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Sophie_M How are you feeling about the social media restrictions in Australia for under 16s?
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Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are f... View more

Hey everyone With the upcoming Australian social media restriction for under 16-year-olds coming up we want to know what this means for you and maybe even the young people in your life. This conversation is a place for all of us to share how we are feeling and what we think the challenges and benefits might be for you or the wonderful young people in our community. Have you thought about how to stay connected with friends you’ve met online? Are you focused mostly on the positives, or the negatives? What do your parents think, and what could they do to support you? Importantly the Beyond Blue Forums are not impacted by these restrictions, we're here for anyone under 16. In short, from December 10 Social Media companies will need to ensure that only people over 16 actively engage with their platforms. There is a lot of information out there which can make it tricky to know what to expect on when it comes into effect. To learn more we think these are a helpful place to start eSafety commissioner + Headspace FAQs. We know this change will impact some more than others, QLife provide anonymous and free LGBTIQ+ support and 13YARN are here for all Aboriginal & Torres Strait Islander people. We want to hear your thoughts on how this might impact the mental health of under 16s in both a positive and negative way. The Beyond Blue Forums are a place for constructive and helpful conversation and the regular moderation rules apply which means we look forward to a kind and understanding discussion. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings Sophie M

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Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with tho... View more

Hey there! Welcome to the Young People section of the Beyond Blue Forums. The purpose of this section is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss life issues, tricky situations and the difficult emotions and feelings that come with those. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this is a space for younger people to connect and provide support for each other. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straight away. Information on moderation on the Forums can be found here. Being familiar with our Community Guidelines can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. If we have concerns about your wellbeing, one of our friendly moderators will check in with you privately to make sure you get the support you need. If you need more immediate support, we recommend reaching out to the following: Beyond Blue Support Service – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1300 22 4636 Headspace – between 9am and 1am (AEST), chat online to a mental health clinician or call 1800 650 890 Kids Helpline – any time, chat online to a counsellor or call 1800 55 1800 Thank you for being here. We’re glad you’ve found us here and hope this can be a supportive space for you Beyond Blue

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Holly8991 Premenstrual dysphoric disorder
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Hi guys, im new here, I don’t have anyone I feel like I can talk to atm, but my PMDD really effects me, I get really irritable and sad and suicidal sometimes, I’m on medication for dysthymia and also on the pill, but when it’s my time of the month I ... View more

Hi guys, im new here, I don’t have anyone I feel like I can talk to atm, but my PMDD really effects me, I get really irritable and sad and suicidal sometimes, I’m on medication for dysthymia and also on the pill, but when it’s my time of the month I still get the PMDD symptoms, has anyone ever had this before? I am seeing my dr soon but wondering if anyone has the same issue as me?

01Ellie10 hi ;)
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Hi guys I'm new here, I spend most time listening to despicable me. If you have depression I SUPER reccomend you listen to it on repeat all day and all night. Hope this helps

Hi guys I'm new here, I spend most time listening to despicable me. If you have depression I SUPER reccomend you listen to it on repeat all day and all night. Hope this helps

Guest_10102 I dont know
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Hi this is my first time posting so I don't really know what to write or how to put things into words but I'm trying. Just like with everything else in my life, I'm trying to stay afloat with everything that i have going on and I don't usually do thi... View more

Hi this is my first time posting so I don't really know what to write or how to put things into words but I'm trying. Just like with everything else in my life, I'm trying to stay afloat with everything that i have going on and I don't usually do this and reach out but lately it feels like I have no one. My grandma is terminally ill and my mum is also terminally ill and has a terminal injury that effects everything in her life. I just feel lost and numb. It feels as if the world is against me. My family is falling apart and it's breaking my heart, I want to fix it but I can't. My mind won't stop between depression, anxiety and the constant feeling of needing to be okay for everyone else. I'm only 23 and I know there are millions more people out there that have it worse than I do but I just dont know what to do anymore. As of lately I've been thinking what the world and my family would be like if I wasn't here anymore and anytime i try to speak to my family about it, they stop me then tell me their problems and it makes me feel as if my problems aren't bad enough to be validated. I just want to be heard and feel okay. Everything lately has been going wrong and it's like nothing will ever be right and I'm always told I dont do this or that right or I should do it this way or I shouldn't talk to family about my issues I need to talk to a professional when all I want is to talk to my family and have their support which I know some people dont even get that option of speaking to their family. I'm scared to call a mental health line because I don't want to bother anyone and my problems aren't nearly as bad as some. I can't be alone as of lately otherwise I get in my own head and I have a history of self harm and an ED but when I'm with people to not be alone I can't talk about my feelings or I can't be in physical or emotional pain because *your pain isnt that bad compared to others*. It's something that I always get told and I just dont know what to do anymore. Anytime I talk about something that's wrong my family tell me I need to go to a mental hospital instead of just listening to what I have to say. I feel like I have no one on my side and I'm in a dark room with no one in sight. I'm just really struggling and hoping that getting this out will help me and hopefully others that feel the same way to know that your not alone. I'm sorry that it's such a long story, it's the only time I've been able to express myself and I haven't even gone over half of what's going on in reality and in my head..

