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romantic_thi3f Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies
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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are i... View more

Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindfu... View more

The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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Idek I feel ugly
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I don't really know exactly what to say but that I really feel extremely unattractive. I know this sounds dumb, but lately I've been feeling down and just before I decided to write this thread, I got this very familiar feeling of worthlessness. Just ... View more

I don't really know exactly what to say but that I really feel extremely unattractive. I know this sounds dumb, but lately I've been feeling down and just before I decided to write this thread, I got this very familiar feeling of worthlessness. Just for some reason I just began feeling really ugly, I kept on focusing on all my flaws and lately I've just been hating the way I look lately. I look around at the people around me and everyone looks normal, then there's me. I just hate how insecure I am and I hate thinking I'm ugly. But at the same time, I just can't help it.

HDOG_Z Crush at School
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Hello, I like this girl in one of my classes and I Started getting mood swings and also started getting sad about it.According to some of my friends she looks at me when we are walking around at recess and also my friends like to shout my name Infron... View more

Hello, I like this girl in one of my classes and I Started getting mood swings and also started getting sad about it.According to some of my friends she looks at me when we are walking around at recess and also my friends like to shout my name Infront of her when she walks by and she looks every time. I started Talking to her and she was a nice person, But then she started talking to other boys in the class and it devasted me and I stopped talking to her. So now i get mood swings and I cannot get over her. What should i do?

suseone Social Media and using it for better MH not worse
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Hi This is my first time posting and thought this would be a great forum to hear from either parents/carers or younger people around how social media is impacting them? I have two teenage daughters but as a parent we know social media is here to stay... View more

Hi This is my first time posting and thought this would be a great forum to hear from either parents/carers or younger people around how social media is impacting them? I have two teenage daughters but as a parent we know social media is here to stay and will only become more prevalent and a bigger part of their lives. So what I am wondering, is how can we use these platforms to help our kids in their mental health wellness rather than try and remove all together and is that even possible? Love to hear other peoples thoughts and challenges?

Guest_38286624 Idk how to feel anymore
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I’ve had mental issues for a while now Uhm struggled with self harm and I would like to go to a mental hospital but idk how to tell my parents and I can’t check my self in I don’t think. I’m addicted to certain stuff and my dads an alcoholic and my m... View more

I’ve had mental issues for a while now Uhm struggled with self harm and I would like to go to a mental hospital but idk how to tell my parents and I can’t check my self in I don’t think. I’m addicted to certain stuff and my dads an alcoholic and my mums never home we don’t get along well Uhm I really hate feeling the way I do I’m just so tired and drained and all I want to do is sleep and cry but I can’t cause of school I hate my home I hate school I hate all of it and I’m so so tired of feeling like this I just want it to stop.

Guest_93308117 Mental health in year 12 VCE
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Hey everyone, I am currently in year 12 completing VCE. Recently I have been diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder and panic disorder. I have always been anxious as a kid but it has gotten so much worse this year. In the beginning of term 1, I ... View more

Hey everyone, I am currently in year 12 completing VCE. Recently I have been diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder and panic disorder. I have always been anxious as a kid but it has gotten so much worse this year. In the beginning of term 1, I was having panic attacks on the way to school, feeling like I couldn't breathe and feeling sick, of course I couldn't make it to class. I never thought year 12 would really affect my mental health as I want this last year of school for me to be fun and enjoyable with my friends. I got prescribed an SSRI and it made me sick alongside with other side effects (I think I started too high on a dosage), I haven't gone back to any other medications since apart from a short term medication to relieve anxiety. I do speak to a psychologist and school counsellor but I am still feeling like this, especially on Mondays. Thank you

Nymphadora Its so hard
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Does any one else feel like, its so hard to be happy? Like everyday is such an effort to get up and ready and put on a smile and do the day. It seems so easy for everyone around me. I'm so exhausted from being sad, and anxious all the time

