I cant talk to my parents about it

[Jdizzle7]

I cannot talk to anyone about my problems, even my parents and it sucks. I havent been diagnosed with anything because ive been too afraid to say anything about what im feeling but Ive been in a sense of emptiness, and loneliness, for around 3 years now, when I started highschool, making me think I have depression and or anxiety. 

[Croix]

Dear Jdizzle7~

I'd like to welcome you here to the Forum and and have read your other post today, "I struggle with love" which I think have things in common. 

I guess the first thing to say is that you are struggling on your own to deal with matters that really do need support. There are many young people who have great difficulties talking to others, are shy and retiring, sometimes particularly with the opposite sex

While I'm not saying you have the same thing as me I am reminded I too had feelings of emptiness and loneliness -plus worries about me, how I appeared to others and how to talk with people. It was after I'd talked to my GP, then to a psychologist I was diagnosed and treated for repression and anxiety . I improved a surprising amout and life became enjoyable.

Maybe you have one or more of these , they are diseases after all, nothing to do with you or your nature or character and it is worth finding out if that is what you are dealing with. Beyondblue has a quick self-test for these (K10) . It is important to realise this is a very rough indicator and not a diagnosis. Even so showing you scores to your doctor might be a help

Not every one of the very many young people who has shyness and is retiring has these illnesses, It may of course simply be difficulties talking with others and maybe some counseling might be appropriate.

After all you have been invited out by the girl you have a crush on -what could be better? It is your fears of what you might do -or not do - that stop you from feeling glad

So what to do? I know you have difficulties talking about how you feel to your parents, however do you think they would not understand and be unsympathetic? Would they go crook or simply dismiss your concerns?

If so do you have a school councilor or favorite teacher you might talk with. It is being alone that makes it worse.

If none of these is possible I"d suggest contacting the Kids Help Line. (1800 55 1800) I'd also suggest you use the phone, not the web-chat. The phone might seem a harder thing to do but pays off in less wait itme (there will probably be some) and more time talking to the councilor.

If you would like to come back and talk some more that would be great

Croix

[Mudcakes]

I feel you. I saw your other post. 
she asked you, that’s a big deal for a girl to be the one to ask and out of anyone she chose you. Maybe you could get to know her more and hang out and then you can feel comfortable on the night. And even if you do hang with your other friend a bit more, if she knows its not a personal thing and its anxiety driven it wont feel as bad. 

[M-ia_123]

Hey!

so I’ve been feeling the same way recently (for about a year.) and I’ve managed to tell my mum about a week ago by leaving a note somewhere I know she would find soon and then going on a walk. I told her that I was feeling really upset and that I don’t really want to talk about it but I would like to get diagnosed and maybe a therapist, at the bottom I told her to text me because I find it easier that way. I havent told anyone else and she’s pretty cool with it, we just quietly go about our day and now she understands that sometimes I can’t do things or can’t talk about things and it really helped.

[Croix]

Dear M-ia_123 (with a wave to Jdizzle7)~

I read your solution to a very common problem, I also read your other post,  and thought this was an excellent way to go about solving the matter. Feeling as you have been for so long you realized you need assistance - and while parents can be very loving and do their best it does not mean they are as effective as a trained person might be - and you do deserve a better life.

I also think of texting was a really good way of communicating, a lot less pressure on both of you in many ways.

If you would like to talk more and say how you went that would be great

Croix