How to deal with long lasting home sickness?

[WheresTheMarmite]

I’m new to this site and this is my first post so I really hope I’m posting this in the right place.

I moved over seas about nine years ago after a huge natural disaster. I felt fine about moving at first since I’d be free from what happened, but now after a few years I’ve started feeling really upset about it and I don’t know if it’s normal to feel sad about it nearly every day or two.

I probably cant ever go back to that country due to passport issues and financial reasons and I just feel hopeless so I’m giving up on the idea because I’ve been told it’s childish and that I need to get over it. I just don’t know how to stop feeling so upset about it when I’ve been feeling like this for years.

could someone please offer some advice?

[Summer Rose]

Hi WheresTheMarmite

Welcome to the bb forum and thank you for sharing your story.

I can understand how you feel, as I have experienced intense homesickness myself. I came to Australia some 30 years ago to marry the love of my life, yet despite the happiness, I still had some real difficulties at times. Particularly when mothering young children.

It's never easy to leave your home country, even if it was for a very good reason. And home sickness is gut-wrenching stuff. I am so sorry that you now find yourself struggling with this issue.

What helped me to get through was to decide that I couldn't live my life waking up everyday wishing I was somewhere else. And since there was no way to move home, I decided to make it work. It was either that, or be miserable. Life is too short to waste time.

I had to live my best life, which meant focussing on what I had and learning not to worry about what I didn't have.

It's easier said than done, but it can be done.

Kind thoughts to you