Does any one else feel like, its so hard to be happy? Like everyday is such an effort to get up and ready and put on a smile and do the day. It seems so easy for everyone around me. I'm so exhausted from being sad, and anxious all the time

Chaceissad Step mum trouble
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I use to be close with my dad but he never pays attention to me because my step mum doesn't let him and she is very controlling of him and she always has to get me in trouble it's like she gets hot from it as I don't know what to do I feel so angry View more

I use to be close with my dad but he never pays attention to me because my step mum doesn't let him and she is very controlling of him and she always has to get me in trouble it's like she gets hot from it as I don't know what to do I feel so angry

Lui can't cope with des
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centrelink have said they will no longer accept med certs, yet my daughter is mentally incapable of seeing dsps I'm not sure what we're supposed to do. She'll be homeless at this rate

centrelink have said they will no longer accept med certs, yet my daughter is mentally incapable of seeing dsps I'm not sure what we're supposed to do. She'll be homeless at this rate

MysteryManGuy Year 12 has been a miserable experience.
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The title is honestly an understatement. I've been struggling with mental health issues for a long time (nothing to the point of a disorder, but nonetheless) and year 12 has been such a horrible period so far. First of all, I just wanna point out tha... View more

The title is honestly an understatement. I've been struggling with mental health issues for a long time (nothing to the point of a disorder, but nonetheless) and year 12 has been such a horrible period so far. First of all, I just wanna point out that I've always hated school, especially mine. I've hated the people here for so long, I hate the culture in the students and the teachers (particularly the more powerful teachers). My experience in school over the past 6-8 years has been one of a 'burned out gifted kid', which in a nutshell is just a kid who was academically successful but fell off as they got older, and becoming unmotivated, irresponsible and depressed as a result. I thought at least this year would be different and I'd have a fresh start and new perspective. What came out of it in the end? I barely study. I wanted to study daily for at least a few hours, but I don't even study every day. My school is a shitty public school too, so there's no way in hell I'm gonna do well in this rate. My SAC scores aren't good. I'm barely passing my Maths and Chemistry SACs, the subjects I wanted to well in the most, and I've lagged behind others so much, which is bad considering I'm doing VCE. There goes my rankings, I guess. I don't know how I can ever go on like this. There's such high expectations set for me mainly because of my past, and mainly from myself and my family. I always feel like I'm never good enough. I always feel like I'm screwing up everything. I always feel like I'm letting people down. My goal was to get at least an ATAR of 82 for my course, but I've been such a disaster that it seems impossible. My future prospects seem pointless now. I don't even feel the same ambition I've felt in the past. I don't know what I want anymore. All I'm ever doing is watching myself fall apart and it's killing me. Nothing has improved. Aside from my "academics," my life outside of schoolwork is nothing short of pathetic. In school, I barely have any meaningful friendships, I feel like a burden to others all of the fucking time and I socialise like I've never spoken to people in my life. I come across as a loser to others and it's becoming more obvious to me that they see me in the same light as time passes. It's been , and been so for who knows how long. I don't have a job. I don't have any other things going on for me. I don't really know what else to say. I have so many thoughts that I can't put into words in relation to this. I just want things to change.

splinter I feel lonlier everyday and I don't know what to do
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Hello, I'm in year 12 and have been realy struggling lately trying to find people that care about me. I feel as if I am just there for convenience and I truly believe no one loves me like I love everyone. I always listen to peoples problems, I always... View more

Hello, I'm in year 12 and have been realy struggling lately trying to find people that care about me. I feel as if I am just there for convenience and I truly believe no one loves me like I love everyone. I always listen to peoples problems, I always stick by peoples side even if they don't deserve it and yet I feel I am ignored. I just want unconditional love and support. I feel I am too demanding of a person and maybe everyones just tired of me. Because of this, most days I struggle with getting out of bed. I've stopped talking to people and I've noticed my grades starting to drop. I'm just waiting for the day I find my people, but I really hope that day comes quick. ❤