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16, 175cm and 100-110kg

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Hello, My name is Connor. I’m 16 and I play basketball. I’m pretty gifted athletically (I think so anyway) as I am pretty fast for a fat guy (24km/h), but it’s not enough. I was separated from my mum due to physical abuse when I was 12 and ever since... View more

Hello, My name is Connor. I’m 16 and I play basketball. I’m pretty gifted athletically (I think so anyway) as I am pretty fast for a fat guy (24km/h), but it’s not enough. I was separated from my mum due to physical abuse when I was 12 and ever since then I’ve stayed with my nana. I was also fat since I was born, so yeah, that’s nice. In the recent years, I’ve been told I’ve become bitter, everytime I’ve tried to connect with my mum, it always ends terribly, as of writing this, just a few hours ago, I got into a physical altercation with her. I am now safe, but not mentally. My mum had called me fat and a loser all my life, ever since I was 10 ‘when I should be properly be able to take care of myself’ she always made fun of the fact I couldn’t run halfway don’t the street when I tried to run away one day. I constantly compare myself to other people at school, a lot of the boys I talk to are close to/are dunking, and basketball is everything to me, it’s how I made friends, how people respect me and I can’t get near dunking, because I’m fat. I’ve tried working out, I was 5 months consistent with just sheer forcing myself, but I can’t do it anymore. I had a knee injury and it got too hot (I live in South Australia) and I can’t even get out of my bed sometimes. People keep making me the punchline of their jokes, like the usual ‘pretend there is a earthquake when he is running’ then comparing me to popular fat people and fat fictional characters. I also have been rejected by girls for being fat, people talk down on me for my weight and height. It’s exhausting, I feel angry 24/7, I tried boxing, but my body couldn’t handle the output of my exertion because I was heavy, I try too hard when playing sports leading to injuries because of how heavy I am. I wear baggy shirts and pants 24/7, not matter the weather. My dad is nonexistent, he lives away from me in Northern Territory, and my nana just says ‘I used to be like this etc.’ when I ask for help.

Mental not great kinda at breaking point

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I dont know where to start but like im kinda cooked?? Im 16M about to begin year 12 and literally a week ago lost two (lets say one is S (female) and the other is A (male) of my 3 (lets call the remaining one K) close friends. I lost S because im a b... View more

I dont know where to start but like im kinda cooked?? Im 16M about to begin year 12 and literally a week ago lost two (lets say one is S (female) and the other is A (male) of my 3 (lets call the remaining one K) close friends. I lost S because im a bit of a dumb one, i like had a hugeee crush on her for the past 5 years and like its been a cycle of us getting close me confessing then her rejecting me and we distance and it restarts like this is already the 4th iteration of such an occurance. This time i was hoping to actually stop it by acknowledging that its probably not great for either of us for me to keep doing this and then keeping my distance from her (oh yeahh also i have very bad anxious attachment which i suspect came from 2023 when she lowk like lead me on for half a year then ghosted me for another half year but like we ignore that). I lost A because i found out what he has been doing. He has been going around and hitting on girls (borderline harrassment imo) and also he sent someone a suicide note in order to get her number???? I tried to like get him to understand that he shouldnt be doing these things but he kept deflecting and keeps saying hes being misunderstood and that hes not harrassing girls even when he sends them videos saying their hair looks really nice and when he gets left on seen he keeps going. I dont know, also sorry if this like rant thing is disorganised its 3 am ive been lying in bed with a sensation of my heart being twisted for the past 4 hours i dont know bruh. Anyways i should get back on track, so thats why i lost him. Why this is important though is that each of my close friends had a role within my life, like S would be who i talked with normally and A would be who i ranted with about my love life, but after both of them are gone i havent got any role fillers... tbh ive just been asking chatgpt for help and i dont think thats too good so thats why im here. This alone wouldnt be that bad thooo, its the fact that im worried about my physical health (my family has a history of like gout diabetes brain issues), my love life (its been pretty difficult getting over S while im anxiously attached and shes currently in a talking stage atm) and the fact that im starting year 12 (bio, chem, physics, methods ,english language and my parents wont pay for university if i get anything less than a 95 atar... oh yeah im also moving sometime near the middle of the year and im horribly lonely.again im sorry for the disorganisation

Hopelessness & Self - Hatred

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Hi everyone, I've had really bad anxiety for almost 3 to 4 years, particularly social anxiety, which began around the end of high school. Whilst, I have struggled with this for a while, I feel that recently this has contributed to me feeling depresse... View more

