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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

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Guest_44016717 i want to move out
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I am a 17 year old girl, i haave a bf and a family ofc but i want to move out. my mum uses me as a baby sitter and i dont get money from it wich ik is expected but i watch and look after my sibling verys often which leads into me not being able to do... View more

I am a 17 year old girl, i haave a bf and a family ofc but i want to move out. my mum uses me as a baby sitter and i dont get money from it wich ik is expected but i watch and look after my sibling verys often which leads into me not being able to do anything.idk where to go or what to do because i am 17 and i have nothing prepaird but i really just want my own space. i want to be in control of myself again, and have my hard earned money to myself. on the daily my mum shames me over nothing and anything she can and sometimes its really hurtful with some of the things she says. my selfesteem lowered and my mental health is a lot worse now and she just doesnt see it. i feel like my life is jyust what she tells me to do and when she demands. she has 5 kids including myself and even yet until my dad gets home from work i feel like i perent them. i clean, cook and give her money when she wants it for anythig. she ows me alot and just wont give it back and now i still buy things for my younger siblings when they need it becauxe shes always to broke to buy them anything. shes not physically violent often but she can say something and screams iver nothing all the time. my dads a really sweet guy andf has always supported my descision on moving out but ive really had enpugh of my mother. she only needs me when she wants something otherwise im just anothher person. i really need help because idk who to go to and where to look to move out, preferably soon aswell. if anyone has any suggestions or help i would love to here them

Livy What should I do if I really don't want to go to school anymore?
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I'm a year 10 student who has recently moved to a new school after being bullied at my last. I made that choice in hope of getting better attendance and it has not worked. I feel as though it doesn't matter what school I attend I'll always carry the ... View more

I'm a year 10 student who has recently moved to a new school after being bullied at my last. I made that choice in hope of getting better attendance and it has not worked. I feel as though it doesn't matter what school I attend I'll always carry the burden of not fitting in and breaking down before school, I simply feel out of options of what to do next. I want to go to school but I just can't. I don't particularly want to drop out as I fear that would disappoint my parents and my bf im a girl who really wants to do well in life but after having those experiences at my last school I have never been able to find the motivation to put in any effort into my schooling. Not to mention im failing year 10 as of my attendance.

User- Feeling like I’m still a teenager at 20.
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Hi, I’m 20 about to be 21 and, I’m still living at home with my parents. Not that anything is wrong with that for people to do, but, I’ve been wanting to move out since I was 18, and then all of a sudden I turn 18, I couldn’t walk for like 8 months. ... View more

Hi, I’m 20 about to be 21 and, I’m still living at home with my parents. Not that anything is wrong with that for people to do, but, I’ve been wanting to move out since I was 18, and then all of a sudden I turn 18, I couldn’t walk for like 8 months. I didn’t know what was wrong with me. I got diagnosed with a disorder where your body shuts down because your brain takes over to try and protect you by giving you very real feeling symptoms of weakness, sharp pains, shaking, etc, it’s called fnd. I’ve been re-learning how to walk, stand, run and just do everything I would’ve normally done before all of this. Due to not being able to move for a long time or get a job, meet new people, play sport or make friends, it has impacted me mentally triple time. I’ve never had a good relationship with my parents either so, it made it much more difficult for me to get back to normality. This started late 2022 and now it’s 2025, since then I have made tremendous progress and I’m basically doing everything I wanted to do again! The only thing now being getting back into work, however, in the meantime I have had SO much more mental buildup from listening to, and being in arguments with my parents, and all of this whilst I recently stopped being friends with my friend of 8 years. She was my big support in getting through all of this and throughout all of high school and just everything to do with keeping me somewhat sane with my parents. I’ve been keeping it all in this year because i barely ever saw her due to her not making an effort to want to see me anymore. So naturally all of this built up inside me and I became so incredibly stressed dealing with that situation and my parents at the same time. My thoughts are sO loud at this period of time and my parents are triggering me a lot and it seems like the progress I made with everything seems to go backwards a bit because of the way they talk about things to do with health. My brain ends up freaking out and then all of a sudden I have “symptoms” in my body. My thoughts are just a load of you need to move out, you need to get a job, you need to go out more, you need to prioritise your health. But I’m stuck in waiting periods, for me to get into a job, to go out and move out I need the money from the job, and to prioritise my health I need to be out of the environment that keeps on triggering it. I’m in an endless loop of thoughts as I’m not able to hurry many things along at this time and it’s all to escape my parents.

