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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

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cantdothis Rant about my life in university <3
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I started university and I have met so many people but I just am struggling to connect with anybody on a deeper level. I'm not actually friends with any of these people. I know these people but I don't KNOW them. AT THE SAME TIME, I'm realising I mad... View more

I started university and I have met so many people but I just am struggling to connect with anybody on a deeper level. I'm not actually friends with any of these people. I know these people but I don't KNOW them. AT THE SAME TIME, I'm realising I made NO highschool friends, but it seems i'm gradually drifting from all of those too. How the hell is this possible? I get FOMO so bad now. I don't get invited to group stuff anymore. What even happened in my life to screw up so bad that nobody wants to be friends with me. The issue isn't that I'm not meeting people because I'm meeting people. God, I feel so fucking lonely. I feel so lonely and I don't think anybody cares how I feel. And recently, it feels like my best friend has stood me up twice even though it's probably just miscommunication but I'm just upset. I'm upset because I'm already alone but now I can't even rely on my best friend. I can't rely on anybody and I am by myself and alone and I am alone. I went out the other day, great stuff, and I came home and I just don't even feel happy. I don't even feel happy when I go out. I run so I can forget about stuff. The only time I feel good is when I'm dancing to really loud music in my room or when I'm drunk. Thank god I live with my parents because otherwise I would be drinking and going out for runs at night. Bless my parents. I just don't understand why it feels like nobody cares about me and if anybody would stop to check in on me and see how I was doing I would really appreciate it. I didn't even have that many friends in highschool either. I went out w/a guy and that has made it even worse because i'll think about him whenever my life is shit and then i'll get even more sad. the worst part is if my social life sucks, my work and grades should be good right? no. somehow all aspects of my life are going shit right now. I'm grateful for everything I have (my parents, a roof over my head, my sister, food) but god. GOD. I literally cannot do this anymore. I just gotta get used to having no friends because this is some real world shit but HOW is my friend making ten times the amount of friends I am. HOW am i losing all my friends. I am alone and I want to cry but I can't even cry so it's just a hollow pit in my stomach. And don't give me no optimistic bs because i've already heard it. I don't care. Worse bc my problems are small compared to other shit. no, i dont have rent, bills. I gotta suck it up and stfu.

Illyana_333 I dont know how people do this.
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I'm in year 10 of high school and honestly don't know how I'm gonna keep doing this for the rest of my life. Getting out of bed every day just to go to school where i get constantly bullied and always feel judged is killing me and I've got so much go... View more

I'm in year 10 of high school and honestly don't know how I'm gonna keep doing this for the rest of my life. Getting out of bed every day just to go to school where i get constantly bullied and always feel judged is killing me and I've got so much going on i cant be happy for anything. My dad despises me, my mum is so stressed with work that she yells for no reason, my dog is dying soon etc etc. (For added juicy context, i have diagnosed anxiety so that's fun) My dad also wants me to get a part time job on top of allat but hell no. I honestly feel like i need to be placed in a psych ward because i literally have no way of coping for this. And i cant even talk to my parents because my mum is so busy and my dad doesn't believe in anxiety or depression or anything like that. Maybe its my medication, but everything just feels so dull and i don't know how I'm gonna survive like this. All i want to do is go back to bed and never wake up tbh

Baam Specific Phobia Help
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Hi, I'm a 17 year old student (girl), going into year 12 next year. I'm not really sure where to start, so I'm just going to start rambling. While not officially diagnosed, I'm fairly sure I have a Specific Phobia (arachnophobia), as I have all the s... View more