Hi everyone, I've had really bad anxiety for almost 3 to 4 years, particularly social anxiety, which began around the end of high school. Whilst, I have struggled with this for a while, I feel that recently this has contributed to me feeling depressed. Despite my anxiety during high school, I still had optimism about the future and my life after high school. Since finishing, however, I've lost all hope whatsoever and I just feel worthless. I haven't made any new friends, have become a borderline alcoholic, sleep in almost everyday until 1pm, spending most of my time watching tv or listening to music to distract myself from how bad I feel. My anxiety more recently has also forced me to take a break from uni, as I would either skip classes or have a complete mental breakdown from being around so many new people. Whilst I felt I had to take a break from uni because I wasn't coping, I feel that this has actually made me more depressed as I have become more isolated. I now have developed a sense of hopelessness, where I genuinely don't believe that I'm every going to meet any new people or not worry about things constantly to the point of mental exhaustion because of my anxiety. Without my best friend, who is pretty much the only good thing in my life and my family, I think I would have already ended it all. Would love to hear from anyone,Noons

Tired Of Life

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Hello, my name is Steven im 24 & on the cusp about seeing life for what it is or just the old aww your just depressed so & so as most individuals would probably go along with just to put a label on you. Everyday when i wake up, the first thought's th... View more

Hello, my name is Steven im 24 & on the cusp about seeing life for what it is or just the old aww your just depressed so & so as most individuals would probably go along with just to put a label on you. Everyday when i wake up, the first thought's that come to mind are "oh great another pointless day again" gotta get ready, gotta hygienise myself, gotta eat/drink, gotta play dress up, gotta drive all the way to work & when I get to work, i gotta pretend that im a yes man to work in order to keep it, & make constant small talk all the time to avoid being excluded & risk of job loss. Seriously why are we forced to jump thru so many hoops just to have a decent simple life, life just is but not to sound biased tho it seems humans just make it more harder. i always hear people constantly boasting on radio, on billboards, on television, in groups, sign's of saying "look up & live" look up to the future. I just get so sick & fed up of acting like all of this is normal & aww thats just life so quit complaing & deal with it, like what so wrong with saying life today is not okay when it isnt. Yes we might have the sky, the clouds, the oceans, nature, wildlife, food & water, make life for what you make of it as ive been told thru out my life, but are we really living? Is going to a job you hate everyday just to make ends meet living or just surviving as usual, as thats what kind of seems to be with the majority & if you dont want to participate you get threatened of not having income & a way of means of not providing for yourself. All im saying is life could be better for all, instead alot of folks just wanna extract & reap resources for themselves while the others live with scraps & get paid penny's on the dollar, worrying all the time how am I gonna pay for my mortgage or rent, or utilities, provide for my offspring. As negative as this sounds which probably does depending on the person, how else am I supposed to explain without hurting anybody's feelings, i can't just keep on tiptoeing for the rest of my life pretending everything's okay all the time because its not. If everybody was so content & thankful for their roles, then why are they still unhappy, then they want to bring somebody here & have them go thru the same thing just to keep them company & not have a care in the world what he or she would experience in this life because as long as they're getting what they want, to hell with them. For instance i hear parents saying i want to give my young ones a brighter future, I dont them to suffer like I did. Please make it make sense, because not of this really does.

How do you cope with the worry of never being able to buy your own home or live without a housemate?

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My lease ends in the new year and I've been trying so save as much as I can to get a house deposit with my partner, but no matter how much I save the price keeps going up and now I may need to find a new rental as well because they could be selling. ... View more

My lease ends in the new year and I've been trying so save as much as I can to get a house deposit with my partner, but no matter how much I save the price keeps going up and now I may need to find a new rental as well because they could be selling. I'm just feeling very overwhelmed and stressed that I'll never get to that next chapter in my life and that i could possibly be bringing my partner down too due to my income.

wanting to cut off a friendship

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Hi,I am turning 17 this year, and I have a best friend who we can call M. M is the same age as me and we have been friends for 6 years at this point. But recently the start of the year, I feel as though I don't want to be as close friends with her. T... View more

Hi,I am turning 17 this year, and I have a best friend who we can call M. M is the same age as me and we have been friends for 6 years at this point. But recently the start of the year, I feel as though I don't want to be as close friends with her. This is due to three main reasons. 1. She had a habit since we were in year 7 to copy off me. This escalated into her straight up asking me to make her cheatsheets in math instead of helping and submitting my english homework as her own. 2. I understand she is going through a hard time currently and struggling with her mental health. I don't know if she means to be hurtful to me but sometimes it feels as though she is trying to embarrass me. She vents a lot and I vented to, and we have never told anyone what we told each other which I appreciate and respect. She genuinely just doesn't listen to advice I give her sometimes, I would tell her that she should try a different approach or maybe be wary of this person.3. She invites herself to plans I make with others. It genuinely has reached a point where I don't want to tell her I hung out with other friends because she'll jokingly asked why she wasn't invited and whatnot and make a deal out of it, or if she does invite herself, she changes the plans to match what she has in mind.BUT I am no better. While some situations I have communicated that she should stop doing this, it takes another three times for her to actually listen. I think I brought up stepping back slightly in our friendship in the past, but that never really changed anything. I'm tired of communicating, and I will acknowledge that makes me a bad friend because if I really cared about this friendship I would communicate. I also am friends with somebody who I told M I was mad at because this friend ignored me but apologised and now we are friends again, which is fake of me. I also vented to a friend about this (I will call them E), I was crying over the phone. The whole reason I started venting is because E off-handedly said that M was talking to her and said "Oh trust me you don't want (me) in your english class." Then followed up with a joke reason. I don't know why I started crying but I told E that I helped M so much in english it hurt to hear that. But I still shouldn't have vented because Iooking back I feel like I have no right to vent because I am just as bad as M.I really need advice on what to do because I have a year of highschool with M left and am wondering if its worth worrying over.