Guest_59073492 I don’t know what to do
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Hello, I’m aged 12 and I’m unsure what to do about my current situation. I’ve been slightly depressed lately, crying mainly every day and I’m thinking about self harm. I can’t trust much people and I’ve only told two people about this situation, none... View more

Hello, I’m aged 12 and I’m unsure what to do about my current situation. I’ve been slightly depressed lately, crying mainly every day and I’m thinking about self harm. I can’t trust much people and I’ve only told two people about this situation, none of them can help. If I tell my parents they’ll get worried. Im also suffering from AFRID. Im not sure if it is that yet, I’ve diagnosed myself. My mother is starting to notice and I don’t want anyone to know.Please help me through this

Spud Friend came out as bi and I don't know how to feel now as I am secretly in love with her
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I am male. I have known this girl for five years. When I first met her I knew there was something special and I have secretly been in love with her since then but we can't be together due to professional reasons. I know too she has had feelings for m... View more

I am male. I have known this girl for five years. When I first met her I knew there was something special and I have secretly been in love with her since then but we can't be together due to professional reasons. I know too she has had feelings for me as well and it is very obvious. We were apart last year but reunited this year. Things have been really great until this month. A few days ago she sprung on me that she thinks she might be a lesbian which I thought she was joking but then she changed that to being bi. To be honest I was a little heartbroken about it. I know it isn't about me but I said I support her and that I will always be there for her which she was appreciative of. I said I feel quite special that she told me. She hasn't told her family or other friends but me. I said this is a big thing, she responded that she doesn't think so. I asked her how long has she felt like this, she said just this month. I don't know if this is just a moment of self discovery or whatever, I haven't seen any signs, it just caught me really off guard. I don't know now if she really had any feelings for me and it might of just been me. But I think this has really changed things between us as I don't think she sees me in anyway more than a friend now as her focus has shifted to the same sex. She always use to sign off with the xo etc but that's died off.

Anonymous_ i’m lost
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hi i’m new to this so it’s a bit scary but i thought i’d try something new as i’m 19 and have been in therapy and on medication for over a year now and i still feel so lost. i feel as if i’m losing time due to having social anxiety disorder and inatt... View more

hi i’m new to this so it’s a bit scary but i thought i’d try something new as i’m 19 and have been in therapy and on medication for over a year now and i still feel so lost. i feel as if i’m losing time due to having social anxiety disorder and inattentive-adhd because of how behind i have come in life. i graduate 2 years ago and didn’t go for an atar since i’m not very smart and i never went to uni or tafe and have never had a job and i don’t have my license. all i’ve ever wanted since i was a kid was to be skinny and popular and excel at something anything but that never happened and now i am stuck in grieving something that didn’t happened. does anyone have any advice on how to move forward in life and stop feeling so bad for and about myself. thank you

Guest_25903719 Over it
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i’m a 17-year-old, obviously this is a hard time for people my age as well for many reasons; I’m fresh in year 12, i have to worry about my future, and work. Its to much to ask of me, i constantly try my best yet i still fail. I am so grateful for th... View more

i’m a 17-year-old, obviously this is a hard time for people my age as well for many reasons; I’m fresh in year 12, i have to worry about my future, and work. Its to much to ask of me, i constantly try my best yet i still fail. I am so grateful for the home i was raised in and how i was raised, but sometimes parents need to get out of their ways and think about how their children, a teenager, ME, would feel. I constantly get yelled at for little things and things i didn't even do, but of course my little sister is a star, i get blamed for everything, i always get snarky comments from everyone that aren't needed. It feels like I have no where to go, i’m constantly crowded with expectations that i cant live up to, yet if i don't i'm a failure. I just cant do this anymore, i have no space in which i can just stop. I feel so alone but full of everything and everyone at the same time. I just seriously cant do this anymore, i have trued everything, i went to therapy but its to expensive, the school doesn't help, so this is my last resort. I try talking to my parents but they don't even acknowledge that i’m there, they are busy with everything else. I feel so ungrateful because i know people’s situations are worse then mine, but i have been struggling for so long in silence. I Cant Do It Anymore…I try and try and try again but i just keep failing, this is now affecting my performance, which of course makes everything worse. I was recently ill, and all it was, was that im not good enough, i did it to myself.. I love my parent's so much, its just there actions speak louder then their words. Emotional, physically, mentally, spiritually, all of them, i just cant keep doing this. Im so drained and exhausted. I don't know what else i'm meant to do. I don't have that much to write because i cant explain the whole pool of emotions that I'm feeling, it’s to much. I Cant Do This Anymore.

