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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Feeling upset about results post hsc

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I’ve been crying nearly everyday about my atar since I got it. It’s not a bad atar and I got into the course I wanted but i still feel incomplete and so angry that it wasn’t what I wanted. I feel upset cause I knew I deserved it and at the same time I feel angry at myself for not studying enough. But the truth is I did study, I studied a lot I just lost a lot of my motivation and found it rlly hard to focus and was just so tired all of the time. And since I fell back in maths I couldn’t cope with the new topics that would build on the old ones. I would zone out in tutoring and class and would feel really stressed in tutoring because I thought I couldn’t understand. Recently I’ve been feeling really upset about this number. It wasn’t an atar above 90 but it was rlly close. And that’s what bloody stings. I’m trying to stay positive saying I’ll do better in uni but I’m finding it rlly hard too. If I do well in uni will it really matter that much? Everyone makes such a big deal about atar and everyone respects u if u get a good atar . But when u go to uni if u do well no one rlly cares apart from your employers. No one asks. So is it worth it?

lonely, sad and paranoid

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Sometimes I just feel so alone.It’s just my mum, dad and I. Although on my dads side there’s my grandma, but I don’t see her much anymore, we used to be reasonably close but now she lives in a dementia care home and she doesn’t remember much nor do her conversation make sense anymore. I don’t know my grandpa because he died before I was born.On my mum’s said there are my other grandparents who died when I was in the early years of primary school. They lived in America and so did my aunty and uncle so I never really saw them though. My family is quite small and sometimes I wish that i had a sibling or someone else. I wouldn’t exactly say I’m friends with my parents but I mean they’re my parents. I’m always getting into arguments with them and I always feel very defensive because if I do something wrong then most times they both scold me and I have no one to at least talk to. I find it’s hard and if I had a better relationship with my parents maybe it would be easier. I know it could be a whole lot worse. But so many times feel so alone. I can be triggered or get upset reasonably quickly and now days my parents may try once or twice to try and understand what’s going on but I always push them away. Deep down all I want is a hug and someone to talk to but when upset I always resort do sending them away and they don’t come back. I keep telling myself to stop but every time it’s the same: I push them away. They don’t come back. I cry until my eyes are dry or I dwell in my sorrows. And then, by then I have given up hope that they would come back to comfort me and I pick myself up and try to get on with my day. I know I not a perfect child and Im always upset with my parents but I still love them and I know it’s just my paranoia but I always have the same thought looming over my head and it’s that what if one day I get into a fight and then that is the last words I say to them. My parents had me at quite an old age. I’m 14 and they are in there late 50’s nearly going into their 60’s. I am constantly sacred that something will happen to them and that they won’t be there to see my life unfold, and that I need to do everything as soon as possible when I become an adult, like:get married, have kids so they can see it all happen. I’m scared that’s I’ll lose them. AndAnd everyday the weight crushes me more and more. I don’t know what to do.

I hate living with my in-laws

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Hi all, I’m stuck in a depressing situation and I can’t get out. I got married 5 yrs ago when I was 20 yrs old with my husband who was 24. I was expected to move in with my in-laws after marriage. I couldn’t wait to leave my parents house (their house is very extremely dirty and gross) they even had a pest control guy come in and say it’s the filthiest house he’s ever seen. There’s cockroach everywhere. Once I moved in with my in-laws they were okay but my brother in law was really annoying and pervy and he would start arguments with my husband and even bashed him once over a car tyre because he wanted it back after I paid him to buy it off him. Mind you we gave him the tyre next day and didn’t ask for the money. mind you my brother inlaw was around 40 yrs when my husband and I first got married. my husband and I moved out from my in laws last year and unfortunately due to the rise in cost of living we couldn’t afford to stay out. My BIL recently had gotten married and he had moved out. Then my MIL and FIL a asked us to move back in which we did. Once we moved in, my BIL and his wife told my MIL and FIL they were going to move in too! My BIL and his wife are horrible to live with. They curse us everyday (I hear him mumble that he hopes we lose our jobs and bust). Now the house is in chaos and my in laws and everyone is always arguing. I try to stay out of it but it really affects me mentally and emotionally. My BILs wife tries to compete with me all the time. either my BIL or FIL is always complaining about silly things like why my car is in the garage (when it’s parked outside on another street) or why the cutlery/ crockery is so bad (I bought most of the stuff they’re using). My FIL complains about why I cook inside and makes me cook outside which I follow his instructions. He makes it difficult for me to cook and when I buy take away he says it’s not good. My BIL and his wife try to suck up to my in laws and intervene within every conversation. I don’t want to live here anymore but we both work full time and still can’t afford to move out. I don’t know if I should just move in back with my parents and just deal with the cockroach problem.

