it seems to help everyone else. Im in year 11, which has a lot of work and exams and stress… which doesn’t help anything! But i’m finding that i have been struggling alot, i just feel tired, i feel drained, i’ve had enough, i’m sitting at lunch while everyone is laughing and just don’t have it in me to join them.. i’m not sure what’s going on but i’m not hungry and i just want to sleep. My step grandma is fighting with cancer and only have about a week left, which has a huge toll on everyone.. but my actual grandma died of cancer when i was 8, so it’s flushing everything back. I’m just not sure what to do or how to deal with it, I also got kicked out of my friend group which is now bullying me at school, my new friend group is still settling in with me and it’s really hard. As well as loosing my boyfriend of almost a year who was so special to meAt home my parents are split, so there is some fighting and it always a-bit eh, but lately it seems everyone is yelling at me and everything is my fault, so i want to get away. but at school i have tons of work and i just can’t find a place.I don’t really have anyone to talk to… I told my parent about how i’m feeling and they simply said i don’t know.Its hard to describe how i feel, i may have a good day and then the next i'm just really horrible. this has gone on for about 2 weeks, everything is just dull. It’s like someone just vacuumed everything out and i’m just empty. I had a huge cry over the tiniest thing the other day which i thought would help. i hope some one understand what i’m feeling.. i don’t know how to finish this but i’m just tierd.

Edawge I have suddenly lost all of my motivation and most of my emotions.
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Hello, (this is my first post) recently i have just suddenly lost all of my motivation. I have 3 critical assesments due very soon and i just cant bring myself to do them. i could easily finish one of them in about 2 hours but i just cant do it. im g... View more

Hello, (this is my first post) recently i have just suddenly lost all of my motivation. I have 3 critical assesments due very soon and i just cant bring myself to do them. i could easily finish one of them in about 2 hours but i just cant do it. im going to fail them but im not stressed at all? i have always been stressed when im doing assesments but recently i just lost my stress. I have hereditary anxiety but i have been on a 50mg a day dose of antidepressant/SSRI for the past 2 years and it has been working great until now. Without antidepressant/SSRI im extremely irratable (i used to get in a fight if a kid called me a name more than twice) and i cant control impulsive thoughts that enter my head, i also self harmed but i dont do that anymore. Im thinking i should go to a therapist or something but im not sure. Sorry if this is a bit all over the place but as you might of gathered, im not in the best of mental spaces.