ChukPuk Nothing makes SENSE
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I’m a 23 year old and I feel like nothing makes sense. I’m having issues with focusing, concentrating and I think I have adhd. When people talk to me or say something, it doesn’t make any sense to me and I struggle to keep the conversation going. All... View more

I’m a 23 year old and I feel like nothing makes sense. I’m having issues with focusing, concentrating and I think I have adhd. When people talk to me or say something, it doesn’t make any sense to me and I struggle to keep the conversation going. All I do during conversations is nod with a smile and just a yes or no. Hence I don’t like talking to people and like to be alone most of the time. But then again when I’m alone, I question myself like why am I not like the others? Why am I not talkative? Why is it so hard for me to build relationships with people? (Well I know it’s cause I rarely talk and you need to talk to build relationships) but talking is hard when you have nothing to say. My mind is blank most of the time and during conversations with people, I feel so awkward, I have nothing to say, and want to get out of the situation immediately cause I hate the feeling. I feel anxious most of the time when I’m with people talking cause when they are talking, it doesn’t make sense to me and I don’t know what to say as a reply so all I do is nod and smile which I feel is so dumb and I can’t keep the conversation going. Is it just me?

kittyclaws23 How to drift away from certain friends
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Hello, this is my first time posting so bear with me please ヾ(ﾟдﾟ)ﾉ゛ Since the school holidays are almost up and I'm starting year 11, I find myself realising that a certain group of friends that I hang out with aren't really a good influence on me. ... View more

Hello, this is my first time posting so bear with me please ヾ(ﾟдﾟ)ﾉ゛ Since the school holidays are almost up and I'm starting year 11, I find myself realising that a certain group of friends that I hang out with aren't really a good influence on me. Admittedly, I did have an argument with one of the members, but it was over something really petty and they haven't really seemed to let go of it, I heard from an ex group member that they have a habit of doing this. I don't want to hurt any of their feelings, but at the same time I feel like no matter how hard I try I cannot distance myself from them. I already deleted discord which they talk on, and messages as well. Maybe I am being too avoidant, but I really don't know what to do, I just cannot match their energy. But the thing is, since its only 2 years left should I even bother, half of that friend group is graduating this year and the others are graduating at the same time as me. I feel as though I am stuck in the middle, either cutting them off brutally or waiting the two years. The worse part is, I am still friends with my ex situationship, while there is no bad blood between us, because I'm friends with him I am still friends with that group by default and since they are in half my classes I have no idea what to do. Any tips or advice would be really welcome!

Ellaminowpea Strategies for when overwhelmed
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Does anyone know ways to calm myself down when I'm feeling irritable or how to make myself feel less sad for no reason? I'm a teen, and I know that being emotional and irritable are normal, but sometimes these feelings overwhelm me, and that makes th... View more

Does anyone know ways to calm myself down when I'm feeling irritable or how to make myself feel less sad for no reason? I'm a teen, and I know that being emotional and irritable are normal, but sometimes these feelings overwhelm me, and that makes the feelings ten times worse. Is there anything I can do to calm down?

crazy_empanada I really hate myself
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Hi,I just needed to tell anyone that i really hate myself so much. I eat right (don't eat sugar/processed foods, eat fruit,veggies,protein, etc.) but have never lost any weight, I'm just ugly in general, my personality is horrible and I pretty much j... View more

Hi,I just needed to tell anyone that i really hate myself so much. I eat right (don't eat sugar/processed foods, eat fruit,veggies,protein, etc.) but have never lost any weight, I'm just ugly in general, my personality is horrible and I pretty much just hate myself, both how i look and act.I also don't have any close friends and am not allowed to see the school counsellor (my parents don't 'believe' in mental health issues), but i think i ended up with depression. I end up alone at school a bunch, my parents pretty much don't notice me until i do something wrong, and just really don't like my life.Sorry to rant, just needed to say this.