Hi, I'm a 17 year old student (girl), going into year 12 next year. I'm not really sure where to start, so I'm just going to start rambling. While not officially diagnosed, I'm fairly sure I have a Specific Phobia (arachnophobia), as I have all the symptoms. It is limiting me. I am too afraid to go outside at night, my family are complaining that I never use the telescope they bought me, and don't really believe me when I tell them why. I really wish I could, but... Whenever I enter a room I have to check everywhere for any spiders, and if I see one I can not enter, no matter the size or distance (not so bad if it's a giant room, though). I have panic attacks when I get into a situation where I can't escape (lol when they're in between me and the door). It's ridiculous, I don't know why I'm afraid of them, I just am. I really, really wish I weren't. I feel faint whenever I come near a spider, and it gets worse if I can't get out the situation until I fall into a panic attack. I'm terrified it's going to happen at school - it nearly did once but I got away haha. The thing is, I've heard of the treatment things that work (the CBT thing), but I can't really trust anyone enough to ask. Whenever I've told anyone (best friends or whatever), all that results is them making fun of me for a few weeks until they get bored (pretending there's spiders on me or whatever). I feel like arachnophobia is just something no one believes is actually real. My family would never believe that it's actually serious, even mum who witnessed one of my panic attacks I think thinks I am exaggerating this. So how do I get rid of this stupid anxiety disorder thing, if I can't even trust anyone to take me seriously? P.S. anyone else with arachnophobia experienced being in the middle of a shower and a spider 'attacking'? xD!

Guest_69224151 cool about it!
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I don’t really like my friends at school. They keep running away from me and ignoring me/ running away from me. When I write this down it sounds so childish but it really affects me and I don’t know why they did that. One girl is so incredibly condes... View more

I don’t really like my friends at school. They keep running away from me and ignoring me/ running away from me. When I write this down it sounds so childish but it really affects me and I don’t know why they did that. One girl is so incredibly condescending and thinks she is better than everyone and is always trying to find something to make fun of me for. Another girl has pretty much stopped talking to me bc we don’t have any classes together any more. And the last one is kinda weird. Ik she has a lot going on but she’s not getting the help she needs. And she’s hard to be around bc she’s really negative and always apologises. I get why she’s like that but I’m like girl if things are that bad you need to reach out. Idk if this is stupid it’s just frustrating.

Guest_09831874 Really big issue !!!
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My brother is living with me for the moment but he's homeless. I need him out of my house as he's having a big issue with alcohol and I have a young child in the house. He does not have a job, he has no place to go and I need him out. He does not lis... View more

My brother is living with me for the moment but he's homeless. I need him out of my house as he's having a big issue with alcohol and I have a young child in the house. He does not have a job, he has no place to go and I need him out. He does not listen to me at all and wants to do things on his own terms which doesn't work for me because I don't like having the alcohol or a drunk person in my home and around my child. What can I do ? Who do I talk to? How do I get him in his own place even though he has no job? Someone help

kingzen69 Lonely. Self-Help. Sad. Therapy.
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Hey y'all, I'm 23, and I have been lonely and sad for a while now. I live with my mates and their partner, and it sucks most days I just end up being alone. I don't really know anyone in this new city I live in, having been here for nearly two years.... View more

Hey y'all, I'm 23, and I have been lonely and sad for a while now. I live with my mates and their partner, and it sucks most days I just end up being alone. I don't really know anyone in this new city I live in, having been here for nearly two years. All I really know here are my mates, so I kinda just feel like I'm doing stuff solo. Aside from that, it's also just life stuff in general and all the expectations of relationships, careers etc. Being close to 25, I just feel like there's a milestone or something expected of me somewhat. Maybe I'm just overthinking it, I don't know... It's weird, I never thought I'd be listening to podcasts and audiobooks, and watching videos about self-help and self-development, or even start writing about my day or feelings on a daily journal. But I have been, and I'm trying to work on myself, and sometimes it seems like it's such a slow progression. All the self-help and self-development really does help, and I do recommend it. I realised it's help me with managing my overthinking and feelings of anxiety and stress in my life right now. There's a lot I want to let out, because I don't talk about my feelings well. Just to conclude, I'm thinking of starting therapy. It's my first time and I don't know how to approach it. I don't really know what the process is like. I don't know how much I would be spending in sessions and how effective these sessions are. If anyone is able to help out, I'm all ears and thank you. For the past couple of years, I've been thinking of going. But I just didn't want my family, and friends to know that I'm doing therapy. I guess I just don't want them to ask questions and treat me or talk to me differently like I'm unwell and stuff. Thanks

natasha someone keeps lurking around my parents house like recently and I don’t know what to do
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I don’t know what to do lately someone has been lurking around the house for the past weekend and I’m just so paranoid I don’t know what to do my mother doesn’t really believe me I just keep hearing someone opening things and knocking I know it isn’t... View more

