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I dont know who i am anymore
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Lately i just feel like i am getting dragged along not doing anything useful. The thing is i am pretty much useless, my anxiety is bad i cant even do what most other people can do my age and now i just have no motivation to learn because i know i will stuff it up or not go anywhere with it. I dont have a job, i dont study anymore and now that i am living with my nan its like i feel trapped even though i was in a worse position at home with my dad smoking weed with most of my inheritance money. I don't know what i am good at, liking something is not enough anymore because i know that i will be alone forever.
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Hi Unicorndogge,
working out relationships at work can be hard. In one of my jobs a person I am talking to may switch roles (friend / co worker / "other") very quickly and it hard for me to work out. So part of all this is my trying to figure out which role they are using and how to answer their questions, which can sometimes lead to me saying the wrong thing and then I feel bad. This easily happens when people changes professions or vocations.
Also being friends when one person is a manager and other person is not can create problems - but you probably knew that already?
Regarding that turtle... perhaps the drawing could morph into something else... the turtle swimming somewhere or something like that.
Easy to say not to beat yourself up. Things like talking to people take practice - speaking for myself here and that takes time. I can also see some positives in some of your other posts. Like going back to work after you saw some people from your school and perhaps didnt want to. You have strengths and talents you might not notice yet.
Until next time. Tim
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Hi mblover
No i cant be his friend only work friends as he said. I am just angry because he asked me to draw him a turtle and that isnt very professional is it? Then he goes on to say i not supposed to talk to any of the crew on social media but he is the one who added me on instagram. So i thought he wanted to be friends but instead this all mislead me.
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Hi smallwolf
What i dont get about this job is everyone talks to everyone and its not like i work in a office its McDonalds for crying out loud. I have worked there four days and so far i wouldn't say its a very professional job compared to dog grooming which is where i did work experience at. Its going to hard for as everyone talks to you like they want to be friends but with me your either friends or your not, there is no inbetween. I did tell the job agency i wouldnt be suited to a job like this but they didnt listen to me. So now i am stuck in a job where i have to be fake friends with everyone.
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Hi again,
Fake friends... Can I ask what sort of job you were looking for? But it does suck when you say something to anyone and they appear to the not listen to anything you have said. This sometimes happens to me in a work environment. Perhaps this is a stepping stone to that job. I am looking at changing careers and to get to where I want I may have to do something else.
I am also very good (sarcasm) when it comes to black and white thinking. For me it right or wrong, good or bad, 1 or 0, nothing in between. So when I saw your post about being a friend or not a friend or not I was wondering.... do you think this might apply to you?
Let's say in the spectrum between not a friend and friend there can be a number of other types of relationships (in no particular order) -
- acquaintance
- only at work friend
- work buddy (someone you work with more than others)
In each case you know some things about the other person and will talk at work, or lunch etc, but there is little relationship out of work. That does not mean a friendship cannot develop. It's a bit like a walk over a bridge. To go from not being a friend to a friend (or better) you might a work buddy first or ??? Similarly there can be people at work you might not want to associate with after work.
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Dear Unicoerdogge...
I am sorry that your alone on your birthday...
I want to wish you a Happy Birthday and hope your doing okay....
It is my birthday next week...like you I will be alone...It really makes our special day a sadder day then most other days we try to manage..Please Dear Unicorndogge Talk here if you feel up to it...We are here for you their in spirit....and here for you with our care....
Sending you some birthday hugs 💚🦋🌹..with Kind wishes for you..
Grandy..
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