Guest_84022597 I hate school so much.
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I hate going to school sometimes. Every time I think or have any enthusiasm for school, it always goes wrong. I also have this one "friend" who isn't a friend keeps on insulting my looks and making me feel awful. I know I'm pretty though, but I just ... View more

I hate going to school sometimes. Every time I think or have any enthusiasm for school, it always goes wrong. I also have this one "friend" who isn't a friend keeps on insulting my looks and making me feel awful. I know I'm pretty though, but I just hate people insult my looks as if they aren't normal, like I have the most normal face, like average face you see at school. I hate school so much. That friend is NOT my friend no more.

abc_220 Want to drop uni but scared
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I am in my final year of uni. Unfortunately, I haven’t been interested in the possible career outcomes from my degree since second year but didn’t drop because I felt people would be disappointed if I did. Now I am in my final year and it’s all place... View more

I am in my final year of uni. Unfortunately, I haven’t been interested in the possible career outcomes from my degree since second year but didn’t drop because I felt people would be disappointed if I did. Now I am in my final year and it’s all placements. I failed my 11 weeks clinical placement and I’m really struggling with that. I didn’t get any feedback or any indication that I wouldn’t pass so I felt blind sided and my mental health really plummeted. I wanted to drop out then but was told by a uni supervisor that she was confident I would pass doing another two weeks in the clinic. So even though I went through the worst days of my life I studied hard and decided to give it another chance. I just finished that two weeks at the clinic and still have not passed even though I checked in with my supervisor constantly so I wouldn’t feel blindsided again, and I did everything they told me I needed to do to pass but apparently I need to go back for another two weeks to work on my self confidence. But how can I work on my confidence when every ounce of it has been ripped out of me. Also to mention the two more weeks would be in October. I can’t be anxious and feel awful everyday leading up to the two weeks to potentially not pass again. I don’t know how id get through that. I know it’s ’only Two weeks’ and should try again but I have tried again and done the extra two weeks but now need to do longer. I’ve been told all placement that there are no jobs/very hard to get employment and heard from students who’ve graduated before me still have no jobs. I’ve also been told by supervisors that they regret doing this degree and wish they did something else. Why put myself through this if I don’t want to work in this field but even if I did would struggle gaining employment/ be taken advantage of (which is what we’ve also been told- new grads get taken advantage of and do shit work getting shit money) So I’m struggling with the idea of going back because I’m embarrassed that I’m not good enough and anxious over the idea of facing these uni people again (when they told me I still haven’t passed the second time over video I was crying hysterically and couldn’t breath because I went in to the meeting thinking I passed) but also have no passion or desire to use this degree to work in the related field. I don’t want to go back but I’m terrified of making this decision and would do anything to not have to go through this. I know it sounds like nothing, but I can’t face being told I didn’t pass again, I don’t know if I would get through it. I’m also scared of what my family and friends will say if I drop or defer. I’m thinking of finishing this other degree I started instead because I only have a year left and there’s actually jobs that pay good. I just feel stuck and hopeless and don’t want to face making this decision but I have two weeks to decide.

displayname456 Does anyone else feel like there's nothing? What have you found happiness in?
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I'm 18. Never been invited to a party, never really had any friends, embarrassed myself a lot when I was younger. I don't have any dreams, I don't get good grades, I don't have a life, I don't have any hobbies, I don't have anything that brings me jo... View more

I'm 18. Never been invited to a party, never really had any friends, embarrassed myself a lot when I was younger. I don't have any dreams, I don't get good grades, I don't have a life, I don't have any hobbies, I don't have anything that brings me joy. My parents just want me to study all day so I can't do a whole lot anyway. I kind of just exist. I have a few friends but we aren't close. I feel like a lot of people think I'm weird because I've never drunk or done drugs or dated before as well. I'm not introverted, I'm a bit extroverted in fact, but I'm a little bit autistic probably, and some people find me offputting. I'm also a bit ugly, though I don't think that should be a huge problem, it just doesn't help. Yeah that's it though. I just exist and have no hopes and dreams. My ATAR is gonna be shit. I did terribly in a bunch of tests which ruin all my good results. I just feel like my life has been kind of pointless and I just don't care about anything anymore. There only thing I want to do that I'm good at is write for television but I won't make it because of nepotism and living in this country and my parents would not support me and I am financially dependant on them so I obviously cannot pursue this. Anyone else feel like this? Anyone who felt like this in the past - what made you feel joy again?