MacJS I hate school, I'm writing this because I feel like I can't talk to anyone anymore
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I never thought I would want to drop out of school, and I'm only 14. School is getting harder and harder and I'm not talking about the work, I'm naturally smart and I'm a really good student. I'm just so sick of school, it makes me wanna die everyday... View more

I never thought I would want to drop out of school, and I'm only 14. School is getting harder and harder and I'm not talking about the work, I'm naturally smart and I'm a really good student. I'm just so sick of school, it makes me wanna die everyday. I feel like I'm wasting my youth by going to school until I turn 18, I hate my teachers and I hate everybody. I used to LOVE school, I use to be excited to go to school everyday until last year, I don't really know why I think and act like this now. I guess I've lost movtivation and don't know what I'm doing anymore, I also think I'm not really allowed to think like this since I'm only 14. I don't know what I wanna do with my life either or what direction I wanna go. I want to do certain things but my insecurity makes me feel like I won't be good enough. I feel like my friends hate me and I think I got a real problem going on and I'm not 100% sure on what to do about it. I'm starting to become real rude to my teachers and authorities and not paying attention in class anymore, I feel like if I continue doing this I'm ultimately gonna turn out to be a lazy person with no life or job when I'm older. I always feel tired and agitated, I'm unorganised and I just want to disappear, not die but disappear. Thanks for reading, I would love to hear other people's opinions and tips on what to do

Guest_28109914 Isolated
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The only person who ever cared about me is my mum. She has just been diagnosed with dementia. I’m devastated. I’m worried about what will happen to her. I’m also worried about me. No one else loves me.

The only person who ever cared about me is my mum. She has just been diagnosed with dementia. I’m devastated. I’m worried about what will happen to her. I’m also worried about me. No one else loves me.

ElderberryHamster Lack of motivation in life, inability to look after myself, clean, eat, wash belongings
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Hi All! I am new here and had a search through the forum but could not find what I was looking for, so apologies if I am repeating a topic covered. I have been diagnosed with both anxiety and depression previously, and although I am feeling much bett... View more

Hi All! I am new here and had a search through the forum but could not find what I was looking for, so apologies if I am repeating a topic covered. I have been diagnosed with both anxiety and depression previously, and although I am feeling much better now than a few years ago and have a will to live and succeed, I find it difficult to look after myself. I live out of home and can keep a job (I'm in my mid twenties) but I just can't get myself organised. I was just wondering if other people found it hard to look after themselves. I always try and get all excited and start up a new regime of how I am going to eat well and be productive but it never seems to happen. I regularly skip meals because I don't have the energy to cook, or the motivation. I go on shopping sprees and buy the food and then just end up throwing it out because it goes bad. I often just et snacks because I don't have to prepare anything. I also smoke heavily so that I stop feeling hungry, because that is easier than feeding myself. I can't see the floor of my room or any surfaces. I just don't seem to be able to clean up after myself and then I find my room causes me anxiety and makes me upset. I can only keep the other areas of my house clean because I don't want to annoy my housemate. I don't seem to be able to do it for myself. I avoid having people over because I find my room so embarrassing (the same thing happens in my car and handbag). My room fills up with rubbish and dirty dishes. I go on a cleaning spree sometimes, but the next day I am back to dumping things on the floor! I just seem to procrastinate everything in my life. I can have a whole week off and just spend it sleeping in till the afternoon or watching TV all day. I don't go to the shops until they are almost shut just because it takes me that long to get out of the house. I can make it to work on time, but I cannot time manage for myself. Only when someone else makes me. I am always late to things (significantly) and this frustrates everyone (including myself!). I want to change, but all these things in my life just seem too hard. I can have washing build up for months! I just don't know why I have no motivation and can't seem to get any. I'm not sure if this is linked to my history of anxiety and depression or if it is something else. I was wondering if anyone had similar symptoms and if they had found a way to overcome them. Thank you for your help.