I don’t know what to do lately someone has been lurking around the house for the past weekend and I’m just so paranoid I don’t know what to do my mother doesn’t really believe me I just keep hearing someone opening things and knocking I know it isn’t my schizophrenia like someone is there and I just really don’t know what to do I’m so stressed out and really tired and all I can do is pray I can’t call the police because I don’t have proof and I have a dog he’s just dumb asf and he don’t know how to guard and like I feel like someone is gonna kill me when I’m asleep and I just can’t sleep with having thoughts like tho and actually dealing with something like this it isn’t the first time but eh when will it stop I haven’t done anything to deserve this all I can really do is pray but sometimes I feel like god isn’t on my side it’s like nearly 11pm and this person is still at it like before I use to have stalkers and they would stand at my parents backyard and watch me I just didn’t know it was gonna get kinda worse like I can’t even explain anything I’m scared for my life and my parents cus I can’t do anything bout it

Lia-v Lonely, tired, overwhelmed
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My name is Lia I’m in year 11 and have been struggling with school forever, last year I finally realised that the group of friends I had been with since preschool were actually bullying and excluding me. I would be sitting alone in silence the whole ... View more

My name is Lia I’m in year 11 and have been struggling with school forever, last year I finally realised that the group of friends I had been with since preschool were actually bullying and excluding me. I would be sitting alone in silence the whole day as every talked to anyone but me feeling worse and worse each day causing me to go to school less and less until my parents moved me to a different school half way through the year. Even after that I was still really struggling with going to school every day and I would be in the staff room crying almost every day. My parents decided it would be best for me to attend distance education instead this year, is was going ok at first until my grandparents decided to take over my learning and enforce strict schedules of what i was doing and when, they would call me several times a day to talk about school plans and would show up to my house to do things like clean my room or take me to lunch every other day it was fine at first but it kept on escalating until my grandmother dropped me off at the distance education campus one day and dragged me out of the car as I was crying from anxiety and dragged me to the classroom as the entire school and my whole class watch me cry. I told my parents that I didn’t want my grandparents help anymore but they said that if they didn’t help then they new I couldn’t do it myself and they were both to busy with work to make sure that I was on track and said that I didn’t have a choice even thought I now don’t like my grandparents and hate school and the idea of getting a job or doing anything in the future even more now my mum would always tell don’t worry it will be better next year for three years now, after it got worse then she just said sorry but this is how the real world works I feel like I’ve lost the support of both my friends and family in the span of two years I was just arguing with my mum about this and just wanted to post here to feel a bit better and know that others have seen it.

Pinkrose I feel lost and alone after accident
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Hey so I've never written on here for myself before but I'm just really feeling lost and alone right now. I'm 21 years old female and was working until I had a pretty sever car accident about a year ago which rendered me unable to go back to work unt... View more

Hey so I've never written on here for myself before but I'm just really feeling lost and alone right now. I'm 21 years old female and was working until I had a pretty sever car accident about a year ago which rendered me unable to go back to work until I was well enough. At first they told me 1 month then 2 months then 4 etc and now we are here over a year later and I have just started back at work. I am struggling. I'm good at my job but it's overwhelming and still painful with my injuries and i am frustrated because I still can't do the hours I could before. I t feels like somone stole 1 year of my life and I'm so lost and don't know what to do. No one around me seems to understand how hard it is for me to go back to work when I've been down at home for so long. I just keep thinking about what my life would be like if I wasn't in that accident which I know is stupid to do but I can't help it. I feel lost and alone even though I have people physically around me. Anyway I don't know where I'm going with this or even if anyone will respond I guess I just wanted to talk about it somewhere. Thanks for taking the time to read if you did.

MARSHA Year 12
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Hi. I’ve been getting 50-60% on my assessments for term 1 I’m in year 12. I have gotten 30% in legal and 50% in English advanced, 40% in maths standard, 50% in modern history, 70% in biology for term 2. I really want an ATAR that is at least 80-90, a... View more

Hi. I’ve been getting 50-60% on my assessments for term 1 I’m in year 12. I have gotten 30% in legal and 50% in English advanced, 40% in maths standard, 50% in modern history, 70% in biology for term 2. I really want an ATAR that is at least 80-90, and I want to do criminology alongside with forensics. I do so many curricular activities at school so it’s been tough on me. I don’t think my goal for 80-90 ATAR is possibile anymore, and now I’m scared because I will end up being a disappointment at this rate