I didn’t get in to my dream high school and now I feel lost

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About three weeks ago I tried out for a school volleyball team at this school you do four periods a day and two of said periods are your sport of choice practice being a slightly alternative way of learning it is also the only one of its kind in my c... View more

About three weeks ago I tried out for a school volleyball team at this school you do four periods a day and two of said periods are your sport of choice practice being a slightly alternative way of learning it is also the only one of its kind in my country/state literally . I’ve been doing volleyball for about a year now and it’s safe to say I don’t know who I would be without it the school I’m at currently is somewhere I feel I don’t belong, I have dealt with countless other issues surrounding friendships and mental health I’ve spent two years at this school and I knew I wanted out my parents found the school I tried out for and suddenly it felt like all the work I did to keep my grades above the expectations and my absences as low as possible through the last two terms would finally amount to something it felt like there was a light at the end of the tunnel after two years of barely being able to be at school because of anxiety I had finally worked hard enough that I could make into my dream school. Then came the trial I worked so hard the weeks before that with how anxious I felt my whole body tensed up the same feeling you would get after pushing your body too far in the gym it hurt to sit up in bed. Finally after a week of pain my body had calmed down just in time for the trial still sore but 100 times better no matter what angle I look at it and over think it again and again I can’t find anything that could have given the school a reason to reject me there was only four other people trying out and I couldn’t think of anything I did terribly wrong I’m saying this as someone who is very hard on themselves and pushes to go above and beyond I don’t think I made it that far at the trial but I know I was not far enough off the only thing me and my family could think of was that it was my absences from the year before and semester one, and I’m angry and upset as we tried to give them recommendation letters for this very reason so it hopefully would be a problem but the school didn’t want them. it’s been three weeks since the Friday I found out the news and to be honest I fell into what feels like a depressive episode and the only thing I’ve been able to do is push down the though I didn’t get in to my dream school every time it comes up I know this is no way to help myself but it’s all I’ve been able to do recently It felt like I had lost all direction I’m not one to let go of something once I’ve grasped it once so I’ve stood my ground with my parents and I’m going to email the school and ask why I didn’t make the cut I don’t plan on begging I just need it for me this is what my councillor recommended to do if I felt I needed it I don’t know if ill be able to let go and if I will be happy at whatever school and end up o still feel a loss of direction. (please forgive the lack of punctuation and spelling mistakes aswell as the poorly explained rant? lol ) thank you six

How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?

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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

Letting a Favoruite teacher know about my mental health

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I'm in highschool, yeah 9 to be exact. I have a bad habit of staying home from school even if i dont actually want to, but im a great student. And, I have a favourite teacher. I dont think he knows he matters to me as much as he does though. For sake... View more

I'm in highschool, yeah 9 to be exact. I have a bad habit of staying home from school even if i dont actually want to, but im a great student. And, I have a favourite teacher. I dont think he knows he matters to me as much as he does though. For sake of not using his proper name I'll call him just Mr. P. He isnt aware of it, but his attitude and confidence helped me get through tough spots in my personal life and helped me be more confident. I dont have a father, and he's the closest thing I have to one.But today I've hit a blunt stop. I was crying, and my mother made it worse, now it's turned into something worse than a mental breakdown, and she isnt making it any better. I want to email him to ask for advice or even just to let him know why im not there again. In parent teacher interviews all Mr. P left me with, improvement wise, was that he wanted to teach me more, hence why I feel so bad about staying home this much, it irks me.But I dont know how to reach out to him without either A: weirding him out, B: worrying him when he wasnt prepare for it, or C: seeming like an attention seeker. Can someone help me? I wanna be more confident to reach out when I know I need it. And, is it weird to be as attached to him as I am?

Need support/ someone to talk to

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I’m really struggling with depression and I keep on getting thoughts to hurt myself. I’m not sure what to do. I have been self harm free for 2 days! My parents aren’t listening to me and see me as the problem. I’m so done.

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