Height related depression and anxiety

[Akhil]

Hey everyone,

This is my first time reaching out, I revisited this thought of making/not making an account multiple times.

A little about me- I’m a 25 year old male who’s living in Melbourne. In terms of my work life, I’m successful and ahead of my peers my own age.

BUT nothing seems to make me happy because I have started to hate myself for being a short guy. In a country like Australia, I feel like I am devastatingly short. My height is 5’5. No matter what I achieve, I feel like I’m being undone because of how short I am. I have lost all my confidence. It’s come to a point where I’ve developed a crippling mentality, I feel each person on the road is judging me for being too short. Even at work, I go into random bursts of dreaming, dreams where I was taller & would have the confidence to talk to people.

What hurts me even more is that I’ve lost my ability to even make friends for the same reason. As of today, I find myself unhappy and living a robotic life where I get up, go to work, literally rush back from work, change my clothes and stay in bed till next morning.
This has been going on for 6 months now & I have no clue what to do. I’ve been an extrovert all my life & just the lack of having friends now has pushed me in a really dark place.

I literally don’t know who or what I’m ranting to and how this works but it does feel a little better to put it out in the universe. 🙂

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

I'm sorry you feel that way. It must be hard to tolerate. It is however, no different to being obese or being bald or having a disfigurement. I'm overweight, always have been. I'm 63yo and about 3 years ago I went on a diet, lost 15 kg and felt great- since then piled it all back on again. So a few months ago I decided to accept that this is how I am, if I can eat healthy and exercise a little that is good enough. I no longer dream of the day I'll be slim.

The reason for this change of attitude is simple- I am being realistic. The same realism for you would be to say to yourself- nothing I can ever do will change the height I am. So, I will accept how I am and move on regardless.

To do this needs some help though. I found it in motivation. How? Well you can introduce some activities in your life- eg attend motivation lectures, read books or on the www on how to motivate yourself and study positive thinking methods.

I've written a few things to do with this topic that will get you started. Simply google these and read the first post.

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TonyWK