I’m failing uni and I don’t know what to do

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Hi everyon! This is my first post here and i’m kinda nervous but I’m also extremely stressed. For years I thought I wanted to get into childcare, and this year I started my university course for it. I have always loved children and I’m always more than happy to help out with them. At first I was really enjoying the university course, however later in the year things got quite difficult. My boyfriend was diagnosed with cancer which was a huge shock and completely crushed me. My mother had a surgery with 6-12 week recovery time, which meant I really had to step up and help my dad and brother around the house. Caring for my boyfriend, helping my mum and trying to stay on top of the piles of uni work really got to me. I ended up going back into anti-anxiety meds and although both my boyfriend and mother are doing better now, I’m so far behind with uni. Technically I only have 3 days left to submit all my work, some which i haven’t started and I honestly don’t think I can do it. I’m starting to think childcare might not be my passion anymore, but I don’t know if that’s just because I feel so overwhelmed with everything. I don’t want to disappoint my parents or myself but I have never felt this unsure and overwhelmed before. any advice would be very appreciated thank you!

freaking out right now

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I'm writing here because I need to get stuff out there and don't know who to call and one way or another I'd slip up and just make everything so much worse for me. I'm going through a massive freakout and I don't know how I should even refer to it (mental breakdown? panic attack? anxiety attack?). I've been hit by this massive wave of negative thoughts and it's gotten so bad that I've been physically shaking and twitching (never experienced this before) and have been unable to go to sleep. All of them detailing my shortcomings as a friend, a worker, a creator, a person in general. My poor social skills, poor temper, thoughtlessness, carelessness, laziness, this, that, everything in between. All of my incompetencies, mistakes and examples of poor performance wrapped up into one meat, nauseating package. Even just writing this out I feel like garbage because I feel like whatever it is I'm going through or experiencing right now is just karma for all the things I've unwittingly done to people as a result of my idiocy. Furthermore I know there's people out there so much worse off than me and I feel as if I'm not doing anything that warrants sympathy in regards to that. I'm struggling to even articulate my thoughts at the moment because my brain is going 8000 miles an hour and it wants to slip something new into this post every half a second or so. Leaving it here. I just hope this is clear enough. I don't really know what I want to get out of this. I think I just need a little void to scream into right now

giving up

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Hi, I'm just here to vent. I have autism and ADHD and would like to be tested for depression so yeah, not a great start to life for me. As well as the fact that I don't really want a life anymore. I don't necessarily want to die I just want the pain to go away. I feel like during the day I can be so happy and everyone says I'm doing great and that I'm always so happy but I know it's a fake smile even though I really wish it wasn't. Then at night I just get hit with a wave of sadness but sometimes it's not even sadness it's just numb I feel so emotionless in the worst way possible. my whole life I've been taught to understand and know my emotions but this, this is just a lost, sad, angry... Numbness. I don't know what to do anymore I want to be happy, I really do but I can't. I tell all my friends and family that I'm happy. That I'm okay, but I just feel like I'm dying inside. Everything is just so hard. My whole body aches. Every mucel in my brain is telling to give up, begging me to give up. My mouth is screaming at me to stop smiling. The ocean of tears is threatening to pore out from behind my eyes. I just want to give up. Make the pain go away. I don't know... At this point I just don't know, I don't know what to do. I don't know who I am, I don't know how to be happy. I just don't know. Please if anyone feels like this please tell me I want to know I'm not alone. If you feel like this know that I will listen to you and not just listen I will actually hear you. I'm here for you. You're amazing! You've got this!

Is it possible to get high grades in school whilst doing a cert at Tafe and working two days a week?

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Hello Idk where else to ask this but I am wondering if it’s possible to get high grades in school whilst doing a cert at Tafe and whilst also working two days a week?

Is this normal?

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Hi, I’m 17 and currently working full time at a restaurant..i dropped out of school and all i really do is sleep all day. Any free time I get I just sleep through it..I hate living like this but im constantly tired and I can’t help it. It doesn’t matter how much sleep I get, im always tired.I have hobbies and things I could do like art, read or practice bass but I’m too tired for that too. I want to get up and do things, my dad thinks it’s just cause im a teenager but idk i wanna have more energy

Struggling with parents understanding

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Hi, I've recently been having some struggles with my parents, as a full time uni student I can find it difficult to get them to understand that a semester can be overwhelming and exhausting. My parents however want me to get another job but I find it difficult because the current job I have has flexible working hours and have a great relationship with my manager that allows me to make adjustment to my roster when uni is on. They just seem to think that I'm not getting enough hours but when I'm not at work I am doing uni work or trying to look after myself do things that fill my cup, it feels like my happiness or contentment is never enough but having to work full time, or in the industry I am studying will make me enough. It gives me a lot of stress and feels like anything I do is hopeless. When we get into arguments about it they don't understand the difficulty I face and how hard it is to find a job in the industry without any academic qualifications or they are casual work without any guarantee hours. Even when I say I'll try and I'll look they say that's not good enough which confuses me. This isn't the first time they do this and they go in cycles for when it seems okay to when its not, so I am constantly on edge and hoping they don't bring it up. I don't know how to make them understand why I won't get a new job, why volunteering is good option and why I need to do things that fill my cup.

Given up

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I have given up on life . Nothing matters anymore .

Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies replies: 51

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Feeling upset about results post hsc replies: 4

lonely, sad and paranoid replies: 1

I hate living with my in-laws replies: 1

I’m failing uni and I don’t know what to do replies: 1

freaking out right now replies: 1

giving up replies: 4

Is it possible to get high grades in school whilst doing a cert at Tafe and working two days a week? replies: 1

Is this normal? replies: 6

Struggling with parents understanding replies: 2

Given up replies: 6