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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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friends and school

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ok so basically i have a friend (lets call her v) she is my best friend of like 4 years now. initially we were a trio with this other girl, but she moved schools recently. it hit us both rlly hard, but her especially. since then, i've joined a group of ppl that im friends with and she followed suit. these ppl are rlly kind, friendly and like us both a lot. thing is there a lot closer to me than her. recently my friend broke down saying she felt rlly alone since our old friend left and since i'm hanging out with these ppl more than her. she doesn't rlly have other friends. she told me she was gonna try and find some other friends (since she doesnt rlly like my friends a lot) but so far there's been no success. and look, she means more to me than those other friends but i like them a lot too and i dont wanna leave them. i told them about how she was feeling (she told me i could) and they were like 'tbh we like her but we've rlly only tolerated her this long cause she's your friend' (v doesnt know about this btw) v has since said she wont be sitting with us and it sucks, since without her i'll always feel like a bit of an outsider compared to them, and since shes my best friend. and look ive supported her a lot but in all honesty i think shes being dramatic, although i understand i dont own her and she can sit with whoever she likes. anyways, i wanted to ask if there's anything i should do? or should i just let her leave? idk someone help pls.

im 13 and i am so close to just ending it bc of school

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i am in the 8th grade and i already just want to leave i have changed schools and everything and i really just want to leave. I am constantly skipping class, skipping school, injuring myself on purpose to get out of school ect. I am constantly begging my dad to let me homeschool. The 2 week holidays are almost over and i don't want to go back considering the fact that i had the most embarrassing thing of my life happened right on the last week of term one. A girl got on my friends nerves and her and my friend got in a fight, i went to separate them and the girl who is infamously weird dislocated my knee and i have not been back since so i am soooo scared.

Moving interstate at 17

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Hi, I’ve been searching and trying to figure out if it is legal or if there was restrictions on a person under 17 being able to move interstate alone without parental consent or knowledge. I already have a plan on getting money and a way to move, I j... View more

Giving up when life doesn’t get better

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Hi everyone! I’m not sure what compelled me to start writing this post. Maybe I’m hoping someone would validate my feelings or relate to my situation. For context, I am 22 years old. I am in the final year of my university studies. I used to have more friends and went out more. Now I only have a few close friends, whom I try to see at least once a week. The same goes for my boyfriend. He lives an hour away by car (or an hour and a half commute), and we try to see each other at least once a week. I live with my strict parents and still have a curfew despite my age. Sleepovers are forbidden. I am often made to feel guilty when I go out at night or past dinner time. I was recently unemployed and my parents don’t want me to work while I finish my studies. I know I am blessed that they want to support me, but I continue to struggle with feelings of uncertainty about my job prospects. I spoke to them about wanting to work casual hours waitressing or doing odd jobs like I used to, but they said no. Since I lost my full-time job, I don’t know if I even want to continue in the same field as my degree. I am diagnosed with CPTSD and often think about how it affects my ability to cope. I'm not sure where my depression and anxiety stem from or if it’s from a singular event. I get support from my mental health nurse, GP, counsellor, psychologist, and headspace worker. Until recently, I even had a social worker and a financial advisor. Despite utilising all this free support, my mental health does not seem to be improving. I find myself struggling more with self-doubt, anxiety, depression and I’m more prone to feeling extreme emotional distress. Recently, I have slept a lot to run away from my problems. As soon as I wake up, I go back to sleep. I slept twice trying to finish this post. I hate mornings. I want to study and do my assessments, but I never do. I want to be active and eat well, but I can’t. I hate being stuck at home. I want to make new friends and have fun. But I feel awkward and lonely even when I'm around others. I want to leave my partner because it's so hard to see him, especially because my family is moving farther away. I have too much baggage and I feel scared he will leave me. I hate how my life has turned out. I’m not sure I will ever be able to be financially stable enough to move out. I want to give up on everything and sleep forever. I apologise if anyone feels triggered reading this rant. I hope life gets better for you.

Lonliness is the worst and so are people

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I really need to get this off my chest. I'm in yr 11 and I feel so alone and have been for a few years. I have struggled with friendships groups through the years which is how I ended up feeling this way, I have been exculeded on multiple accounts. I have been bullied by my best friend and I have encounter many awful people at my school who treat others like garbage as well as myself and it's really hard because it's been stopping me from make close connections with the people I hang out with now. This group is probrobly the nicest i have met in the school, they support each out and care about how others feel, best of all they include me in conversations. You would think it was the bare minimum. The only problem is I now over think everything and I have been feeling the most insecure ever in my life. I'm scared to speak, I feel like I'm being judge by them even when I'm proven wrong. I'm constantly thinking weather or not I'm wanted or if it's a pity thing. It's so exhausting. I feel so lonley as I've tried to hang out with some of them but at least from my end they don't seem intersested. All I do is sit at home and do nothing, and I hate it I wanna go out with people but it feels useless. I so desperately crave a friend I can just talk to about stupid stuff, but the past friendship made me rethink everything, I can't text somebody to hang out like I used to because I jump to conclusion. The extra school workload doesn't either. I don't really have anyone to talk to as I don't have a close or best friend. I've talked to my parents about it but they tell me the same thing over that doesn't help. How do I get over this hump and stop feeling like I'm wasting my life.

moving out as a teen

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hi, i want to move interstate alone when i turn 18, and im currently 16 going on 17. any tips (how much to save, best way to move interstate, etc.)

i feel like giving into pressure from teachers has ruined my chances of uni

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hi my name is eva and im currently in year 12. currently all i can feel is stress regret and anxiety when it comes to school. im doing all atar classes mainly because all ive ever been told is that i have to go to uni nothing else has ever been an option for me, but currently im scard i wont get in and its not due to not passing but instead because in year 11 i was pushed to do headstart courses being told they were easy and a good way to get started but they werent. everyone told me i should do it so i did but by the end of it the stress of regular school work made it hard and i failed my course i have only recently been told that a girl the year before me failed to get into uni not because of her atar but instead because failing her course lowered her university GPA and im terrified ive done the same to myself. im hoping that maybe i can apply to a different uni than the one i did my course through and it might not have an effect but im not sure. all i know is i feel like my life is over. i wasnt given enough information about it and now im so stressed the thought make me want to cry. can someone please give me any kind of idea as to waht to do im terrified.

where do you start ?

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I have never been cool or fun - I struggled through school even though my friends were schol captians popular cool people - I am the odd one out now after finishing school i am at uni but have seemed to still carry the expectations. In the last months of year 12 i found myself been criticised for not having a job, for not having a social life for been dumb and stupid. Basically I was branded the friend who always said no. Now I have 2 jobs, uni. But im failing at both. there are somedays where i sit on the bus in tears. I recently went to get a ADHD diagnoses and am midway through (the cost is just astronomical) i was put on a stimulate but they haven't really helped - i got headaches , but even when i'm not taking the medication i now seem to be experiencing headaches. Recently i get irritable, the only reason why i seem to get up is for work. it has now become my life. i don't read anymore, i don't even want to go outside to my pets. I cant do uni work i just sit there. I don't know what to do i feel so stuck . Financially Emotionally. I forget to do basic tasks - forget where i put things. I know i have to change but where does one start - every time i do something there's like this pattern of destruction i begin something, goes really well then it starts to break down. It's like i am asking for help but i'm asking for the wrong help.

Dating

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Hi there, I was dating someone for the last few months, things didn’t end very well. I guess I made mistakes pushing him away. I have felt guilty ever since then.I know he has already moved on with someone else which is a horrible feeling. I’m finding it all overwhelming at the moment. It’s really hard moving on even though it was only at the dating stage.The whole relationship thing all seemed new to me. Any dating advise/ moving on tips/feeling less guilty about it all would be appreciated.

Out of place

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Life outta school sucks. My troubles are nothing compared to some people, and people would say I have no troubles. But I honestly am just so lost. Why did no one tell me one day I’d have all these amazing friends to the next all I have it my partner. I love him but I feel like I have no one. Sometimes I feel useless. I wonder why I spent years making friends and sharing secrets to not even saying hello to them for over a year. What’s the point in trying if life has no meaning. I have no motivation. I hate myself. I’ve gained weight and I’m ugly. And the safest part is I can recognise that I truly can’t stand myself and need to change, yet I can’t be bothered. I’m lazy. I will amount to nothing. And one day everyone will forget me and what was the point. I’m just lost. I guess I just needed to write this down, knowing at least someone will see it.

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im 13 and i am so close to just ending it bc of school replies: 1

Moving interstate at 17 replies: 1

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Lonliness is the worst and so are people replies: 1

moving out as a teen replies: 4

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where do you start ? replies: 1

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